Not Even a Thank you

[Unregistered]

Just venting here....I took care of 3 girls for 3 years(neighbors). Last day was Tuesday. Unfortunately I had to send home early due to illness. There were subtle tensions the last month of care because it was a situation where I had to let this family go (paid late, broke rules). However, we were never on bad terms and the 3 years went fairly smoothly. It was just time to be done.

Now I don't ask for much. Ever. But I did not even get a Thank you from them. Like thanks for taking care of my children for 3 years. I am sad about it. Just venting but people ****. Has this ever happened to any of you? You go out of your way for people and get not even a thanks.

[Unregistered]

I'm sooo with you. 2 kids 4.5 yrs..I got a txt...thanks. They were golden family..kept first kid..while she was having #2. It is very hurtful....we didn't care for their houseplants!!
My thoughts are with you!! Focus on your family!!! I do dream about running into them at the store...and saying my peace.

[Blackcat31]

I keep my business (and my overall tone with parents in general) very business like. The kids get my "soft" side so when it comes time to part ways, I guess I don't ever expect parents to say Thank you.

I mean most my clients say thank you during payment transactions, when I say "Have a great weekend!" or in regular conversation but I don't usually expect any type of extra or additional gratitude when they leave but that might just be me.

I think however you set the tone or atmosphere for your relationship with parents/families etc is important.

Were you close to this family? In a 'your family is my family' type way? Or just business is business?

I think depending on that ^^ it dictates whether parents feel they should/shouldn't be gracious when departing.

But then again, some people are simply self absorbed and it just doesn't cross their minds to say "thank you" to the person that cared for and loved their children fro 3 years. I'm sorry you are feeling hurt by this family's actions (or lack of gratitude). Maybe it's a good thing they are gone. ((hugs))

[Unregistered]

I keep my business (and my overall tone with parents in general) very business like. The kids get my "soft" side so when it comes time to part ways, I guess I don't ever expect parents to say Thank you.

I mean most my clients say thank you during payment transactions, when I say "Have a great weekend!" or in regular conversation but I don't usually expect any type of extra or additional gratitude when they leave but that might just be me.

I think however you set the tone or atmosphere for your relationship with parents/families etc is important.

Were you close to this family? In a 'your family is my family' type way? Or just business is business?

I think depending on that ^^ it dictates whether parents feel they should/shouldn't be gracious when departing.

But then again, some people are simply self absorbed and it just doesn't cross their minds to say "thank you" to the person that cared for and loved their children fro 3 years. I'm sorry you are feeling hurt by this family's actions (or lack of gratitude). Maybe it's a good thing they are gone. ((hugs))

It was a closer than business relationship. It was a family feel if you know what I mean. I just cannot believe not even a text saying thanks. Nothing. I am tempted to say something simple to them pertaining to their complete rudeness when I ship all their left behinds over their way.

[nannyde]

I don't ever think about them thanking me.

I do make it a practice to say "thank you" EVERY ... SINGLE... DAY at departure. I use it instead of "good bye".

They are my customers. I want them to know I appreciate their patronage every day.

[Unregistered]

I don't ever think about them thanking me.

I do make it a practice to say "thank you" EVERY ... SINGLE... DAY at departure. I use it instead of "good bye".

They are my customers. I want them to know I appreciate their patronage every day.

Never once did I expect a thank you, I like you I thanked them. However at the end I thought a thank you would have been nice. I guess people are not kind. I was raised with manners.

[Annalee]

I don't ever think about them thanking me.

I do make it a practice to say "thank you" EVERY ... SINGLE... DAY at departure. I use it instead of "good bye".

They are my customers. I want them to know I appreciate their patronage every day.

I have recently started doing this as well, and it has made a difference in my outlook and also how I deal with clients.....At the end of the day, I am a business.....nothing more, nothing less!

[Cat Herder]

I had to send home early due to illness.

There were subtle tensions the last month of care

I had to let this family go (paid late, broke rules).

That was a lot of no.

It is also possible they will file a report.

Sadly, that is what often happens when parents are served a no.

Many will never remember all the good things you did, only the no's.

It just comes with the job. Let it roll off your back and remember it the next time you are considering doing special for no pay.

[sharlan]

Yep, I understand.

[daycarediva]

That was a lot of no.

It is also possible they will file a report.

Sadly, that is what often happens when parents are served a no.

Many will never remember all the good things you did, only the no's.

It just comes with the job. Let it roll off your back and remember it the next time you are considering doing special for no pay.

Yup.

They thanked you, in their mind, by paying you. It's a business. I don't say 'thank you' to the gas company when I mail their check. Most people see daycare the same way. As providers, we know that they're wrong, but don't take it personally.

[Ariana]

Happened to me too and it ****ed . :hug:

Kids were with me 3.5 years and they left without a thank you. They were our neighbours and she left me with the impression we were friends. The dad didn’t even understand why his daughter was upset on her last day. I gave and I gave to that family. Mended clothes with holes in it, bought clothes so the little girl had something decent to wear, gave a discount when she divorced and left me with the impression she was broke and they left without even a thank you card!

I got over it but a few weeks later my husband helped her put together a bunny cage and she dropped off a thank you note and a $10 gift card from Starbucks. Yup. For putting together a bunny cage They were my first family and I learned a LOT of lessons from that relationship.

[lovemykidstoo]

That was a lot of no.

It is also possible they will file a report.

Sadly, that is what often happens when parents are served a no.

Many will never remember all the good things you did, only the no's.

It just comes with the job. Let it roll off your back and remember it the next time you are considering doing special for no pay.

This is what I'm thinking. You're terming them due to broken rules right? Even though I would do the same, you're terming. Doubt they're going to thank you for that even if you're in the right.

[Unregistered]

That was a lot of no.

It is also possible they will file a report.

Sadly, that is what often happens when parents are served a no.

Many will never remember all the good things you did, only the no's.

It just comes with the job. Let it roll off your back and remember it the next time you are considering doing special for no pay.

File a report? Lmao. Really? On what grounds?

[Unregistered]

Happened to me too and it ****ed . :hug:

Kids were with me 3.5 years and they left without a thank you. They were our neighbours and she left me with the impression we were friends. The dad didn’t even understand why his daughter was upset on her last day. I gave and I gave to that family. Mended clothes with holes in it, bought clothes so the little girl had something decent to wear, gave a discount when she divorced and left me with the impression she was broke and they left without even a thank you card!

I got over it but a few weeks later my husband helped her put together a bunny cage and she dropped off a thank you note and a $10 gift card from Starbucks. Yup. For putting together a bunny cage They were my first family and I learned a LOT of lessons from that relationship.

Same situation here. I bent over backwards for this family. I learned my lesson. But it still makes me strongly dislike humans sometimes.

[Cat Herder]

File a report? Lmao. Really? On what grounds?

Hurt feelings.

Whatever they come up with.

Happens all the time with terminations.

They are rarely substantiated. Click some tags. ::