Mom Is Sad...Well Tough!!

[Unregistered]

Have had a mom waiting for daycare with me so had to extend maternity leave to 18 months for an opening to come up with me. I have visited on and off with her and made my criteria known. No bottles, no rocking to sleep and no late pickups. Well she starts next week so had her visit again with him only to learn he is still on the boob (he was pawing at her shirt the whole hour he was here) and learned she nurses him to sleep and then sleeps in their bed with them. He has never slept in his crib so guess what a nightmare this kid is going to have coming here!!!! I told her he will have a very difficult time adjusting to a cup and sleeping in a pack and play. She was really sad and asked if I could at least lay near the pack in play so he doesn't feel abandoned. Umm no, I have 4 other toddlers to bed down and won't be able to devote all my attention on one child. I told her he would eventually will get used to our routine but don't be surprised if the first few weeks are traumatizing.
Why do parents do this to their children. They know they are going to daycare not a one-on-one situation so why would they not prepare them a little better? Hard for me to feel sympathy for her but I feel bad knowing what is coming , not only for me but for the other kids that will have to listen to him.

[Leigh]

Have had a mom waiting for daycare with me so had to extend maternity leave to 18 months for an opening to come up with me. I have visited on and off with her and made my criteria known. No bottles, no rocking to sleep and no late pickups. Well she starts next week so had her visit again with him only to learn he is still on the boob (he was pawing at her shirt the whole hour he was here) and learned she nurses him to sleep and then sleeps in their bed with them. He has never slept in his crib so guess what a nightmare this kid is going to have coming here!!!! I told her he will have a very difficult time adjusting to a cup and sleeping in a pack and play. She was really sad and asked if I could at least lay near the pack in play so he doesn't feel abandoned. Umm no, I have 4 other toddlers to bed down and won't be able to devote all my attention on one child. I told her he would eventually will get used to our routine but don't be surprised if the first few weeks are traumatizing.
Why do parents do this to their children. They know they are going to daycare not a one-on-one situation so why would they not prepare them a little better? Hard for me to feel sympathy for her but I feel bad knowing what is coming , not only for me but for the other kids that will have to listen to him.

Lay by the pack and play? That's one I haven't heard before! It's gonna be rough. I don't even take kids like that anymore-I just can't handle it like I used to.

[Ariana]

I remember telling my sister to try and get my niece adjusted before she started daycare but my sister just did not want to. I felt soooo bad for my niece. parents do what is best for them, not their child and they don't understand how traumatizing it is for the children to be in a strange place adjusting to a new routine.

It is absolutrly the most heartbreaking aspect of my job but someone has to do it

[Rockgirl]

Have had a mom waiting for daycare with me so had to extend maternity leave to 18 months for an opening to come up with me. I have visited on and off with her and made my criteria known. No bottles, no rocking to sleep and no late pickups. Well she starts next week so had her visit again with him only to learn he is still on the boob (he was pawing at her shirt the whole hour he was here) and learned she nurses him to sleep and then sleeps in their bed with them. He has never slept in his crib so guess what a nightmare this kid is going to have coming here!!!! I told her he will have a very difficult time adjusting to a cup and sleeping in a pack and play. She was really sad and asked if I could at least lay near the pack in play so he doesn't feel abandoned. Umm no, I have 4 other toddlers to bed down and won't be able to devote all my attention on one child. I told her he would eventually will get used to our routine but don't be surprised if the first few weeks are traumatizing.
Why do parents do this to their children. They know they are going to daycare not a one-on-one situation so why would they not prepare them a little better? Hard for me to feel sympathy for her but I feel bad knowing what is coming , not only for me but for the other kids that will have to listen to him.

I would think twice before enrolling this family. It's likely to be extremely rough, for the child, you, and your other dc kids. The fact that dcm waited for an opening with you and didn't seek other childcare is on her, not you. Not preparing her child for group care, especially with so much time to do so....that's just rotten!

[LysesKids]

I would think twice before enrolling this family. It's likely to be extremely rough, for the child, you, and your other dc kids. The fact that dcm waited for an opening with you and didn't seek other childcare is on her, not you. Not preparing her child for group care, especially with so much time to do so....that's just rotten!

I totally agree... considering I do infants only, mom had plenty of time to prepare; the fact she didn't - in my eyes it looks like a disaster starting from day one.

[sharlan]

Are you sure mom is not setting things up so she can quit her job?

I had one do that awhile back. Baby took bottle just fine, was able to leave baby with dad for the day, blah, blah, blah.

Yep, first day called for noon time nursing and finally sent baby home at 3. He cried nonstop because he was hungry. Refused 3 different bottles that mom brought saying he would take all 3.

Mom admitted the next day that he didn't take a bottle, she didn't even try. She wanted to quit her job and when he wouldn't take a bottle, that gave her an excuse.

I learned from here to see proof that the child will take a bottle.

[Ariana]

Are you sure mom is not setting things up so she can quit her job?

I had one do that awhile back. Baby took bottle just fine, was able to leave baby with dad for the day, blah, blah, blah.

Yep, first day called for noon time nursing and finally sent baby home at 3. He cried nonstop because he was hungry. Refused 3 different bottles that mom brought saying he would take all 3.

Mom admitted the next day that he didn't take a bottle, she didn't even try. She wanted to quit her job and when he wouldn't take a bottle, that gave her an excuse.

I learned from here to see proof that the child will take a bottle.

She needs to check herslef into a mental hospital! Seriously disturbing that she would do that to her own child