Tell Me if I'm Being Unreasonable

[Ariana]

After taking a "mostly" potty trained 21 month old dcb, I realized that the whole "if you have to remind they aren't really potty trained" is pretty dang true. Several pee pee accidents a week, sometimes several per day, and even poop ones occasionally! (And one poop during naptime about once per week. -But, he wears a diaper at nap so no biggie.)
He never tells me he needs to go potty. I have to remind. He has his good days about 50 percent of the time with zero accidents. But I just dont consider him potty trained. He STILL isnt at 2.5! And he still doesnt ask to go even though he is so verbal now.

With my daughter I trained her in literally one or two days - she had one accident the second day and since then - she is trained. I didn't start her until she was 34 months.

With my small daycare I really dont mind catering to parents a bit. But if I had any more kids than five....no way.
And, personally, I wouldnt have the patience for it as a parent either! Soo many accidents! I tried training my daughter around 2.5 and she had a couple accidents and just didnt get it and I was like "forget this!"
But I just had a feeling at almost 3 she was definitely ready -and she was.

I have a 2.5 yr old DCG and her parents did elimination communication with her from birth. When she started with me she was massively constipated and had blood in her stool. She would hold her poop constantly and at some points I felt so bad for her that I would put her on the toilet to eliminate which worked. Then of course way too early potty training at 18 months. Kid still does not go to the toilet unless prompted. Every nap she SOAKS her pullup because she is holding her pee all day if I don’t tell her to go. She is obsessed with watching the other kids get their diapers changed, especially looking at poop. All of this to say early toilet training is NOT healthy! This child will likely have irreparable damage to her bladder and colon from holding.

Thankfully with their second kid I think they have learned that their methods are not good. No elimination communication at all, no constipation either.

[Meeko]

"100% potty trained at home" means the child gets reminded all day long...goes....and there are therefore no wet pants.

But the child isn't potty trained. The child is taking no responsibility at all. It has learned to rely on a reminder from an adult.

No reminder = wet pants. A child is not trained until they are always going on their own with no reminders.

[Unregistered]

so, it just means that your facility is not participating in kids' potty training.

Think about this perspective:
Are you saying that you can get a drivers license even though you need constant reminders on how to do it?

You have to be able to do it on your own or you're not the one doing it.

[Unregistered]

Think about this perspective:
Are you saying that you can get a drivers license even though you need constant reminders on how to do it?

You have to be able to do it on your own or you're not the one doing it.

yes, you are right, an inspector doesn't teach you to drive. He just checks can you do it or not. If you can, the inspector allows you to drive alone. It is as an example of a daycare, that isn't participating to potty training but only checking from time to time is a kid potty trained or not.
An instructor teaches you how to drive. It is as an example of a daycare, that is participating to potty training from the start of the process to the end.