Husband "Visiting" During Daycare Hours

[Miss A]

My wife doesn’t “visit”. She’s a part of this home and this family. The classroom area is part of the main area of the house, so if she’s home she interacts with me & DCKs. She subs for me occasionally. But even if she’s not doing daycare stuff she’s not barred from any part of the house just because I’m working. If any DCP has a problem with my wife’s presence they can find other care.

This, 100%. To me, when a parent chooses to enroll their child in a family childcare program, they are understanding that my family will be present. I will not hide my husband or limit his access to our home while I am working because that is not what family childcare is about. I do not consider him popping into the playroom after work a "visit", because this is his home and as my husband he has a place in my family childcare.

My DCB's get so excited when my DH is home early. He plays with them differently than I do, and therefore in their eyes that makes him so much cooler than Miss A.

[BrynleeJean]

yup. i think your just over thinking it. easy to do
my husband would hide when daycare families came to the door talk about over thinking! he was my sub and super quiet and friendly, i think he though what you did, that they just didnt wanna see anything distracting me so he would leave, and be embarrassed if they like followed me in the kitchen and found him there making dinner or something. like as if they'd be thinking "what are you doing here in your own home making dinner" haha
you know if its distracting you, i wouldn't have my back turned snuggling with my hubby but if hubby needs to come tell me something or wants to come hang out in the environment, so be it.

[Ariana]

Yes my husband does all the time! I tell my families upfront that my husband works from home a lot and that he is here until 9am and then is home again at 4pm when he goes in to his office. I also tell them routinely about interactions he has with the kids because the kids love him. He is the fun guy who never lays down the law ::

[Play Care]

For some reason when I initially read the thread title it brought to mind the provider on here who used to tell us she and her hubby would make out (and more) during nap time.

But that was NOT what you meant. ::::

[Gemma]

I would assume that anyone living in my provider’s household will be around my children....it’s kind of a no-brainer. sometimes spouses have days off.

That^^^

[SpringBear]

I'm definitely of the mindset that home daycare is just that. Anyone who lives in the home could be present at any point, and involved in anyway (as long as appropriate). I can't imagine expecting my husband to stay clear. If anything, I'd encourage him to be around to give me any amount of little breaks to get stuff done.

[Unregistered]

My wife doesn’t “visit”. She’s a part of this home and this family. The classroom area is part of the main area of the house, so if she’s home she interacts with me & DCKs. She subs for me occasionally. But even if she’s not doing daycare stuff she’s not barred from any part of the house just because I’m working. If any DCP has a problem with my wife’s presence they can find other care.

This right here! My husband lives in this house! He pays the mortgage. He works shift work and is off at least two weekdays every week so he is here. He does what he wants in his own home (within reason of course LOL). I tell every parent that he is here a lot and that he will be helping out with the kids. I have never had a parent object to it! As a matter of fact most are very happy to know he's here. He does projects with the kids, helps me take them for walks, takes them outside at times to play, etc. My son is also here nearly every day for lunch and my daughter and granddaughter drop by to visit at times. I only deal with one or two families at a time so there are never more than 3 or 4 kids here total. If a parent objected they would NOT be bringing their child here. MY family comes first and I make it a priority to tell parents that first thing in an interview! My daycare families become like family to us and us to them!

[littlefriends]

For some reason when I initially read the thread title it brought to mind the provider on here who used to tell us she and her hubby would make out (and more) during nap time.

But that was NOT what you meant. ::::

WHAT?!

[tenderhearts]

This is my home therefore my husband and son (well he doesn't live here now) were always welcome to come out to the daycare area. They live here, they are enrolled in the background registry. I tell people during every interview that my husband works from home as well and his presence is always here. He doesn't come out and sit down and play with them but he will come out and talk to them here and there. All my parents are ok with this and he develops relationships with kids and parents just as much as I do. I don't think anyone has ever said anything.

[ardeur]

This is my husband's home. He's not a visitor. He's also cleared to be my substitute and is present for all interviews-- mostly for my protection. The kids love him as he brings a different energy to the group than I do.

[dolores]

I let parents know up front that they will see my husband and kids from time to time. They are all background cleared and are subs. The kids love having them around, especially my husband.

[Second Home]

I let everyone who interviews for a spot know that my family members will be around the daycare kids . My husband and 2 adult children are my subs and may watch the kids .

I once interview someone who didn't want my husband home if their child was here and no one but me was allowed to change their diaper , not even my 2 adult daughters . They actually said that they would prefer their child stay in a dirty diaper until I was available to change them even if it meant waiting for an hour or more .
Needless to say I didn't enroll them.

[BoysMom]

Last week I had DH act as a "guest" preschool teacher for me to make paper airplanes with my dcbs(4) as part of our transportation unit. He enjoyed it and the kids loved it.

Unfortunately, that same day he scared the bejeebers out of one of my dcgs (almost 2). She was playing on the floor when he came in the front door after taking our older sons to school and greeted her by name. They're family friends and DH works with dcg's dad, but she isn't familiar with him so she started screaming, ran to me, and curled up in my lap repeating "me scared, me scared" until he left the room. He felt so bad about it, her parents thought it was hilarious.