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I have never met a child like this in my life. 4.5 years old. Picture a late teen who just escaped from reform school. Mouthy-not just a little sass, but extreme back talk and defiance about EVERYTHING. Please get off the couch so you don't break the back of it (she was jumping on the back of the couch first day). Rather than getting down, she aggressively says "I WANT to!". I had to lift her off the couch and place her on the floor (in the corner!).
She shrieks, screams and cries every time she hears no or gets asked not to do what she is doing or gets a consequence for her mouth or for her behavior toward the other kids. Her shriek/cry tantrums last about 30 minutes each and she shouts angry things from her time out and throws things at me (I'm way too far away to get hit by them). 3 hours in, every kid here who is verbal said that they don't like her. A 4 yr old girl who I have had for 2.5 years that NEVER gets in trouble (and doesn't have an aggressive bone in her body) punched the new girl in the face twice yesterday. This new girl (who started yesterday) has every child's anxiety level up.
The new girl is never physically aggressive, but she is verbally aggressive in that she has the most defiant mouth I have ever heard from a person of ANY age. I have experience with kids who have ODD, ADHD, trauma related behaviors, genetic based behavior issues-you name it. People send their kids to me because I have a reputation for taking special needs kids and kids who have behavior issues. I have never seen anything like this before, even in my past foster child who has Reactive Attachment Disorder. Her mom confirmed at pick up that she is the same way at home and said to address each instance, and never let her have her way when she acts like this.
Her mother seems to have her act together, and is well aware of the behavior issues and is trying to deal with them. I nearly termed this child by noon yesterday. I'm definitely going to ask the mom to have the child assessed at a local mental health care facility (which may make her pull, but I truly doubt it, since the child was kicked out of a public daycare that NO ONE gets kicked out of).
I like to give kids a month to see if we can change things. I've had "naughty" kids who have been kicked out of other daycares who have done well here. It's all a matter of whether my environment suits them or not. This one, I just don't know.
What do you all think of this kid? Have you ever seen a child like this? I can't even verbalize how "adult" and abnormal this mouth is on the child. She doesn't use bad language, just is defiant to the extreme. Also, when she isn't angry or upset, she is a dream to be around. She is adorable and sweet when she isn't thinking about murdering me. :
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She shrieks, screams and cries every time she hears no or gets asked not to do what she is doing or gets a consequence for her mouth or for her behavior toward the other kids. Her shriek/cry tantrums last about 30 minutes each and she shouts angry things from her time out and throws things at me (I'm way too far away to get hit by them). 3 hours in, every kid here who is verbal said that they don't like her. A 4 yr old girl who I have had for 2.5 years that NEVER gets in trouble (and doesn't have an aggressive bone in her body) punched the new girl in the face twice yesterday. This new girl (who started yesterday) has every child's anxiety level up.
The new girl is never physically aggressive, but she is verbally aggressive in that she has the most defiant mouth I have ever heard from a person of ANY age. I have experience with kids who have ODD, ADHD, trauma related behaviors, genetic based behavior issues-you name it. People send their kids to me because I have a reputation for taking special needs kids and kids who have behavior issues. I have never seen anything like this before, even in my past foster child who has Reactive Attachment Disorder. Her mom confirmed at pick up that she is the same way at home and said to address each instance, and never let her have her way when she acts like this.
Her mother seems to have her act together, and is well aware of the behavior issues and is trying to deal with them. I nearly termed this child by noon yesterday. I'm definitely going to ask the mom to have the child assessed at a local mental health care facility (which may make her pull, but I truly doubt it, since the child was kicked out of a public daycare that NO ONE gets kicked out of).
I like to give kids a month to see if we can change things. I've had "naughty" kids who have been kicked out of other daycares who have done well here. It's all a matter of whether my environment suits them or not. This one, I just don't know.
What do you all think of this kid? Have you ever seen a child like this? I can't even verbalize how "adult" and abnormal this mouth is on the child. She doesn't use bad language, just is defiant to the extreme. Also, when she isn't angry or upset, she is a dream to be around. She is adorable and sweet when she isn't thinking about murdering me. :
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