If I Hear He Won't Let Me One More Time

[Lovisa]

I also have a parent like this. Kid is 3 years old and wakes up at 2am most nights to have a "dance party" (not even kidding). And he is hungry for a snack at 3am. Mom wakes up for work at 5am so she is tired most days. Kid comes here in same clothes from the previous day because "he wouldn't let me change him". AYKM?!?! Never once has a daycare kiddo told me I couldn't change their clothes. Never once have they refused to nap because they wanted food or a dance party.

[lovemykidstoo]

My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.

Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?

Sorry but that made me chuckle a bit.

I have a cousin that her favorite line when her daughter was little said "pick your battles" OMG if I had a nickel for every time she said that. Well, her darling daughter is now 21 and has been smoking pot, dropped acid a few times, by the time she was 14. How'd that work out for her.

[Meeko]

I also get the "she/he insisted" excuse too. Kids who "insist" on the chocolate cup cake in the car and come in COVERED in it....etc etc. Don't ya just love a two year old who "insists" and puts their 30 year old parents in their place? :confused:

[Mom2Two]

...has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away

Wait... "worn spurs" ??? :: :: ::

[BumbleBee]

I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.

Had she had the blowout earlier in the day I probably would have washed and dried her jammies then put them back on her...but I'm like that "sometimes."

[Aussiedaycare]

I have had a child for three years - SUPER well behaved here not so much for the parents (to the point they tried as hard as they could to get an Autism diagnosis for him to explain his behaviour ).
The number of times I have heard "He wouldn't let me ...", "I couldn't get him to do ...." it makes my head spin.

Then a few days back I'm telling another parent in this parents hearing about how my 19-year-old son (who is no longer under my roof and supports himself fully), has just bought himself a motorbike. The other parent pipes up with, "Oh there is no way I would let my son buy a motorbike. I would be telling him no and he would respect my decision". I honestly thought I was going to pass out as I was laughing so hard. I turned around and said to this parent that they can't get their 3-year-old to respect them but they think their child is magically going to do what they are told when they are 19. ::::

[ColorfulSunburst]

My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.

Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?

Ohhh, don't tell they still wear diapers.

[storybookending]

I have one little girl who is almost five that has been with me for about 2.75 years. I would say in that time she has come in her pjs I would guess 2-3 times because “she wouldn’t get dressed”. Child got here and immediately went to the bathroom when I told her to and put her clothes on. She has been having a rough few weeks lately. Mostly at 4K but spilling over to daycare a bit. Mom told me at pick up on Wednesday that she took her to 4K that morning in her underwear wrapped in a blanket because she “wouldn’t get her clothes on”. Uhm WHAT?!? She’s supposed to go to Kindergarten in the Fall. They better correct this sh*t pronto.

[amberrose3dg]

I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.

Same here. You send a kid in pj's they staying in pj's. You change their clothes the parents think they don't have to anymore.

[e.j.]

Mom told me at pick up on Wednesday that she took her to 4K that morning in her underwear wrapped in a blanket because she “wouldn’t get her clothes on”.

Oh, my! I used to threaten my son with that on a regular basis when he was in grade school. (He was very hard to motivate in the morning.) Thank goodness I never had to follow through with it!

[AmyKidsCo]

Mom told me at pick up on Wednesday that she took her to 4K that morning in her underwear wrapped in a blanket because she “wouldn’t get her clothes on”. Uhm WHAT?!? She’s supposed to go to Kindergarten in the Fall. They better correct this sh*t pronto.

I did that with my daughter once. She was always super-slow moving and I'd had it being late all the time so I sent her in pajamas with her clothes in a bag. She was so embarrassed it never happened again.

I was the same way - in High School I'd do everything before getting dressed because I knew my dad would make me go without makeup or hair done, but not in my PJs. ::

[sharlan]

Understand.

I told dcm that she needed to practice saying the word no the other day.

[Pestle]

I did that with my daughter once. She was always super-slow moving and I'd had it being late all the time so I sent her in pajamas with her clothes in a bag. She was so embarrassed it never happened again.

I was the same way - in High School I'd do everything before getting dressed because I knew my dad would make me go without makeup or hair done, but not in my PJs. ::

Bingo. Old enough to grasp consequences? Don't let them put the consequences on you. We're doing this with DD more often than we want to, but she can cry in embarrassment and change in the school bathroom or DH can be late to work. It's a Love and Logic school so they encourage this approach.

3yo DCK is spending part of our outdoor play time each day sitting miserably in the middle of the pavement barefoot because she wants people to put her shoes on for her, and I'm like, "We're not making everybody else wait for you to do it. We're going outside, and when your shoes are on you may ride a bike or play in the grass." It's a skill she almost has down, but she pretends she can't even start it, so she's not advancing the skill.

[Alwaysgreener]

I had a foster son who would not let me get him dressed, he did not want to go to school that day. He was not going to get dressed, no way. Sat on his bedroom floor with his arms crossed. So I helped him get undressed, which he was cooperative with but not with getting redressed. If I put a arm in, he would take it out, the only thing I got on him that he didn't take off was his underwear. I took his hand, gathered his clothes and headed for the door. Picked him up and carried him outside. Half down our long private driveway, he asked to get dressed. I let him.
A week later he asked to do it again. Lol, I let him carry his socks and shoes to the bus stop. His sister was So very mad at me.
Another time he didn't want to go to school. He wouldn't allow me or the bus driver buckle him in. Once we finally did, He squirmed and squirmed until he got out of the five point harness, he couldn't get out past his shoes so he kicked them off. Honestly I didn't think that he was going to be able to get out. Bus driver said, if he won't stay in his seat he can't ride, so I had to take him off the bus.

Did I mention that he was only three?

[Ariana]

I had a foster son who would not let me get him dressed, he did not want to go to school that day. He was not going to get dressed, no way. Sat on his bedroom floor with his arms crossed. So I helped him get undressed, which he was cooperative with but not with getting redressed. If I put a arm in, he would take it out, the only thing I got on him that he didn't take off was his underwear. I took his hand, gathered his clothes and headed for the door. Picked him up and carried him outside. Half down our long private driveway, he asked to get dressed. I let him.
A week later he asked to do it again. Lol, I let him carry his socks and shoes to the bus stop. His sister was So very mad at me.
Another time he didn't want to go to school. He wouldn't allow me or the bus driver buckle him in. Once we finally did, He squirmed and squirmed until he got out of the five point harness, he couldn't get out past his shoes so he kicked them off. Honestly I didn't think that he was going to be able to get out. Bus driver said, if he won't stay in his seat he can't ride, so I had to take him off the bus.

Did I mention that he was only three?

Wow! what were the consequences for this type of behavior?