Breastfeeding/Don't Slam Me lol

[lovemykidstoo]

I know I will just get killed over this, so please try to be kind. I'm truly trying to understand my thoughts.

I have a 16 month old dcg. She was breast fed exclusively (no food, no formula) until about 10 months old. For the past 3 months she has not had any breastmilk here. She's on whole milk and is doing very well. Not sure if it matters but she's about 30 pounds at 16 months old. Mom came today and picked her up. The little girl started banging her fists together which mom says means more in sign language? She does not say any words at all. Sounds, but not words. I said what does she want more of and she said she wants to breastfeed. I said oh I thought you werent' anymore. She said I am, just not pumping, but straight up breastfeeding, she won't drink milk or water at our house. I was surprised because I thought she said that when she stopped sending it here that she was done with it.

I have zero idea why this little girl basically asking to be breastfed bothered me. Honestly I don't know and again please no negative comments. I didn't breastfeed. My kids are extremely healthy, never had more than 1 ear infection each etc. What is the recommendation on when a child reaches the age where the extreme benefits equal out?

Thanks for reading!

[Ariana]

I am not sure why there would be negative comments!

This exact same thing is happening here with a girl the same age. She refused all breast milk and whole milk here so mom breastfeeds her at home. It does not interfere with the daycare so I don’t care. I think breastmilk is way better than whole cows milk so I do encourage mom to breastfeed her. I also see it as a connection and comfort thing they do with their mom when they get home. This little girls also starts crying for her soother as soon as mom comes in the door, yet she spends 9.5 hours without it when with me!

[lovemykidstoo]

I am not sure why there would be negative comments!

This exact same thing is happening here with a girl the same age. She refused all breast milk and whole milk here so mom breastfeeds her at home. It does not interfere with the daycare so I don’t care. I think breastmilk is way better than whole cows milk so I do encourage mom to breastfeed her. I also see it as a connection and comfort thing they do with their mom when they get home. This little girls also starts crying for her soother as soon as mom comes in the door, yet she spends 9.5 hours without it when with me!

I'm sure it is a comfort thing for sure. Especially since she's here 7:30 to 4:30, 5 days a week. Mom gets home at 5:30, dcg is in bed at 7:00, so really mom sees her less than 2 hours a day. I don't know, it's just something about her asking to be breastfed that just made it different for me and I just don't know why.

[hwichlaz]

The WHO recommends a min of 2 years, and for as long after as is mutually beneficial.

The AAP recommends a MINIMUM of 1 year, then then for as long after as is mutually beneficial.


She's still a baby that needs milk. much better to be from mama than a cow, since she's not a calf.

The cow's milk is just a substitute for mother's milk for human children.

[sharlan]

I think it's a comfort thing.

[Alwaysgreener]

I nursed my DD until 17 months. I fed her in the morning and evening during the last month, she drank water mainly and some milk during the day. She talked but she would ask to be fed by smacking my chest. How ever I stopped nursing because she was done, I had already passed my goal of a year, so I was okay with ending. I will nurse DS until he wants to stop too.

As for ear infections my DD had none. I was told that bf babies get sick less than formula fed.

babies that are around smoke have a higher risk of getting ear infections. My nephew got them alot and my sister smoked around him. The only dck that got ear infections was an infant that had parents that smoked.

[Cat Herder]

I ran into a friend I had not seen in years and invited her over for coffee and a visit. She arrived a couple hours late and brought her 5 year old son, too. I scrambled to find some brunch additions since the boy was hungry and asking for lunch. I put out a vegetable and cheese tray that was intended for later and the kid happily chomped on raw broccoli, carrots and squash. When he was done, he asked for more milk. I got up to pour him some more but my friend dropped the front of her shirt right there at the table, instead.

I could not speak, I did not see that coming. I knew people did extended breastfeeding, I had just never been exposed to it. My milk supply always ended pretty naturally around 6-8 months.

Two years is the recommended time, one year the most common, I just have no idea how some women are physically able to.

[boy_mom]

I had two DCMs nurse until their children were 3 years old. While not my preference (to be totally honest I did think it was odd!) I didnt let it bother my. The whole different strokes for different folks thing!

Both kids were walking, talking, eating and drinking independently and securely attached to parents but able to socialize and enjoy their time at daycare. I think it was comforting and bonding for mom and kids. Again, not my cup of tea but each family is unqiue!

[Rockgirl]

I ran into a friend I had not seen in years and invited her over for coffee and a visit. She arrived a couple hours late and brought her 5 year old son, too. I scrambled to find some brunch additions since the boy was hungry and asking for lunch. I put out a vegetable and cheese tray that was intended for later and the kid happily chomped on raw broccoli, carrots and squash. When he was done, he asked for more milk. I got up to pour him some more but my friend dropped the front of her shirt right there at the table, instead.

I could not speak, I did not see that coming. I knew people did extended breastfeeding, I had just never been exposed to it. My milk supply always ended pretty naturally around 6-8 months.

Two years is the recommended time, one year the most common, I just have no idea how some women are physically able to.

I’m sitting here looking at my 5 year old dcb. I just can’t imagine.

[littlefriends]

I have a dcb 4 years who still breastfeeds at home. They all cosleep as well. It’s mom dad dcb 4 and sister 7 all sleeping in same bed and he nurses throughout the night.

[Ac114]

The WHO recommends a min of 2 years, and for as long after as is mutually beneficial.

The AAP recommends a MINIMUM of 1 year, then then for as long after as is mutually beneficial.


She's still a baby that needs milk. much better to be from mama than a cow, since she's not a calf.

The cow's milk is just a substitute for mother's milk for human children.

This! I’m still nursing my 17 month old. She lets me know by smacking my chest or saying te te. I plan to let her self wean but will more than likely be done by 2 if she is still going strong. She has no desire to stop.

[lovemykidstoo]

I ran into a friend I had not seen in years and invited her over for coffee and a visit. She arrived a couple hours late and brought her 5 year old son, too. I scrambled to find some brunch additions since the boy was hungry and asking for lunch. I put out a vegetable and cheese tray that was intended for later and the kid happily chomped on raw broccoli, carrots and squash. When he was done, he asked for more milk. I got up to pour him some more but my friend dropped the front of her shirt right there at the table, instead.

I could not speak, I did not see that coming. I knew people did extended breastfeeding, I had just never been exposed to it. My milk supply always ended pretty naturally around 6-8 months.

Two years is the recommended time, one year the most common, I just have no idea how some women are physically able to.

OMG, I don't care what anyone says, that is disturbing

[Cat Herder]

OMG, I don't care what anyone says, that is disturbing

I wish I could say that was the most unusual part of the visit, but it was not. It did not improve in comfort level from there. We turned out to be very different people during our years apart.

The kid is a 17-year-old honor student, basketball player and eagle scout set to graduate this year, so it seemed to work for them.

[Josiegirl]

I'm sure it is a comfort thing for sure. Especially since she's here 7:30 to 4:30, 5 days a week. Mom gets home at 5:30, dcg is in bed at 7:00, so really mom sees her less than 2 hours a day. I don't know, it's just something about her asking to be breastfed that just made it different for me and I just don't know why.

The twin dcgs that I had, were like this, up until about 2 yos. And it didn't bother me, except dcm used to plop herself and the girls right down on the sofa here, at 4:45, even though I'd been feeding them all day. Honestly, they couldn't wait the 5 minute drive? I just wanted to be done, as in take your kiddos and go home PLEASE. She finally started just picking them up and saying no to them. Then they started asking to nurse me.

[Ac114]

The twin dcgs that I had, were like this, up until about 2 yos. And it didn't bother me, except dcm used to plop herself and the girls right down on the sofa here, at 4:45, even though I'd been feeding them all day. Honestly, they couldn't wait the 5 minute drive? I just wanted to be done, as in take your kiddos and go home PLEASE. She finally started just picking them up and saying no to them. Then they started asking to nurse me.

Yea that would annoy me. That’s just rude to prolong pickup so she could nurse.