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  • Hunni Bee
    False Sense Of Authority
    • Feb 2011
    • 2397

    No I Didn't!!!

    Hi guys.

    I'm working with this current group of kiddos to work conflicts out on their own, rather than coming to tell me so much. They're doing pretty good and even go get the talking stick on their own.

    I have one 5yo, however, who just insists over and over "I didn't do/say that". Even if I saw him or have evidence he did. He's not in trouble about these things, just in order to take out a problem you have to admit you did it . I could show him a video of himself doing it and he'd still say he didn't.

    Any suggestions on how to get him past this? He'll go to tears yelling that he didn't do it when he knows he did. He's very verbal and high cognitive functioning so there's no issue of him not understanding, and he understands truth from lie. I just hate handing out a consequence when he could have just talked it out.
  • Faith is a gift too
    Daycare.com Member
    • Feb 2020
    • 16

    #2
    Is he a perfectionist? Is it hard for him to admit to his mistakes, or to say sorry to his friends? Sometimes talking about how we all make mistakes and what the right thing is to do when we make them helps. Reinforcing it by asking them afterwards how it made their friend feel and/or how it made them feel to do the right thing seems to help.

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    • Cat Herder
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Dec 2010
      • 13744

      #3
      Check out Julia Cook books.

      Lying Up a Storm or But It's Not My Fault!.

      There are free themes based on her books online as well.

      - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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      • Hunni Bee
        False Sense Of Authority
        • Feb 2011
        • 2397

        #4
        Originally posted by Faith is a gift too
        Is he a perfectionist? Is it hard for him to admit to his mistakes, or to say sorry to his friends? Sometimes talking about how we all make mistakes and what the right thing is to do when we make them helps. Reinforcing it by asking them afterwards how it made their friend feel and/or how it made them feel to do the right thing seems to help.
        That sounds like him. Thank you!

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        • Unregistered

          #5
          My almost 7 year old does this sometimes. For whatever reason they think they can still get away with it.

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