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Yes to all of the above.
I'm thinking through exactly what I'm going to say to mom.
I just want to check...babies who aren't super hungry will still drink for at least a few minutes, right? He's 10 weeks old--he's got the reflex.
** DD was tube fed til 8 mth adjusted age and DS was 100% bf so I'm not a super authority on bottle feeding littles.Comment
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Yes to all the above. I had a baby who just couldn't take a bottle. Every day I tried, every day it didn't work. Dcm had to come and breast feed every day for about 3 months until baby took a bottle successfully.Comment
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Composing text:
Hi Dcm, Tomorrow, when you drop off, can we just take a few minutes to give dcb an ounce or more on his bottle. I need to see that he is eating well before I can have him here. If you think he might be sleeping, just wait til he is awake to bring him."
Aaaaand...it's sent.Comment
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and... what time does she drop off?
Did she reply to the text?
Hoping she really is trying to help baby and not just saying the words. That is awfully unfair to baby.
If she does come for drop off but baby won't eat I would tell mom you will have to call her for feeding every 3 hours. If it's disruptive to your day, you might have to have her actually pick him up and then return when he is fully fed.
Other wise, if it were me Id simply refuse to take baby until you actually witness a full bottle fed to him.Comment
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I don't have any experience with this because kids here are home until 1 year but I did have a hard time getting my own to take a bottle. Inhad to try a few different nipples and only the NUK brand worked and only my DH could feed. I would never have left my infant knowing they could not bottle feed properly and consistently.
I was in a wedding/parenting forum a few years ago and it is VERY common practice for parents to tell other parents to not bother trying them with the bottle, just get the daycare provider to do it. It was infuriating for me. They said that for many things like weaning from pacifiers and toiletting as well. Not sure if this is why so many infants are starting not able to drink from a bottle.Comment
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So feeding went well enough at drop off that I did take him. And later in the morning he took a few ounces for me.
But then later, he was crying again, and I tried feeding him again, and while it was better than yesterday, it wasn't great. But at least it was better. He got tired though so I put him for a nap.
Maybe he's learning fast or maybe feeding him when he's tired isn't a good idea. Maybe I need to learn his routine better and then it will all work better.Comment
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I see that attitude and behavior with parents today. I only kept the infant because overall the family is great and I have her two year old brother. They swore to me they worked with her all summer to get her ready. I thought it was just the baby being stubborn since mom isn't around. I got lucky in the fact she did start taking the bottle after a few days of trying.
I then found out that their idea of trying was dad doing it like two or three times with mom right there.
I was pretty annoyed since they both were off work all summer and could of gotten her ready.
My sil is headed down this path with her newborn. She is a first time mom(and takes no ones advice at all). I asked her if she was getting the baby ready for daycare. She thinks getting her to take a bottle right before she goes is acceptable. I see the daycare calling her to come get her baby a lot that first week.
No matter how great a provider we are we cannot replicate the exact behaviors here. We don't have one baby to snuggle all day. Parents need to get their babies prepared for daycare. I have 4 infants in my care. Two are breastfed and two are not. I'll give you a guess which ones are my easier babies. I sent one of them home today. She would not stop crying after 3 hours I had to call mom.
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AND I will not potty train or start it. Parents need to start that first. I will assist when here. Been there , done that. The kids will not train if parents aren't doing it.:
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If he is only there four hours, I would bet the crying was due to being tired, versus hunger. If mom fed him and he ate well, I would give him a bit of tummy time and play, then lay him down for nap. Depending on how much he eats at each feed, I would probably be feeding him every two-three hours, so since he is only there for four hours and fed before coming (or at drop off in this case), I would only offer a bottle between naps and possibly before pick up, so he won't be cranky on the way home . Hope that makes sense.
Example:
7:00 am - arrives fed
7:45-9 am- nap
9:00- bottle
9:45-11 am- nap
11:00- bottle, goes homeComment
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THANK YOU! I have been meaning to start a "Baby Tips" thread, or "Babies for Dummies," because that's how I feel!
Weird on the feeding though, is that on baby's log, she put down today that he fed from like 6:05 til 6:20 or maybe it was 7:05. But it was only 15 minutes (bf).
Now, I know that my body doesn't work like everyone elses. I have fibrocystic breasts and it's hard to get milk out. In the NICU, in the pump lounge, I would go in to pump and I'd hear another mom come in, pump, and leave, then another, then another. Pumping or BFing just took forever for me.
But only 15 minutes from mom? That seems so short to me.Comment
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I have more experience with bottle fed, but for my own babies, I would do 15-20 min on each breast, because it seemed to leave them the most satisfied. Also, when I pumped, I pretty much got 3-4 ounces total after pumping each side for 10-15 minutes. I only lasted for 2 months with each though, so take that advice for what it is worth.::
As for the baby, I try to get them on a three hour schedule eventually so, wake up, eat, play, sleep, repeat. In your case, it may be a bit tougher because he only comes for 4 hours, but they usually fall right in to the routine as long as you stay consistent.Comment
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