Potty Training Compromises

[Leigh]

COMPLETELY DISAGREE. Not sure how many kids you have potty trained but if this has been your experience then you are training them way too early.

I have to agree with this. The last kids that potty trained here did it in 1 day and 3 days. I would never want to go through, or put my child through, a year of potty training stress.

[lovemykidstoo]

I have had a daycare for 16 years and have really not had huge issues with potty training.....until now. Maybe someone here that has had great success can get me past this roadblock. I have a dcb that turned 3 in April. Parents gave me notice that he was going off to full time preschool in September, so he wouldn't be with me anymore. Fine, I filled his spot with someone starting in November. The glitch is, he's not trained. We've been going through training since April. I went through months of putting him on the toilet every hour and had him go. He went each time. Then he would pee in his pullups or diaper, whatever he had on. Never has pooped on the toilet for me yet. He typically goes during naptime. Parents want him to wear underwear here and say that's the problem. I say no way because he has multiple accidents a week. He's here 50 hours. They say, he wears underwear at home with 90% success. So to wear underwear here, you need 100% success for 2 weeks straight. Them telling me that I think is even kinda funny because he's here until 5:30 every day and by the time he gets home and eats, they maybe have him 3 hours a day awake, so how much success is that? To go to preschool he has to do everything on his own. He's nowhere near that and it starts in 2 weeks. Any tips? He may be with me longer than they thought. The preschool has no exceptions to their rule

[Blackcat31]

I have had a daycare for 16 years and have really not had huge issues with potty training.....until now. Maybe someone here that has had great success can get me past this roadblock. I have a dcb that turned 3 in April. Parents gave me notice that he was going off to full time preschool in September, so he wouldn't be with me anymore. Fine, I filled his spot with someone starting in November. The glitch is, he's not trained. We've been going through training since April. I went through months of putting him on the toilet every hour and had him go. He went each time. Then he would pee in his pullups or diaper, whatever he had on. Never has pooped on the toilet for me yet. He typically goes during naptime. Parents want him to wear underwear here and say that's the problem. I say no way because he has multiple accidents a week. He's here 50 hours. They say, he wears underwear at home with 90% success. So to wear underwear here, you need 100% success for 2 weeks straight. Them telling me that I think is even kinda funny because he's here until 5:30 every day and by the time he gets home and eats, they maybe have him 3 hours a day awake, so how much success is that? To go to preschool he has to do everything on his own. He's nowhere near that and it starts in 2 weeks. Any tips? He may be with me longer than they thought. The preschool has no exceptions to their rule

90% is NOT trained.
Why are YOU devoting so much time to this when its not really netting you anything? Not even their money after they leave? Which I would NOT agree to keep him now since they already gave notice and you filled his space.

He isn't ready. They might be but clearly he isn't.

Like I said, 90% isn't trained and until he can wear underwear with a 100% rate at home he would NOT be wearing underwear at my house either. Not unless the parents are willing to put down a $1000 deposit to cover any and all cleaning costs associated with the 10% of the time he isn't trained.

[lovemykidstoo]

90% is NOT trained.
Why are YOU devoting so much time to this when its not really netting you anything? Not even their money after they leave? Which I would NOT agree to keep him now since they already gave notice and you filled his space.

He isn't ready. They might be but clearly he isn't.

Like I said, 90% isn't trained and until he can wear underwear with a 100% rate at home he would NOT be wearing underwear at my house either. Not unless the parents are willing to put down a $1000 deposit to cover any and all cleaning costs associated with the 10% of the time he isn't trained.

I couldn't agree more with everything you said. When the dad told me that he was 90% trained at home I said, oh is he telling you he has to go and is he taking his pants on and off by himself? Well, I ask him if he needs to go and then I suggest that he does go if he says no. I said "Oh so he really isn't doing it on his own then". Dad said nothing. Mom asked me if I had room for him because she's worried he won't be ready (he's not) and I told her he could stay until November. I'm not telling my new family that I can't take them now. My new family is a new baby so it could be November 1, it could be November 21 depends on when she delivers. This dcb's preschool has a December session, so maybe he'll be ready then. If he's not, he can stay with me until the baby comes and then they can figure something else out. So truly, no skin off me if he's trained or not. She has asked me about 8 times to wear underwear and I keep telling her the same thing about 2 weeks. I said, sorry, I'm not cleaning everything when he has an accident. Not happening. Oh not to mention, they just moved, so you know how changes in a toddlers life affects things too. They are determined to have him go to full time preschool because the dad works for the district and it's a fraction of the cost of here, so oh well.