Hi guys. I think I'm just needing some encouragement. My group is all younger. So after dropping my son off at school it is either 4 or 5 children all under 4 years old depending on the day. I'm working really hard to create a good system and I've been reading a lot and tweaking things to find the best routine for my group. I find that my desire for our group environment and our reality are so very different. I'm by no means expecting perfection. This is a house full of toddlers. We're obviously going to have meltdowns and high emotions at times. But I'd love for all of us to feel a sense of calm and orderly play/activity throughout the day. Does that make sense?
The two biggest challenges seem to be that the baby wants to be held or at least have someone in her face talking to her constantly. She is happy and very pleasant when she's being interacted with. She laughs and coos often. And obviously I want to interact with her, but the second I turn my attention to another little one she screams.
Secondly, one of my 2 year olds is pretty grouchy. He doesn't like for the other kids to touch him at all. If we're all reading together and someone bumps him he screams. He only wants to play with the toy someone else has. Second they put it down he no longer wants it. Also, he is very busy and into things he shouldn't be. He climbs any and all furniture, throws toys, pushes kids...it's just delightful as you can image.
Bottom line is I feel like I am always in clean up mode, bouncing from one mess to the other. It's like I can't be the leader b/c I'm too busy running behind him to lead the others. I plan table activities, preschool plans (more hands on like baking cookies, stringing beads, puzzles, etc), and a craft each day, but most of the time we don't get to much of it b/c I'm just chasing him around the room to keep him out of mischief. (I really do try to babyproof, but our main area is my living room so some furniture can't be moved.)
Is it realistic to think that we will get in a good routine that will allow us to transition smoothly between planned activities, free play, meal times, etc without them yelling at each other or using harsh words constantly? Can my consistent modeling of gentleness make a big difference or am I pretty much just stuck in this toddler meltdown phase?
Also, any tips for helping the 4mo learn to play happily with us without us necessarily engaging her? Thanks so much!
The two biggest challenges seem to be that the baby wants to be held or at least have someone in her face talking to her constantly. She is happy and very pleasant when she's being interacted with. She laughs and coos often. And obviously I want to interact with her, but the second I turn my attention to another little one she screams.
Secondly, one of my 2 year olds is pretty grouchy. He doesn't like for the other kids to touch him at all. If we're all reading together and someone bumps him he screams. He only wants to play with the toy someone else has. Second they put it down he no longer wants it. Also, he is very busy and into things he shouldn't be. He climbs any and all furniture, throws toys, pushes kids...it's just delightful as you can image.

Bottom line is I feel like I am always in clean up mode, bouncing from one mess to the other. It's like I can't be the leader b/c I'm too busy running behind him to lead the others. I plan table activities, preschool plans (more hands on like baking cookies, stringing beads, puzzles, etc), and a craft each day, but most of the time we don't get to much of it b/c I'm just chasing him around the room to keep him out of mischief. (I really do try to babyproof, but our main area is my living room so some furniture can't be moved.)
Is it realistic to think that we will get in a good routine that will allow us to transition smoothly between planned activities, free play, meal times, etc without them yelling at each other or using harsh words constantly? Can my consistent modeling of gentleness make a big difference or am I pretty much just stuck in this toddler meltdown phase?
Also, any tips for helping the 4mo learn to play happily with us without us necessarily engaging her? Thanks so much!
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