Parent Text, How to Respond

[Baby Beluga]

Why didn't DCM extend an invite to your DD to play with her DD on HER watch if her child is so upset?

She did not do it on this particular occasion, but she has offered to watch my kids before. I did not ask nor did I take her up on it. Just thanked her for her offer.

But yes, if her DD is this upset then DCM saying "Hey, my DD really misses your DD. Can we host your DD at our house for a play date on X day?" Would have solved that.

[Unregistered]

I’d be too annoyed To pay it any more mind. Honestly I think I’d of ignored her in irritation. Though your answer was great so good on you.

This is a special snowflake parent, putting stress on you for no reason. It’s none of her business and not her place to put you on the spot like that just because her daughter is upset.
If she were a considerate parent she would have been more than happy with your answer and realized “oh right! My daycare provider and her kids have their own lives and family time they’ll look forward to.”
She would have apologized and been Normal in her response.
She’s just showing her ass.

[lovemykidstoo]

DCM sent me a text asking why I don't allow my DD to see her DD (who is not enrolled) when she picks up her son. DCM brought her DD in to pick up her DS, and her DD asked to see my DD. I told her she was in her room. DCM's DD fussed a little bit and said she never gets to see my DD. I wished them a good night and went about my evening.

Few minutes later I get a text from DCM telling me her DD has been crying wince they left because she couldn't see my DD and DCM doesn't understand why my DD is always in her room when they come.

How do I respond to this?

DD leaves the room for a few reasons.

1) she acts out when parents are here. We all know our children do this

2) DD is 6. She is old enough to understand what I am saying to parents in regard to their chikds day and it's a privacy issue.

3) It's my BUSINESS. If I don't want my DD in the classroom at arrival and departure times, she won't be.

Wow alert the presses, her precious snowflake was crying? Oh my gosh. How old is her child? Why doesn't she explain to her child that your child isn't there to entertain at pickup times. This lady has some guts really. I would just say that your daughter is doing homework period. You really don't need to explain anything about your family.

[Baby Beluga]

So... mom gave her 2 week notice tonight. Sent me a text and said "please don't take it personal and it has nothing to do with yesterday."

[lovemykidstoo]

So... mom gave her 2 week notice tonight. Sent me a text and said "please don't take it personal and it has nothing to do with yesterday."

Oh my gosh!!!! How long has she been with you? What was her reason for giving you 2 weeks notice?

Maybe something was going on with her job and that's why she was so testy with you?

[redmaple]

Start advertising tonight, and keep the next two weeks very professional business like. Things will be more peaceful soon.

[Baby Beluga]

Oh my gosh!!!! How long has she been with you? What was her reason for giving you 2 weeks notice?

Maybe something was going on with her job and that's why she was so testy with you?

Been with me for 10 months. DCB is 2.75 and I am his 5th provider. So, I guess I'm not totally surprised?

Although they gave zero indication of being unhappy. No complaints, questions, nothing. Yesterday, with my DD, was the first incident.

Mom sighted DCB having the opportunity to spend time with friends from karate via summer camp. DCB mentioned something about going to Mrs. X house. I didn't think much of it at the time. But now looking back, Mrs. X is a local provider with an opening.

[redmaple]

Just out of curiosity, does Mrs. X have children of her own?

[Baby Beluga]

Just out of curiosity, does Mrs. X have children of her own?

Yes, a younger daughter.

[lovemykidstoo]

Been with me for 10 months. DCB is 2.75 and I am his 5th provider. So, I guess I'm not totally surprised?

Although they gave zero indication of being unhappy. No complaints, questions, nothing. Yesterday, with my DD, was the first incident.

Mom sighted DCB having the opportunity to spend time with friends from karate via summer camp. DCB mentioned something about going to Mrs. X house. I didn't think much of it at the time. But now looking back, Mrs. X is a local provider with an opening.

Oh boy. 5 providers and he's not even 3? I think I would tell her 2 weeks isn't needed, she can leave right now. Good luck Mrs. X

[Rockgirl]

Poor little boy—he doesn’t have the opportunity to bond with a provider before he’s moved to the next one.

I wonder if dcm is changing because she’s embarrassed about her own behavior.

[Baby Beluga]

Been with me for 10 months. DCB is 2.75 and I am his 5th provider. So, I guess I'm not totally surprised?

Although they gave zero indication of being unhappy. No complaints, questions, nothing. Yesterday, with my DD, was the first incident.

Mom sighted DCB having the opportunity to spend time with friends from karate via summer camp. DCB mentioned something about going to Mrs. X house. I didn't think much of it at the time. But now looking back, Mrs. X is a local provider with an opening.

Just to clarify, today was the first day DCB mentioned Mrs. X.

I don't know. I am super bummed though. I tried to do what was best business wise, and it didn't go over well. Damned if you do and don't type of situation I guess.

[alyssahenderson]

For me you don't owe them an explanation. It's your DD and you have the right who she would talk or even play because you're the mother. Maybe she just gets offended easily.

[lovemykidstoo]

Just to clarify, today was the first day DCB mentioned Mrs. X.

I don't know. I am super bummed though. I tried to do what was best business wise, and it didn't go over well. Damned if you do and don't type of situation I guess.

I doubt she had a new daycare lined up due to something that happened the day before. Sounds like something else was up with her well before that and if she's been through that many daycares, then she has issues. It's nothing you did. You did nothing wrong at all. Maybe she thought she could get snippy with you about your daughter because she already knew she was leaving.

[Cat Herder]

I doubt she had a new daycare lined up due to something that happened the day before. Sounds like something else was up with her well before that and if she's been through that many daycares, then she has issues. It's nothing you did. You did nothing wrong at all. Maybe she thought she could get snippy with you about your daughter because she already knew she was leaving.

This sounds most likely. It could have been something as simple as $5 less per week or they allowed her to "do" some trivial annoyance that seems "important" to her now.

Sorry it happened but glad you won't have to deal with her. Most likely her drama meter is just starting to kick up.