Parent Asking Why I Am Calling Off A Day?

[Unregistered]

I told dcm that I cannot watch her kids on the 21st. That is over 2 weeks from today, plenty of time for her to find back up. But, she text me asking why? Do I really need to provide an answer? Why is that her business? How do I reply to her text asking why? Thanks

[Snowmom]

I told dcm that I cannot watch her kids on the 21st. That is over 2 weeks from today, plenty of time for her to find back up. But, she text me asking why? Do I really need to provide an answer? Why is that her business? How do I reply to her text asking why? Thanks

Answer:
"Because I will be closed."

No, you don't need to tell her why and it isn't her business.

[amberrose3dg]

I told dcm that I cannot watch her kids on the 21st. That is over 2 weeks from today, plenty of time for her to find back up. But, she text me asking why? Do I really need to provide an answer? Why is that her business? How do I reply to her text asking why? Thanks

Nope just say no! Sorry but I am in a mood. Parents are the worst!

[NeedaVaca]

Answer:
"Because I will be closed."

No, you don't need to tell her why and it isn't her business.

Exactly

[Unregistered]

Nope just say no! Sorry but I am in a mood. Parents are the worst!

I feel you on the parents! I am not really closed that day, I will be watching my other 2 kids and my own. I honestly just don't want to watch them that day. Is there anything else I could say besides I am closed. I ask because they live across the street and will see I am open.

[amberrose3dg]

I feel you on the parents! I am not really closed that day, I will be watching my other 2 kids and my own. I honestly just don't want to watch them that day. Is there anything else I could say besides I am closed. I ask because they live across the street and will see I am open.

Are they full time or part time or what is their attendance?
If it isn't a day they normally attend just tell them you do not have room.

[NeedaVaca]

I feel you on the parents! I am not really closed that day, I will be watching my other 2 kids and my own. I honestly just don't want to watch them that day. Is there anything else I could say besides I am closed. I ask because they live across the street and will see I am open.

ah, that changes my answer... I'm not sure how often you watch them or if they are just drop ins but I would wager she will be upset when she sees you are actually open and just not watching her children This is why I don't provide care for neighbors

[Unregistered]

There are 3 of them 1 is school age and their last day forever is suppose to be the last day of school on the 19th. If I watch the 3 of them on the 21st I will be way over what I can handle because my own kids will be here. So just need to tell this mom something even tho it is none of her business.

[Play Care]

I feel you on the parents! I am not really closed that day, I will be watching my other 2 kids and my own. I honestly just don't want to watch them that day. Is there anything else I could say besides I am closed. I ask because they live across the street and will see I am open.

Wait, so they are supposed to be done? I would just tell her that having her kids will put you over your ratio so you will no longer be able to watch them. Give her the number to the referral agency and wish her well.

[Cat Herder]

"Your family's last day of attendance is June 19th, 2018. Thank you for your continued interest but I must keep that deadline to stay within my summer ratio. Thank you for your understanding"

[Play Care]

Maybe even:

"DCM, Sorry for the confusion! I thought your children's last day with me was the 19. Since my own kids will be home after that, I will no longer have space to accommodate your children, or I would be out of ratio. Should you need care the referral agency can be reached at _________. I have enjoyed caring for your family and wish you the best!"

[amberrose3dg]

Maybe even:

"DCM, Sorry for the confusion! I thought your children's last day with me was the 19. Since my own kids will be home after that, I will no longer have space to accommodate your children, or I would be out of ratio. Should you need care the referral agency can be reached at _________. I have enjoyed caring for your family and wish you the best!"

^ this

[Unregistered]

Wait, so they are supposed to be done? I would just tell her that having her kids will put you over your ratio so you will no longer be able to watch them. Give her the number to the referral agency and wish her well.

She is a teacher so is done for the summer but she seems like its the end of the world that I can't watch her kids that one last time. I gave her over 2 weeks to figure something else out.

[Rockgirl]

She is a teacher so is done for the summer but she seems like its the end of the world that I can't watch her kids that one last time. I gave her over 2 weeks to figure something else out.

Oh well! Let that be her problem. Two weeks is plenty of time.

[Blackcat31]

I told dcm that I cannot watch her kids on the 21st. That is over 2 weeks from today, plenty of time for her to find back up. But, she text me asking why? Do I really need to provide an answer? Why is that her business? How do I reply to her text asking why? Thanks

I feel you on the parents! I am not really closed that day, I will be watching my other 2 kids and my own. I honestly just don't want to watch them that day. Is there anything else I could say besides I am closed. I ask because they live across the street and will see I am open.

There are 3 of them 1 is school age and their last day forever is suppose to be the last day of school on the 19th. If I watch the 3 of them on the 21st I will be way over what I can handle because my own kids will be here. So just need to tell this mom something even tho it is none of her business.

Is the last day of school (the 19th) ALSO the last day this family will be in care per a term notice via you or from the parents?

If neither of you termed and this family is normally a regularly attending family in the summer but you just don't want to watch them on a certain day, my advice is be honest and simply say "I am not able to watch them on xx date" period.

If they put you over ratios due to your own children, be honest. "I am unable to watch them on xx date as I do not have space available"

If you just dont want them to come at all anymore, be honest about that too and just terminate services.

If they don't attend in the summer month and are done with daycare the last day of school, again just be honest..."The last day I am able to provide care is xx date"

If she texts, calls or emails for more information just don't respond.

I see these types of situations born out of a provider being less than honest about the situation and the lack of honestly as creating a problem that wouldn't have existed had the communication just been open and honest in the first place.

fwiw~ I am NOT saying you lied about anything... each post you make contains more info so wondering if there is more to the story.

If not then like I said, just be honest and tell the mom, "I can NOT take the kids that day." period. No further discussion necessary.