Compassion Fatigue

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  • Ariana
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Jun 2011
    • 8969

    #16
    I should write a whole seperate post about my sister! Compassion fatigue doesnt even begin to describe it.

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    • Cat Herder
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Dec 2010
      • 13744

      #17
      Originally posted by Ariana
      I should write a whole seperate post about my sister! Compassion fatigue doesnt even begin to describe it.
      Same. ::

      I can't even with extended family anymore. I am taking a few years off. Dropping some serious ropes.
      - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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      • Mad_Pistachio
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jun 2015
        • 621

        #18
        Originally posted by amberrose3dg
        Yes except I would want to be somewhere warm. An island with no people would be great.
        Sapelo in GA has 200 people population

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        • amberrose3dg
          Daycare.com Member
          • Feb 2017
          • 1343

          #19
          Originally posted by Mad_Pistachio
          Sapelo in GA has 200 people population
          Sounds awesome, I need to look into it!

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          • Mad_Pistachio
            Daycare.com Member
            • Jun 2015
            • 621

            #20
            Originally posted by amberrose3dg
            Sounds awesome, I need to look into it!
            we went there in 2011. from what I heard, slaves were massively brought there for chocolate (?) or coffee (? - can't remember) plantations. after Juneteenth, white people kinda abandoned the island, but the former slaves stayed and made it their own. their descendants are still there, taking care of the beaches, wild life, and all that.
            it gives an impression of a virgin island, but they have all the civilization's comforts (electricity, gas, water, phones, etc.)
            don't take my word for the story, I may not have all the details, but man, I want to go back.

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            • Mad_Pistachio
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2015
              • 621

              #21
              Originally posted by Blackcat31
              She was constantly showing up early begging for her child to get breakfast because she just didn't have anything at home; sorry for the same clothes as yesterday too but she couldn't afford to go to the laundromat etc. But hey! If I happen to find her 8 yr old's iPhone could I text her and let her know...she's tired of having to keep track of her kids's phones and tablets all the time.
              were her iPhones/tablets gifts from someone else, by any chance?
              I have a smart watch, my daughter has an iPad, and we have a flat screen TV, and they all were gifted to us at one time or another by my parents. I mean, yeah, if push comes to shove, I'll sell them all (and more) to feed my family and to avoid begging, but just thought that maybe kids got their iPhones as gifts/presents from an extended family. all 4 of them
              why that extended family can't just help feed them, I don't know, though (if that's the case, of course)

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              • Unregistered

                #22
                Originally posted by Annalee
                I see this happening in the world in general today.....even with myself sometimes. Persons become desensitized over time through experiences. Sad if you really think about it! But it is spiraling. I have always felt my church, biological, extended family were some of the most unconditionally loving people but have noticed lately compassion fatigue drifting in. Partially, I think, because FCC providers, in particular, are built on giving to the point you can't give anymore. Not sure this is exactly what you were referring to but it is what I thought of when you posted.

                To me, it's not about giving or compassion. For example, I've had many families with substance abuse issues. How can I fix this? I can't parent children they aren't mine. I can't parent adults. If I call CPS or the police and nothing is done or the child is returned to bad conditions, I'm not going to worry all night that maybe the parents while abusing substances and cause the child to die. Also, people abuse sympathy/compassion. I used to give a lot of leeway to people going through issues financially, but then it turned into everyone wanting discount.

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                • amberrose3dg
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Feb 2017
                  • 1343

                  #23
                  Originally posted by Unregistered
                  To me, it's not about giving or compassion. For example, I've had many families with substance abuse issues. How can I fix this? I can't parent children they aren't mine. I can't parent adults. If I call CPS or the police and nothing is done or the child is returned to bad conditions, I'm not going to worry all night that maybe the parents while abusing substances and cause the child to die. Also, people abuse sympathy/compassion. I used to give a lot of leeway to people going through issues financially, but then it turned into everyone wanting discount.
                  There should be a line drawn somewhere. Where that is I do not know. I been lucky enough to mainly just deal with the normal drama of families. if you worried you would never sleep. There is always a ton of bad going on that we simply cannot change.

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                  • Pestle
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • May 2016
                    • 1729

                    #24
                    Someone told me about compassion fatigue when I was describing the gradual, and now-thorough, draining of warm feelings toward a spouse whose behavior is disordered. It's made me feel like less of a villain now that I understand that this is a natural, if undesirable, response to being a constant caregiver.

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                    • Blackcat31
                      • Oct 2010
                      • 36124

                      #25
                      Originally posted by Mad_Pistachio
                      were her iPhones/tablets gifts from someone else, by any chance?
                      I have a smart watch, my daughter has an iPad, and we have a flat screen TV, and they all were gifted to us at one time or another by my parents. I mean, yeah, if push comes to shove, I'll sell them all (and more) to feed my family and to avoid begging, but just thought that maybe kids got their iPhones as gifts/presents from an extended family. all 4 of them
                      why that extended family can't just help feed them, I don't know, though (if that's the case, of course)
                      I've been in this business long enough to know that is a possibility so I strive to reserve forming an opinion until it's glaringly obvious.

                      There was no gifting of anything in this situation.

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