Is This Customary For Daycare Teachers?

[hwichlaz]

Thanks for the input. Is it customary or important to do that in front of parents, does it not matter, or is it better to ask children away from the parent in the room?

There is no custom one way or the other. If I suspected abuse I'd ask the child privately. But the morning health child needs to be done in front of the parent. ....otherwise how'd I send a sick child back out the door with the parent? Would you rather get a call when you're halfway to work and then have to turn around?

[hwichlaz]

Yeah, there was no contextualizing why she said that to my son after I asked why.

She's probably doing as she's told, but doesn't know why herself.

[Ariana]

I had a child come into care last week with a large goose egg on her forehead. Her hair is always in her face and luckily I got down to her level to ask her how she was (my routine inspection) and noticed the bruise. Mom was shocked and had no idea how she got this bruise on her face.

I was so glad I noticed because it could have easily been assumed by both me and mom that it happened while in my care. I think this might be why they question the child in front of the parent.

[Blackcat31]

Lots of questions asked and great explanations given but can I ask; why did/does this seem odd to you? Why is it bothering or upsetting you?

Apologies in advance if I used the wrong wording in reference to your thoughts and/or feelings about this but you haven’t really said why it’s an event that caused you to post about it to ask about normalcy.

I’m not trying to be rude, I’m simply curious as to why it seems to make you uncomfortable.

[King&Prince]

There is no custom one way or the other. If I suspected abuse I'd ask the child privately. But the morning health child needs to be done in front of the parent. ....otherwise how'd I send a sick child back out the door with the parent? Would you rather get a call when you're halfway to work and then have to turn around?

Being sick, and having bruises are 2 very different things.

[King&Prince]

Lots of questions asked and great explanations given but can I ask; why did/does this seem odd to you? Why is it bothering or upsetting you?

Apologies in advance if I used the wrong wording in reference to your thoughts and/or feelings about this but you haven’t really said why it’s an event that caused you to post about it to ask about normalcy.

I’m not trying to be rude, I’m simply curious as to why it seems to make you uncomfortable.

Out of the 1000 days between taking my child to daycare since age 1 to 5 and literally volunteering there, I'm now hearing a teacher ask my son if he has bruises. I WANT TO KNOW. That sounds extremely unusual if you are not consistently doing your job in the first place because I know their standard protocol, and if that is what they are suppose to be doing, then they weren't effectively doing their job consistently in the first place. If you lack the empathy and reason to understand why I would feel such a way, I cannot help you, and the conversation between should end.

[King&Prince]

She's probably doing as she's told, but doesn't know why herself.

That's possible. Or maybe she couldn't articulate it.

[Cat Herder]

That's possible. Or maybe she couldn't articulate it.

Or maybe they have just started participating in the NEW QRIS program and simply have not completed all the training. It can take a few years to complete the process. Fewer than 20% of programs in my State are currently participating. It is above and beyond, not the average.

https://qrisguide.acf.hhs.gov/

Are you always this aggressive?

[Cat Herder]

Data collection guide: https://qrisguide.acf.hhs.gov/resour...and-evaluation

You are more than welcome to read it for yourself.

[Blackcat31]

Out of the 1000 days between taking my child to daycare since age 1 to 5 and literally volunteering there, I'm now hearing a teacher ask my son if he has bruises. I WANT TO KNOW. That sounds extremely unusual if you are not consistently doing your job in the first place because I know their standard protocol, and if that is what they are suppose to be doing, then they weren't effectively doing their job consistently in the first place. If you lack the empathy and reason to understand why I would feel such a way, I cannot help you, and the conversation between should end.

Excuse me? :confused:
I am not the one looking for "help" here.

I simply asked why a teacher asking your child if they have any bruises in front of you seems to be so odd that it warrants such a conversation about it but based on your reaction to my question, its beginning to make sense to me.

It's not wise to seek help and assistance from people only to accuse them of lacking empathy when trying to see the big picture.

Hoping you find the answers you are looking for.

Have a good day!

[King&Prince]

Fewer than 20% of programs in my State are currently participating. It is above and beyond, not the average.

https://qrisguide.acf.hhs.gov/

Are you always this aggressive?

Only on the last week of Januarys with an extensive yet digressive daycare thread.

[King&Prince]

With all due respect, she is not an articulate woman at all. She can be loud and boisterous. There's nothing aggressive about me stating truth. And no, it has not been recently implemented. It's just something the Principle said that they did not do consistently, which is not at all above and beyond.

[Ariana]

I think I would also feel a bit odd if suddenly they started asking my kid if they had bruises out of the blue. I would feel like I am being accused of something all of a sudden. I think the OP simply came to get clarification as to why they might ask this outside of being accused of something. I also think the person not being able to give an explanation would also concern me.

In todays day and age it doesn’t take much to wrongfully accuse someone with abuse (parent or provider) so it is wise to inquire I think, rather than jump to conclusions.

[King&Prince]

I think I would also feel a bit odd if suddenly they started asking my kid if they had bruises out of the blue. I would feel like I am being accused of something all of a sudden. I think the OP simply came to get clarification as to why they might ask this outside of being accused of something. I also think the person not being able to give an explanation would also concern me.

In todays day and age it doesn’t take much to wrongfully accuse someone with abuse (parent or provider) so it is wise to inquire I think, rather than jump to conclusions.

Thank you. You seem very smart and wonderful. Let me worship the ground you walk on.:hug:

[hwichlaz]

Being sick, and having bruises are 2 very different things.

no, both are "health"

I'm certain that while she was asking your child those questions she was also looking at your child's eyes, skin tone, looking for signs of illness etc. It's all part of a "health" check.