Not Even a Thank you

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Hurt feelings.

Whatever they come up with.

Happens all the time with terminations.

They are rarely substantiated. Click some tags. ::

Oh wow, I will have to check those out. People are so petty

[daycarediva]

Oh wow, I will have to check those out. People are so petty

INSANELY SO. I've had several parents file reports on me after terminating the contract.

[Unregistered]

I think too that since you had to term there is no way they are going to say thanks. Even tho you provided Three years of great care.

[Unregistered]

I agree. If you termed them, why would they thank you? For no longer caring for their child by your choice, not theirs. The thank yous will come from the kids that age out and leave on good terms.

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And you sent home early due to illness on the last day, after terming a 3 year family? A thank you really is too much to expect under those circumstances. Best you can hope for is that they do not bad mouth you all over town

[Josiegirl]

Yup.

They thanked you, in their mind, by paying you. It's a business. I don't say 'thank you' to the gas company when I mail their check. Most people see daycare the same way. As providers, we know that they're wrong, but don't take it personally.

Side note, when I made out my check to the plumber last week, I wrote thank you. :: I guess I was so tickled to finally have my faucet fixed. Lol I like the idea of thanking my dcfs when they pick up; I need to start doing that. I am so lucky to have wonderful parents at the moment.

But yeh, it's a big let down when you put your heart and soul into helping raise their child/ren for so long, only to be told see ya. But also, it does sound like your relationship recently had gotten off kilter a bit and maybe they have started to feel a little different about everything, forgetting all the good and only remembering the other stuff. It's hard to feel grateful when things start going sour and maybe they've been feeling the same way you have lately. It's hard.

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And you sent home early due to illness on the last day, after terming a 3 year family? A thank you really is too much to expect under those circumstances. Best you can hope for is that they do not bad mouth you all over town

I really don't give a **** if or what they say about me.

[LysesKids]

I really don't give a **** if or what they say about me.

I would... why? Because a termed parent went above & beyond to smear my business 7 years ago. They found everywhere they could to post online including YELP and they were in the wrong, but it damaged my business for awhile.

I even had other families tell me where they found the hateful made up stuff (over the course of 6 months) & they put up their own good comments, it still didn't do any good until I threatened court for slander then the termed family retracted their comments (both were professors who thought they were better than everyone else). Some parents will do anything spiteful if they feel wronged.

[amberrose3dg]

I would... why? Because a termed parent went above & beyond to smear my business 7 years ago. They found everywhere they could to post online including YELP and they were in the wrong, but it damaged my business for awhile.

I even had other families tell me where they found the hateful made up stuff (over the course of 6 months) & they put up their own good comments, it still didn't do any good until I threatened court for slander then the termed family retracted their comments (both were professors who thought they were better than everyone else). Some parents will do anything spiteful if they feel wronged.

This! for some reason this can be a profession where everyone takes everything personal when it is not always meant to be. Even after we are done caring for someone's child no matter they pulled or we terminated have to look over our shoulders for revenge. It is one thing if you pull your child because you feel they are being mistreated or abused to post negative reviews. The problem is people want to make something out of nothing. Then the ones that are actually bad providers no one says anything about.

[Snowmom]

I would... why? Because a termed parent went above & beyond to smear my business 7 years ago. They found everywhere they could to post online including YELP and they were in the wrong, but it damaged my business for awhile.

I even had other families tell me where they found the hateful made up stuff (over the course of 6 months) & they put up their own good comments, it still didn't do any good until I threatened court for slander then the termed family retracted their comments (both were professors who thought they were better than everyone else). Some parents will do anything spiteful if they feel wronged.

It's happened to me too.
I do online checks every month for the last 5 yrs to make sure the butt-hurt dcm I had hasn't started her online rage again.

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I would... why? Because a termed parent went above & beyond to smear my business 7 years ago. They found everywhere they could to post online including YELP and they were in the wrong, but it damaged my business for awhile.

I even had other families tell me where they found the hateful made up stuff (over the course of 6 months) & they put up their own good comments, it still didn't do any good until I threatened court for slander then the termed family retracted their comments (both were professors who thought they were better than everyone else). Some parents will do anything spiteful if they feel wronged.

Still don't give a crap what they say. I filled their spot with a family that does not live in the neighborhood. I also have another kid starting in July. I will never provide care for neighbors again. If they try to bad mouth me, like I said I do not care. They are not well liked around here anyways.