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I have an 8mo dcg. She either hates or is scared of my dh. Dh is hardly ever here, as he works a lot of overtime. Last time he got home early, she took one look at him and started screaming. Today, dh has off and again, she took one look at him and started screaming. And today I have to deal with it all day long. What do I do? Except listening to her scream all day?
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When I was little, I was very shy around men and would steer clear of them. I always hated it when my daycare lady's husband was around. How long has this little one been with you? It sounds like she just doesn't know your DH and maybe since he's home it might be a good chance to get to know him!
My dck's were very shy (not scared, mind you, but shy) around my DH. But once they saw how completely silly he is, they warmed up to him pretty quickly.
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not sure how to help if she is terrified of him.
But my dh had same issue with dcg. She loves him to death now. But he bribed her with smarties
, and he'd play with her for a bit when he gave her a treat. And she then started to like him. Bad I know, but it worked.
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Some babies just don't like certain people. Men, tall people, beards, etc. I wouldn't worry about it.Comment
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Ok this might not be the right way to handle this situation but we had a similar child a few years ago who did the same thing when my DH came into daycare for lunch. She freaked the minute she laid eyes on him....my DH is a kid person and 99% of them flock to him like he is Santa...so this was a new situation for us, but what we did was he started giving her special things like 1 or 2 M&M's or 1 or 2 gummy bears to peak her interest in him.....gradually over time she began to warm up to him because she realized he was a great guy and loved playing with all the kids.....he slowly weaned her off the "special treats" he brought and she absolutely LOVES him now.
So like I said, bribing her might not be the correct or right way to handle it but I didn't have any other ideas as to what to do so we looked at it like taming say a squirrel or chipmunk* and that building trust was the first step. *(I didn't want to say wild animal) So this may be the absolutely wrong way to do it but it worked for us and that's all I can offer.Comment
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My nephew had a serious dislike for my DH for a long, long time--if DH got too close to nephew or nephew saw DH looking at him, he would scream bloody murder. No idea why...all the other nieces and nephews love/d DH! Eventually he grew out of it. I think some kids just have random issues with some random people.Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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Well, after nap she started screaming again, and continued even after I moved her so she couldn't even see him. Finally I picked her up and brought her to him and let him play with her and she eventually calmed down. When they had played for a few minutes, and she was calm, I set her down on the floor with toys. My dh walked out of the room and she started screaming again. No idea why she was fine for a few and then cried when he left. I know she wasn't that attached to him! LOL
I hate to say it, but I think I'm really glad dh works a lot of overtime and is not usually here during the day. I think I'd be ripping my hair out if this was an everyday/all day occurrence!!
4 and 1/2 more hours!!! And then the weekend!
I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.
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