Post on DC FB Page

[lovemykidstoo]

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I reply only to messages that are addressed to me personally.

I crack up at my niece. She puts every life event on FB and I mean every life event.

This post was on my private daycare fb page. So like 13 or 14 people are on it so it was directed at just those select few and said I was thankful for them. So it was a bit different than putting it on my regular fb that has 200 or 300 people on it, but I get the jist that it's really not a big deal.

[CeriBear]

You mean...you don't care if a friend several states away ate a burger? But...what if they cooked it themselves? What if they were at a restaurant? Don't you NEED to KNOW?:confused::confused::confused:::

And if they ate it cooked medium-well with fries as a side while their hubby ate his still mooing.::

[midaycare]

And if they ate it cooked medium-well with fries as a side while their hubby ate his still mooing.::

And what type of beer?!?! I have a friend, bless his heart, who needs to share almost every meal and include what type of beer. Then my dieting friends...Ugh. Pics of Shakeology. Pics of keto recipes. Pics of vegan recipes.

I must know a lot of foodies ::

[MarinaVanessa]

In FB if you scroll down the feed any posts you scroll by show that people "saw" it. People don't always read what others post, they just scroll through the hundreds of posts looking for something that pops out at them or that looks interesting.

It's FB, not a personal greeting. Social Media is very informal and very much different than saying something in person to someone. I bet that if you told those 13 people that "saw" the post that you wished them a Happy Thanksgiving that they wouldn't ignore you and everyone would wish you a Happy Thanksgiving in return.

[Cat Herder]

I get it.

I often post 50ish photos of a DCK's Birthday party that I planned, decorated and generally went over the top for only to have them be ignored by the parents of that child. All. The.Time.

Per one of my current DCM's: They don't want their friends, co-workers or family to see the photos. If they click on them, it shows in their feed. It is hard for them to get away with blaming everything negative that happens with their child on their daycare provider if people see those photos.

I post them, anyway. It is still good advertising when the other clients click on them.

[CityGarden]

Personally I see FB as a good marketing tool but not the best way to interact with parents. I use a Shutterfly Site (which is private) and love that I can document our days there. Parents can see it (or not) it has calendar alerts and reminder, sign up list for parties, etc. It also makes it easy to do an end of year scrapbook for the families.

[Ariana]

I get it.

I often post 50ish photos of a DCK's Birthday party that I planned, decorated and generally went over the top for only to have them be ignored by the parents of that child. All. The.Time.

Per one of my current DCM's: They don't want their friends, co-workers or family to see the photos. If they click on them, it shows in their feed. It is hard for them to get away with blaming everything negative that happens with their child on their daycare provider if people see those photos.

I post them, anyway. It is still good advertising when the other clients click on them.

In a private group that doesn’t happen. They can like freely without it going to their newsfeed .

[Ariana]

Oh, I definitely wouldn't read anything into it if I were you. I rarely "like" or respond to anything on FB. I mainly use Facebook for marketing my childcare. That and the childcare group chat. All my friends do the birthdays and the "hashtag blessed" stuff I rarely reply to much of it. Unless something is actually really amusing or interesting. I would have to reply to 20 or more "Happy Thanksgiving" posts if I were to reply to them. It just seems silly. Because then the next day it's 20 "Black Friday, Everyone!" And then it's everyone's "I'm Thankful for..." And then it's "Small Business Saturday" and then it's "Cyber Monday" by then it's someone else's birthday and the next day it's "HAPPY NEW YEAR!" and on and on day after day I just cruise through.

It seems silly to respond to the person who cares for your child every day? I think there is a difference between that and what you’re describing. I am also on Twitter and you know the crap that is on there! I ignore 99% of it except when my daughters teachers post something. I go out of my way to acknowledge it.

Clearly I am in the minority!

[Cat Herder]

In a private group that doesn’t happen. They can like freely without it going to their newsfeed .

I know. Mine is not a private group. Just a normal FB page.

It is too old to change it now. ::

[Mom2Two]

I wouldn't read too much into it. With all the stuff that people have going on during Thanksgiving, they are probably just tuning daycare and work out as blissfully as we tune them out during breaks.

After all, for most dcparents, dropping kids off and then getting them home for dinner off is part of their work life, which they probably want to forget about for a few days.

They are clients, not family.

[lovemykidstoo]

It seems silly to respond to the person who cares for your child every day? I think there is a difference between that and what you’re describing. I am also on Twitter and you know the crap that is on there! I ignore 99% of it except when my daughters teachers post something. I go out of my way to acknowledge it.

Clearly I am in the minority!

I feel the same. This was a private fb page specifically for my dc families. There are only 13 to 14 of them and I said happy thanksgiving and how I was thankful for them. I think it's so different than a regular fb page post. For them not to even say anything at all I thought was a rude thing, but then again the child I have for 50 hours a week and they live right down the road, once again I see daddy home at 4:00 and doesn't pick him up until after 5:00, so why should I be surprised. That's the mentality I'm working with.

[AmyKidsCo]

To me a “like” is both an agreement and an acknowledgment. So if someone posted “baby girl arrived 7am this morning” I would hit “like” as an acknowledgement. If someone said “I hate Christmas traffic” I would hit “like” in agreement.

Either way I think it is rude to not acknowledge that someone said something. If I went into a room and said “Happy Thanksgiving everyone” and everyone looked at me and then returned to doing whatever they were doing wouldn’t that be rude? I think so!

I see it as more of an agreement, not necessarily an acknowledgement. For instance, if someone is ranting and I don't agree I won't like the post, even to acknowledge that I read it.

However, in your case it would've been polite for them to reply Happy Thanksgiving to you also.

In any case you're a step ahead of me - I didn't post any Thanksgiving greeting on my business or personal FB pages.

[Blackcat31]

It seems silly to respond to the person who cares for your child every day? I think there is a difference between that and what you’re describing. I am also on Twitter and you know the crap that is on there! I ignore 99% of it except when my daughters teachers post something. I go out of my way to acknowledge it.

Clearly I am in the minority!

On the flip side, I'd feel a bit offended that I wasn't told face to face verses on social media.

For example my BIL's birthday was a few weeks before mine. I bought him a card, put some money inside and told him Happy Birthday when I saw him.

When my birthday came, I got a text at 8PM saying "Happy Birthday".
It felt cold and insincere. Almost like an after thought.

As I said previously, I don't understand alot about FB but wishing someone good tidings for anything feel best (to me) when said directly to the recipient. When posted on social media MY personal thoughts are that they didn't care enough to say it TO me.

OP~ I am NOT saing you were wrong in posting anything.... Whatever works for each person..... it's not my place to say.
I am just sharing my personal perspective.

[Ariana]

On the flip side, I'd feel a bit offended that I wasn't told face to face verses on social media.

For example my BIL's birthday was a few weeks before mine. I bought him a card, put some money inside and told him Happy Birthday when I saw him.

When my birthday came, I got a text at 8PM saying "Happy Birthday".
It felt cold and insincere. Almost like an after thought.

As I said previously, I don't understand alot about FB but wishing someone good tidings for anything feel best (to me) when said directly to the recipient. When posted on social media MY personal thoughts are that they didn't care enough to say it TO me. )

I agree! Some people replace personal sentiments with FB nowadays and I am not a fan for sure. An aquaintance who lives far away, sure but not close family.

[daycarediva]

I’m glad I’m not the only one who loathes Facebook. I used to have an account and almost never posted there but a few months ago I deleted my page. I got tired of seeing all my friends posting silly selfies and telling me what they ate for dinner.

RIGHT! What is with selfies? I have like 20 pictures of my grandmother, and kids born today will have 20,000+ selfies and sexy poses of grandma, AND know what she ate for lunch on 9/17/12. (gag me)

I get it.

I often post 50ish photos of a DCK's Birthday party that I planned, decorated and generally went over the top for only to have them be ignored by the parents of that child. All. The.Time.

Per one of my current DCM's: They don't want their friends, co-workers or family to see the photos. If they click on them, it shows in their feed. It is hard for them to get away with blaming everything negative that happens with their child on their daycare provider if people see those photos.

I post them, anyway. It is still good advertising when the other clients click on them.

That's awful.

It seems silly to respond to the person who cares for your child every day? I think there is a difference between that and what you’re describing. I am also on Twitter and you know the crap that is on there! I ignore 99% of it except when my daughters teachers post something. I go out of my way to acknowledge it.

Clearly I am in the minority!

This is me. I only create a twitter to follow my kids teachers, and EVERYTHING they post, every photo of my kid gets a 'like' as an acknowledgement.

In this case, and a private page, I would most definitely say Happy Thanksgiving and that my family was thankful for you, too. (which I did, to 12+ teachers on twitter. To my son's HORROR, even the one he doesn't like)