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So I have these 2 long term parents/clients and they currently bring both of their kids to my daycare. I have always had a good relationship with both of them. These DCPs have been having marital issues since before the pregnancy of the second child (I don't know why they would have a second child, but I digress). Things have finally escalated and now it looks like they will be separating and eventually divorcing. There has been no abuse or cheating from either of them. They are both just a little weird, flaky and difficult with each other but pretty normal to me.
We are in a VERY high cost of living area. She makes more money than him now, but that wasn't the case before. He was working as a (boots on the ground?) contractor overseas making a lot more money than he is now but she complained all the time about his absence for 2-3 months a pop so she made him quit. He was able to get a job here but for only $36k a year. Here's the reason for that info....
At 36k a year, there's no way he can even really afford a 1 bedroom apartment on his own here plus child support. He is set to return from out of state new job training in 1 month. Due to their current income, they will have to most likely live together in the jointly owned house during the separation. She doesn't want him there even though he is entitled to be there. She's a bit weird, flaky and immature. For example, they got in a mild argument once and she took they kids to a furnished apartment complex, paid the $1200 for one month and then returned home 3 days later of her own accord like nothing happened and wasted $1200.
So now, she's trying to do something similar except its going to directly affect me. She wants to empty their house of everything (while he's at work for training, out of state) and move to her folks house for just a month or two. Her parents are three hours away in the country. Supposedly her job has OKed this, but I have some doubts about that. Of course she does not want to pay for daycare during this time away (even though they can afford it) but then wants to come right on back after 1-2 months of pouting at her parents house. I can tell you the husband will be a lot less likely to pay his half of daycare while she's at her parent house out in the middle of nowhere, working from there all day with the kids.
How exactly should I convey to her that she/they has to pay for the month or two she leaves and if she leaves and doesn't pay, she won't be welcomed back. I also want to express to her that she's risking losing care for her two kids over doing something really emotional and unwise (like she did before with the apartment). She's fairly picky over her DC accommodations so she won't be happy if she has to find a new place.
We are in a VERY high cost of living area. She makes more money than him now, but that wasn't the case before. He was working as a (boots on the ground?) contractor overseas making a lot more money than he is now but she complained all the time about his absence for 2-3 months a pop so she made him quit. He was able to get a job here but for only $36k a year. Here's the reason for that info....
At 36k a year, there's no way he can even really afford a 1 bedroom apartment on his own here plus child support. He is set to return from out of state new job training in 1 month. Due to their current income, they will have to most likely live together in the jointly owned house during the separation. She doesn't want him there even though he is entitled to be there. She's a bit weird, flaky and immature. For example, they got in a mild argument once and she took they kids to a furnished apartment complex, paid the $1200 for one month and then returned home 3 days later of her own accord like nothing happened and wasted $1200.
So now, she's trying to do something similar except its going to directly affect me. She wants to empty their house of everything (while he's at work for training, out of state) and move to her folks house for just a month or two. Her parents are three hours away in the country. Supposedly her job has OKed this, but I have some doubts about that. Of course she does not want to pay for daycare during this time away (even though they can afford it) but then wants to come right on back after 1-2 months of pouting at her parents house. I can tell you the husband will be a lot less likely to pay his half of daycare while she's at her parent house out in the middle of nowhere, working from there all day with the kids.
How exactly should I convey to her that she/they has to pay for the month or two she leaves and if she leaves and doesn't pay, she won't be welcomed back. I also want to express to her that she's risking losing care for her two kids over doing something really emotional and unwise (like she did before with the apartment). She's fairly picky over her DC accommodations so she won't be happy if she has to find a new place.
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