So Much Stuff!

[Cat Herder]

I ask DCP to take it back out to the car because I no longer allow it here. I get a blank stare.

You will have to enforce your policy or this will never stop. Don't ask. There is no question here. Tell. "Take the bag with you when you leave. Do not bring it back." Blank stare to be met with awkward silence. Bag goes or bag and kid go. DCP understands, she simply does not believe you, yet. Do not apologise. You are not sorry, there has been no misunderstanding.

If you don't respect your policies enough to enforce them, why should they? :hug: Don't make policies you don't believe in enough to enforce.

You got this. You are stronger than you think.

[MrsJ]

Thank you Right- I'm not apologizing for anything. In all this time I've just never seen anything like it. Blank stare. Moments of silence. The handing back.. Repeat.

I really think the kids enjoy time here but I will be looking to move things around we don't mesh well.

[Cat Herder]

In all this time I've just never seen anything like it. Blank stare. Moments of silence. The handing back.. Repeat.
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It is a known business negotiation technique. She is "handling" you. Don't let her.

https://www.communicaid.com/communic...power-silence/ - #2 "Using silence can put you in a more powerful position and suggest that you do not need the deal as much as the other side needs it."

[happymom]

This is my nephew.

He is almost 12 and brings like 10 stuffed animals, a laptop, a tablet an extension cord so his laptop can ALWAYS be plugged in when he visits......

aye aye aye.