Titles

[hwichlaz]

I think a few of you are assuming her name is Mimi. Where I live, Mimi is a common word for Grandma. Not her actual name.

[Homebody]

I think a few of you are assuming her name is Mimi. Where I live, Mimi is a common word for Grandma. Not her actual name.

I did not know this! I was thinking it was her name or nickname. If this is the case then I could kind of understand him not wanting his child to not call someone Mimi if it means grandma and she's not their grandma. But its not his place to tell her that her own kids can't call her that.

[hwichlaz]

I did not know this! I was thinking it was her name or nickname. If this is the case then I could kind of understand him not wanting his child to not call someone Mimi if it means grandma and she's not their grandma. But its not his place to tell her that her own kids can't call her that.

Except he said it’s fine to call her grandma. .


It’s common here to adopt grandmas. The local grade school does it. Each classroom has their own grandma that comes and reads to them every week. lovethislovethis

[Homebody]

Except he said it’s fine to call her grandma. .


It’s common here to adopt grandmas. The local grade school does it. Each classroom has their own grandma that comes and reads to them every week. lovethislovethis

Ahh! I misunderstood that part. Well sounds like he's just being nit picky.

That's kind of cool about the school adopting grandmas. Especially since there's kids that don't have any or live close to theirs.

[Silly Songs]

Isn’t she his mother in law ? ( your sister’s husband’s ) Wouldn’t that make your mother the 2 year old’s grandmother ? Does the child call your mom Mimi outside of daycare ?

[Blackcat31]

Isn’t she his mother in law ? ( your sister’s husband’s ) Wouldn’t that make your mother the 2 year old’s grandmother ? Does the child call your mom Mimi outside of daycare ?

I read it as mamamanda's MIL (the OP's husbands mom) so no relation to her sister or sister's husband but I guess she didn't say either way so now I'm wondering too! ::

[Country Kids]

I honestly think it's very confusing also when someone has to go by several names.

So the child hears others call her Mimi.

OP call her by another name possibly.

Child has to call her something different.

How confusing that would be!


One of my dck always called my husband Uncle **** because I watch my nephew who the child heard call Uncle ****. We and parents just rolled with it until child was old enough to realize he wasn't her uncle.


Yes, I do believe the op is talking about her MIL

[mamamanda]

Isn’t she his mother in law ? ( your sister’s husband’s ) Wouldn’t that make your mother the 2 year old’s grandmother ? Does the child call your mom Mimi outside of daycare ?

She is my husband's mom. The child is my sister's so they are not really related. My children call her Mimi in place of grandma b/c that is what she's requested. She felt grandma sounded too old. ::

I typically call her Mimi as well. So do some of her other friends. Kind of a term of endearment I guess.

I don't have a problem with the parents teaching the child to address an adult as Miss first name. I do have a problem with them expecting me to change what both my children & I call her.
I don't tell the child to call her Mimi, but he hears every other person refer to her that way so I don't think he is processing her as Miss____ as they keep telling him. He is only 2.

[sahm1225]

She is my husband's mom. The child is my sister's so they are not really related. My children call her Mimi in place of grandma b/c that is what she's requested. She felt grandma sounded too old. ::

I typically call her Mimi as well. So do some of her other friends. Kind of a term of endearment I guess.

I don't have a problem with the parents teaching the child to address an adult as Miss first name. I do have a problem with them expecting me to change what both my children & I call her.
I don't tell the child to call her Mimi, but he hears every other person refer to her that way so I don't think he is processing her as Miss____ as they keep telling him. He is only 2.

I think he’s being disrespectful expecting you to change how you and your kids refer to her, I am old fashioned and I feel that an adult should have a title before their name, BUT Mimi is a term of endearment and how she wants to be called. It’s not like kids say ‘mrs.grandma’ so why should it be miss Mimi?? ::

Plus The kid is TWO. It’s not like he’s old enough to understand

[Jdy2222]

As a young (not really, but I feel young) grandmother I would not want to be called Grandma if I didn't want to be.

My mother is called Mima by my kids and the daycare kiddos, and if one had to call her Grandma I think smoke would blow out her ears, but also that she wouldn't respond as that's not her name. She is also Mima to her great grandchildren, not Great Grandma.

When I was growing up we called my grandmothers Grandma Schlichting and Grandma Stecher, each and every time we were speaking to them (and yes, my kids called them Great Grandma Schlichting and Great Grandma Stecher). Personally, I'm glad our family moved past that.

I'd tell BIL to adapt.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I think he’s being disrespectful expecting you to change how you and your kids refer to her, I am old fashioned and I feel that an adult should have a title before their name, BUT Mimi is a term of endearment and how she wants to be called. It’s not like kids say ‘mrs.grandma’ so why should it be miss Mimi?? ::

Plus The kid is TWO. It’s not like he’s old enough to understand

I would tell your sister to tell her husband to knock it off. My husband's mother is called Nana. And when she comes around daycare kids she is called Nana by everyone. She loves it and the kids recognize her as another motherly figure who cares for them. My sister's mil is called gamma. All of our kids call her Gamma S******. My kids have no relation to her or her husband (grandpa w****) other than marriage, but my kids respect them as the matriarch and patriarch of the family. It is not so much the name as it is the statute of the person within the family. Kids are not dumb. They know that the person plays an important role, so for them, the name means nothing, it is just what they call this important person.

I personally would call my sister and find out the real problem. Probably has very little to do with what the child calls your MIL and much more to do with them not wanting her around for some reason or even possibly because of your own lifestyle or her impact on it. I can't imagine having my sister care for my baby and then using a term of endearment as a means to start a fight or cause disruption of that relationship. It doesn't make sense, and if your sister supports her husband's view, I would be wondering what the bigger issue really is, bc something is missing, imo.

[Mad_Pistachio]

Probably has very little to do with what the child calls your MIL and much more to do with them not wanting her around for some reason or even possibly because of your own lifestyle or her impact on it.

I agree with this, the problem is more than Mimi's title (or lack thereof).

some kids call me "miss [name]", while others just go by name. a couple of times, my partner teacher tried correcting them back to miss, and I just gently told her that I don't enforce the title use. they'll have 13 years in school to learn the titles.
as I like to put it, "call me a frying pan, just don't put me on the stove."
if my daughter is with me in the group, she also sometimes calls me by name, almost automatically (because everyone else does). now, THAT feels a little weird...

[daycarediva]

Disciplining a two year old for this makes him an a$$hat.

yup.

I think a few of you are assuming her name is Mimi. Where I live, Mimi is a common word for Grandma. Not her actual name.

I have taken a similar replacement to grandma as well. Because my dd now refers to me with that, some of the kids are as well.

Miss Myname
Myname
Gigi


Don't care what they use to refer to me.



This sounds like the dad is just making an issue out of nothing. I would just tell him- this is what she prefers, and it will be impossible to change in just one child. Get over it. If that's something he pulls his child over, I would kick him in the butt on the way out.

[happymom]

My sister's husband is the one who is upset...makes it trickier.

I haven't finished reading everyone's responses, but this guy can pound sand! ::

[Pestle]

I think a few of you are assuming her name is Mimi. Where I live, Mimi is a common word for Grandma. Not her actual name.

Exactly! My Mimi was my great-grandma. In my family, we've had Mimi and Papa (equal emphasis on both syllables), Nana and Grandfather, Bamps and Memaw, Granee (emphasis on the 2nd syllable) and Grandaddy. On my husband's side, everybody is Mom Mom and Pop Pop (Philly folks). I've heard Rainbow, Gigi, and Mamaw and Papaw around here, too.

Preference needs to go to the person who is actually being addressed! It's not a term of respect if the subject of the term finds it icky. My mother insists on being called by her name.

I dislike "Miss" as a term, but I use it for myself and for all the girls in my program, and "Mister" for all the boys.