Need Pick Up Tips

[melskids]

YEP like I suggested before this CHANGING OF THE GAURD needs its own sticky post that no one can comment on one can just read when needed. It would have multiple clicks.

ALL of her policies need to be in their own sticky. heck, she needs her own category... the "ask Nannyde" forum::

[daymommy]

I really like the movie idea and I think he may respond well to that. He watches LOTS of movies at home and is always whinning about not getting to watch "cartoons" at daycare. I might have to try this next week and see how it goes!

[VTMom]

I really like the movie idea and I think he may respond well to that. He watches LOTS of movies at home and is always whinning about not getting to watch "cartoons" at daycare. I might have to try this next week and see how it goes!

Sounds like we may have the same kid!

[Hunni Bee]

this might not be the answer for everyone...but it works well for me. i give out a small "prize" for good behavior (its never candy or food - stickers, pencils, plastic jewelry) about three days a week. I have a few who like to show out when Mommy arrives, so I never give out the prize until they are about walk out. I usually say something like, "Okay, lets get our coat and hat on, and when we're finished we can take a look at the Treasure Chest". That gives them the cue that misbehavior at this point would not work in their favor

[Unregistered]

How to handle daycare moms

From reading posts, I am not alone in daycare children acting out when a parent arrives. My problem is the parent when this happens. I have a one year old who knows not to go in the kitchen or in the bedrooms, etc. and when the parent gets here - that's all he tries to do: Go in the pantry and start pulling stuff out, climbing on the couch, trying to open doors, etc. I've had to lock the doors I don't want him in and latch the pantry. The other 5 kids don't try to get in those areas and mind the rules even when their parent gets here. The mom calmly says "Come on. Don't you want to go home" "Let's look at this toy" etc. Never tells him no and in the meantime, I am telling him no, removing him from the room and she sees this. Then she sees the other kids trying to copy her kid and then I have to start disciplining them and they wouldn't otherwise act out. It's like she is completely ignoring his behavior and it's all because if she were to put her foot down he would have a complete meltdown and scream his head off. So, she allows him to do this for about 1/2 hour everyday and it's driving me crazy. It's not like she doesn't know I don't want him too and she sees the extra baby proofing I've had to do just because of him. Why is she so ignorant?

[Blackcat31]

From reading posts, I am not alone in daycare children acting out when a parent arrives. My problem is the parent when this happens. I have a one year old who knows not to go in the kitchen or in the bedrooms, etc. and when the parent gets here - that's all he tries to do: Go in the pantry and start pulling stuff out, climbing on the couch, trying to open doors, etc. I've had to lock the doors I don't want him in and latch the pantry. The other 5 kids don't try to get in those areas and mind the rules even when their parent gets here. The mom calmly says "Come on. Don't you want to go home" "Let's look at this toy" etc. Never tells him no and in the meantime, I am telling him no, removing him from the room and she sees this. Then she sees the other kids trying to copy her kid and then I have to start disciplining them and they wouldn't otherwise act out. It's like she is completely ignoring his behavior and it's all because if she were to put her foot down he would have a complete meltdown and scream his head off. So, she allows him to do this for about 1/2 hour everyday and it's driving me crazy. It's not like she doesn't know I don't want him too and she sees the extra baby proofing I've had to do just because of him. Why is she so ignorant?

Mom is ignoring his bad behaviors but you are ignoring mom's bad behavior.

Straight up tell her that her the issue. If she can't manage her child you may have to rethink pick up strategies.

For example, have her text you when she is on her way....dress her child and hand him OUT the door the second she arrives.

Don't allow her in the house to start the normal song and dance that's been happening.

It's YOUR house and YOUR business.

You don't have to allow your clients to behave this way.... you just have to do the hard part and tell them as well as enforce it.

Its just as much your responsibility as it is mom's.

[kitykids3]

From reading posts, I am not alone in daycare children acting out when a parent arrives. My problem is the parent when this happens. I have a one year old who knows not to go in the kitchen or in the bedrooms, etc. and when the parent gets here - that's all he tries to do: Go in the pantry and start pulling stuff out, climbing on the couch, trying to open doors, etc. I've had to lock the doors I don't want him in and latch the pantry. The other 5 kids don't try to get in those areas and mind the rules even when their parent gets here. The mom calmly says "Come on. Don't you want to go home" "Let's look at this toy" etc. Never tells him no and in the meantime, I am telling him no, removing him from the room and she sees this. Then she sees the other kids trying to copy her kid and then I have to start disciplining them and they wouldn't otherwise act out. It's like she is completely ignoring his behavior and it's all because if she were to put her foot down he would have a complete meltdown and scream his head off. So, she allows him to do this for about 1/2 hour everyday and it's driving me crazy. It's not like she doesn't know I don't want him too and she sees the extra baby proofing I've had to do just because of him. Why is she so ignorant?

You are allowing her to be. I find that it happens often for the kids to act up to see 'who's in control.' It had been getting bad for 2 of my kids lately. When it does, I have them ready to go. If they aren't dressed, ready to go and they start acting up, then I have no qualms about being in charge in MY home. I will do my usual routine of counting and warning them of what the consequence will be. Then I follow through with the consequence if need be, even with the parent watching us. I can tell they are uncomfortable with it, but seriously, if you aren't going to keep your kids from hanging on rails, etc. for the umpteenth time, then I WILL. Especially if it regards lack of respect for my home or people.
I have one mom that now just grabs the kid and the coat, etc. and just go if dck starts acting up at pick up and the other mom sounded like me when she dropped off her dck, 'you need to be done with your tantrum,' then the kid hit her head and she said,' that's what happens when you throw fits.' just like I would have said. ::
If parents aren't going to take control of their kid, then I do. If it is a problem, I will spend days/weeks of having their child ready to go out the door so the parent can get the hint, or at least I and the other kids don't have the distraction. I am lucky that I also have a door to my front 'foyer', so I can always say goodbye and shut the door as my hint that we aren't going to be an audience to the child's shenanigans anymore. That's been working with another child I have lately.