Filed a Complaint on Provider - Was A Misunderstanding

[amberrose3dg]

I am pretty sure Meeko still posts occassionally, but there are some great threads in the archive about having parents around the kids, even supervised. I cannot find the exact thread, but the father of her dcg ended up going to prison I think for pedophilia and molesting his daughter. I remember reading it and feeling how haunted she felt by something she thought was so innocent. I guess he "dropped in" in often and seemed very normal and nice.

There are a LOT of things that can be done even if notleft unsupervised. Not just to the children, but to the LONE adult in charge of a vulnerable population. We need to be keeping our own protection in mind as well, as we are the first line of defense for the kids.

This is what I meant. Nannyde just posted about a dad filming the kids. I cannot think of a good reason a parent should be hanging all day at the daycare. If they dont have to work maybe that time would or been better spent with their child at home. I know my littles like to show off when there is a new adult. Just last week during our fire marshal inspection it was chaotic and I have an assistant. Some of you guys work alone. I know i encourage parent interaction but at the same time there is a lot to consider. I'm just saying there should be a balance instead of small home daycares having to watch parents too.

[daycarediva]

OP- I am a licensed daycare provider, but I would NEVER enroll my child in an area I didn't SEE personally, daily. That's just me. I know of three providers with basement daycares. Two are perfectly wonderful people and the third is a dirty over ratio nightmare.

My state regulations say that parents must have access at any time to their CHILD. Not the space. What state are you in?

My space is a walkout basement, but parents come in/exit through the door and into the classroom. I ask that they not leave the entry area for sanitary reasons, but they can SEE the kids.

If a parent was spending any amount of time here I would speak up. Pack kiddo up, say goodbye. I cover it at interviews.

I would NOT be comfortable with a parent spending time with my child. I didn't vet this parent, the parent has no background check, and who knows what type of person they are, so as a provider, I would ask that you BF in a separate space as well.

I realize that you're new to DC- but going straight to licensing is similar to having an issue with the homework the teacher gives out, and calling the principal. First stop should have been your provider. I would terminate care immediately for lack of trust.

[Unregistered]

But how long should they be allowed to stay?

As a parent could I come in and have lunch?

[Cat Herder]

As a parent could I come in and have lunch?

Yes. That would be fun.

Especially if you brought a food or gave me a recipe beforehand with a cultural significance from your home and shared something about it with the kids.

I would have to get signed permission forms from the other parents, but they would love it.

[nannyde]

As a parent could I come in and have lunch?

No but you could pick up early for lunch and then take the rest of the day off to spend with your child. Schedule your lunch trips on days you get off early.

[Country Kids]

As a parent could I come in and have lunch?

Since I'm in the STARS program, my parents are encouraged to come in and participate in my program. Parties, story time, sharing family culture, meals, etc. Parent involvement is very encouraged.

[Cat Herder]

Since I'm in the STARS program, my parents are encouraged to come in and participate in my program. Parties, story time, sharing family culture, meals, etc. Parent involvement is very encouraged.

Same.

The key here is a scheduled time, pre-approved by licensing with written curriculum goals and signed permission forms.

Kids not old enough to participate would stay in the playroom with my sub for the duration of lunch in the dining area, 12:00-12:30.

Child would leave with parent at the conclusion.

[Play Care]

OP- I am a licensed daycare provider, but I would NEVER enroll my child in an area I didn't SEE personally, daily. That's just me. I know of three providers with basement daycares. Two are perfectly wonderful people and the third is a dirty over ratio nightmare.

My state regulations say that parents must have access at any time to their CHILD. Not the space. What state are you in?

My space is a walkout basement, but parents come in/exit through the door and into the classroom. I ask that they not leave the entry area for sanitary reasons, but they can SEE the kids.

If a parent was spending any amount of time here I would speak up. Pack kiddo up, say goodbye. I cover it at interviews.

I would NOT be comfortable with a parent spending time with my child. I didn't vet this parent, the parent has no background check, and who knows what type of person they are, so as a provider, I would ask that you BF in a separate space as well.

I realize that you're new to DC- but going straight to licensing is similar to having an issue with the homework the teacher gives out, and calling the principal. First stop should have been your provider. I would terminate care immediately for lack of trust.

[Annalee]

Same.

The key here is a scheduled time, pre-approved by licensing with written curriculum goals and signed permission forms.

Kids not old enough to participate would stay in the playroom with my sub for the duration of lunch in the dining area, 12:00-12:30.

Child would leave with parent at the conclusion.

In the new rules, we have to have a documented monthly activity for parent engagement:confused:

[racemom]

This is what I meant. Nannyde just posted about a dad filming the kids. I cannot think of a good reason a parent should be hanging all day at the daycare. If they dont have to work maybe that time would or been better spent with their child at home. I know my littles like to show off when there is a new adult. Just last week during our fire marshal inspection it was chaotic and I have an assistant. Some of you guys work alone. I know i encourage parent interaction but at the same time there is a lot to consider. I'm just saying there should be a balance instead of small home daycares having to watch parents too.

I think people are interpreting OP differently, I didn't think she wanted to hang out in the area, I thought she wanted to walk dck downstairs for drop off only and was told no she had to text 15 minutes ahead of time. Breastfeeding was a different issue, but I may be reading it wrong. Hanging out with the group is an entirely different situation than coming in for drop off.

[Cat Herder]

In the new rules, we have to have a documented monthly activity for parent engagement:confused:

Here, too.

These can be done before opening (Muffins with Mom, Doughnuts with Dad), on weekends (Tricycle/bike Races at the local park and a Helmet Safety lecture with handouts) or after closing (Open house to look at the artwork and let the kids tell the story of one of their painting's to the group).

Front porch conferences work for this, too. Just be sure to have them sign in and out or you don't get credit.

Don't spend much. Don't expect much. Attendance is great at first, then drops after the first few offerings. I still have not received an answer about getting marked off because no one shows up. I went with having the parents sign notice of invitation last go round, I had no documentation of actual attendance because no one showed. I am not sure the observer noticed the difference and the box was checked.

[LysesKids]

In the new rules, we have to have a documented monthly activity for parent engagement:confused:

Oh I hadn't seen that one yet... still reading thru the new stuff. I knew you were already having issues with QRIS crap. Maybe my Monday morning coffee and muffins would count? I've been doing that for years

[Annalee]

Here, too.

These can be done before opening (Muffins with Mom, Doughnuts with Dad), on weekends (Tricycle/bike Races at the local park and a Helmet Safety lecture with handouts) or after closing (Open house to look at the artwork and let the kids tell the story of one of their painting's to the group).

Front porch conferences work for this, too. Just be sure to have them sign in and out or you don't get credit.

Don't spend much. Don't expect much. Attendance is great at first, then drops after the first few offerings. I still have not received an answer about getting marked off because no one shows up. I went with having the parents sign notice of invitation last go round, I had no documentation of actual attendance because no one showed. I am not sure the observer noticed the difference and the box was checked.

Thanks for the ideas!

[lovemykidstoo]

In the new rules, we have to have a documented monthly activity for parent engagement:confused:

Oi really? Is that for family, group or center? Is that in particular states or the entire U.S.?

[Annalee]

Oi really? Is that for family, group or center? Is that in particular states or the entire U.S.?

In my state for family and group. I have not looked at the center rules so not sure about that.