Honestly Parents Drive Me Nuts

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  • MamaG2903
    Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2013
    • 35

    #16
    YEP. This IS my generation and I'm just astounded at the fear of TODDLERS and shear laziness. A DCM I just terminated is older than me and every day it was "well Paige wouldn't let me put on her shoes/do her hair/leave the house so I would be ontime on the day you're opening 15 minutes early just for me🙄". The best part is, this woman is a high school teacher!! I don't understand the fear of disciplining children, I really don't.

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    • Ariana
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Jun 2011
      • 8969

      #17
      You all gotta watch this ::

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      • springv
        Daycare.com Member
        • Sep 2017
        • 468

        #18
        We have a little boy who is sweet as pie sometimes but his mom NEVER makes him mind at all. One night in particular she dame in to get him and he heads out the door and never stops.

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        • Josiegirl
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jun 2013
          • 10834

          #19
          Ugh my almost 2 yo dcb consistently tries to mow down the dcks when playing with trucks or strollers or anything he can push. Yesterday when dcm came to pick him up he had the stroller and repeatedly smashed it into her feet. I just wanted to grab it away from him and I really should have but feel when the parents are here, it's their job to discipline. After about 10x she said something so gently and he just gave her a smile. I spend all day protecting the others from this very thing.

          Just 2 more days. 2 more days.

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          • AmyKidsCo
            Daycare.com Member
            • Mar 2013
            • 3786

            #20
            YES!!!

            I need an article: When you give in because your kid keeps asking you're teaching him that "no" really means "keep asking enough times and I'll give in."

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            • e.j.
              Daycare.com Member
              • Dec 2010
              • 3738

              #21
              Originally posted by Josiegirl
              I just wanted to grab it away from him and I really should have but feel when the parents are here, it's their job to discipline.
              I feel the same way but I know there are parents who will never step up to actually do it. In my handbook, I let parents know that when they're at my house, I expect them to discipline their child if the child is misbehaving but if they don't, they'd better be prepared to back me up when I have to do it for them.

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              • sharlan
                Daycare.com Member
                • May 2011
                • 6067

                #22
                Yep, one reason I'm out of this business.

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                • Josiegirl
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Jun 2013
                  • 10834

                  #23
                  Originally posted by sharlan
                  Yep, one reason I'm out of this business.
                  I hope the stress has lifted for you and you're enjoying your days as much as possible!

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                  • trix23
                    New Daycare.com Member
                    • Apr 2014
                    • 525

                    #24
                    I think it's cause they partially don't know what to say and partially they want to be their child's friend and not have to tell them no. They ask versus make statements. Only reason I'm good at what I do is because I've read a TON of books on this and am good at what I do.

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                    • TwinMama
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Nov 2014
                      • 343

                      #25
                      Originally posted by lovemykidstoo
                      I beg of the parents of this generation. Tell your child no just once in awhile. I have 1 mom in particular. I mean they're all bad, but this one in particular constantly tells me how he won't lay still for diaper changes, won't keep his clothes on, won't put his shoes or coat on etc. I have none of those problems with him, none! She comes in today with a pair of shoes on him and another pair in her hand (ones I dislike). I think great a new pair!! Oh no, she takes the ones off his feet and says she's taking those home, those are his new dress shoes. They're little tennis shoes with velcro. I said why did you put them on him then? Oh it was easier than the fit he was throwing because he wanted to wear them. Then she tells me how he's sleeping with all of his books now because it's "easier" than fighting with him. He's 22 months old. I said ya better get a handle on it because when he's 3, you're going to be in big trouble. Every single thing he wants to do, he does it because he squaks at her and she just give it to him. He's typically an angel here, but yesterday he grabbed another little girl by the shirt and pushed her out of the playhouse. He got in huge trouble with me for that. This is what happens when you don't discipline your kid! How to get through to these people that just because they cry, you cannot give in to them!
                      I have parents like this. They reason with them instead of just say no. They've also done the two pairs of shoes and the "he wouldn't put his clothes on for the day so we came in jammies".

                      It's annoying! I went to their birthday party and when I got there they were playing gymnastics on their living room furniture. Mom thinks she's being super cool by doing that.

                      They tell me how the kids pitched fits and are sassy to them. They say that they remind the kids that they don't think they look like friendly people when they talk back. 🙄 I try not to laugh.

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                      • TwinMama
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Nov 2014
                        • 343

                        #26
                        Originally posted by Josiegirl
                        Ugh my almost 2 yo dcb consistently tries to mow down the dcks when playing with trucks or strollers or anything he can push. Yesterday when dcm came to pick him up he had the stroller and repeatedly smashed it into her feet. I just wanted to grab it away from him and I really should have but feel when the parents are here, it's their job to discipline. After about 10x she said something so gently and he just gave her a smile. I spend all day protecting the others from this very thing.

                        Just 2 more days. 2 more days.
                        I have actually put kids on timeout while parents are standing there. They're still in my house. Parent's feel embarrassed and they usually discipline the next time so they don't have to sit there again.

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                        • TwinMama
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Nov 2014
                          • 343

                          #27
                          Originally posted by Blackcat31
                          YES!!!! First thing we learned in ECE 101 was that having boundaries and rules helps a child feel secure and safe because they are able to predict what happens next.

                          Every time a parent says to me "Wow, they are so good for you" or some comment in reference to how well behaved the kids are for me...I always respond with "Yes they are and it's because I am not afraid to set boundaries and use the word no."
                          This is the best response!!! I hear this a lot, but I never know what to say!

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                          • lovemykidstoo
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Aug 2012
                            • 4740

                            #28
                            Originally posted by TwinMama
                            I have parents like this. They reason with them instead of just say no. They've also done the two pairs of shoes and the "he wouldn't put his clothes on for the day so we came in jammies".

                            It's annoying! I went to their birthday party and when I got there they were playing gymnastics on their living room furniture. Mom thinks she's being super cool by doing that.

                            They tell me how the kids pitched fits and are sassy to them. They say that they remind the kids that they don't think they look like friendly people when they talk back. 🙄 I try not to laugh.
                            The 22 month old dcb had a toy yesterday at pickup as mom picked him up He "wouldn't" give it to her after so many times her saying, go put it away johnny , go put it away johnny, give it to Miss Sheri, give it to Miss Sheri over and over. Then she said well we will remember to bring it back tomorrow. I'm like, yea NO!

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                            • Josiegirl
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jun 2013
                              • 10834

                              #29
                              Originally posted by lovemykidstoo
                              The 22 month old dcb had a toy yesterday at pickup as mom picked him up He "wouldn't" give it to her after so many times her saying, go put it away johnny , go put it away johnny, give it to Miss Sheri, give it to Miss Sheri over and over. Then she said well we will remember to bring it back tomorrow. I'm like, yea NO!
                              That happened here too, so many times.
                              I think all the parent guide books out there advise to pick your battles. Trouble is parents aren't picking ANY battles. They're letting their kids pick them and that isn't good for anyone.

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                              • lovemykidstoo
                                Daycare.com Member
                                • Aug 2012
                                • 4740

                                #30
                                Originally posted by Josiegirl
                                That happened here too, so many times.
                                I think all the parent guide books out there advise to pick your battles. Trouble is parents aren't picking ANY battles. They're letting their kids pick them and that isn't good for anyone.
                                Yea pretty much they pick no battles . Also, it's really not her decision to take one of "my" toys home with her because Jr doesn't want to listen to her. Why she he, she gives in every time. Not to mention the "let them pick their battles" drives me nuts. I knew someone that said that constantly about her son when he was little and now he barely graduated high school, does drugs, works a min wage job with no motive to do anything better. She sure picked her battles with him.

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