My Special Needs Child

[Blackcat31]

I am so sorry that happened, but am so glad you termed. :hug:



Your comment was also racist by specifying white.

Racists come in all colors, ages and socio-economic classes.

No, I don't think you are racist. :hug: Just pi$$ed as we all should be about that DCM's comments.

Many that speak out against bias are also unwittingly doing the same without intent.

[CityGarden]

Thank you all so very much! I have terminated the family. The mom called me the "n word" in a text message late last night. I don't understand why they enrolled if they don't like that I am black. I am going to try and not think about it anymore and move on to the next family.

Thanks again!

I am glad you terminated. Sorry you had to experience that.

I'm a minority and all of my clients look different than me, yet all of them treat me with absolute respect and value the diversity their child is exposed to.

[Cat Herder]

Many that speak out against bias are also unwittingly doing the same without intent.

I had never realized just how much until I took a class in microaggressions in education (optional training).

It was eye opening. I took it for a needed scoring point, but ended up learning a lot.

[Georgiads]

Hi OP I’m glad you resolved this.


p.s. Admin

I accidentally reported this post. I’m on my phone are I thought I was replying! I did not realize until it was too late.

[Blackcat31]

Hi OP I’m glad you resolved this.


p.s. Admin

I accidentally reported this post. I’m on my phone are I thought I was replying! I did not realize until it was too late.

No worries... It happens.

[Pestle]

Your comment was also racist by specifying white.

Racists come in all colors, ages and socio-economic classes.

Cat Herder, I was speaking to a particular power dynamic in America--one that my family has participated in. I may have read it into this situation, but it does exist.

I have a couple of photos of my grandmother as a child. One shows her and her cousin, grinning, in the lap of the black gardener. Another shows her and a bunch of other toddlers in August, GA, in the '30s, hunting for Easter eggs under the care of the respective family maids--all black. None of these people were hired to perform child care. It was simply assumed, by the wealthy white parents, that "the help" would also raise their children for them.

When the maid was fired years later, it was the most traumatic event of my grandmother's life. Her parents never gave a thought to the fact that they'd just sent away their child's real parent. As far as they were concerned, "the help" was all interchangeable.

[Cat Herder]

Cat Herder, I was speaking to a particular power dynamic in America--one that my family has participated in. I may have read it into this situation, but it does exist.
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I know it does and knew what you meant, also being from the deep south. :hug: I also know from my years here that not everyone will understand what you meant when they first read it and hoped to slow the possible coming storm. :hug:

[LostMyMarbles]

I only wanted to chime in on the child's racial slur: this is something learned from another adult, and that adult is highly likely to be her mother - the one going off at you for your son's behavior. kids don't come up with that stuff by themselves.

That's exactly what I was going to say. Racism is learned it's not something we're born with. Obviously that child is hearing it from one of her parents. I would definitely terminate that family.