Suspended For Accidents Article

[jen]

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I KNOW that this school has been specifically set up for children who are potty trained...BUT my child is special. It is normal for a child to have accidents so that means that this school must change its policy to accommodate MY child.

I want THIS school and if my child doesn't fit the parameters of their prgram, then they need to change the program. Because it all about ME and what I want.

[cillybean83]

my kid was completely potty trained and in underwear before he was 2, child readiness is a cop out and an excuse for parents to be lazy. I never understood the big deal of "don't potty train too early, you'll mess your kid up for life!" Seriously? It's pee and poop, not espionage. I would think that letting a 3 or 4 year old child poop on themselves and think that's totally acceptable would warped them far more than toilet training...

[Unregistered]

I work with 3 year olds at a large daycare and we DO have group potty breaks. Depending on the day, we can have between 12-18 children in our class and we break before snack and after lunch. Most of our kids came into class potty-trained, but we have 3 or 4 that we initiated the potty-training with parents; most were successful. We do have occasional accidents. We had one 3 year old completely potty trained who went on vacation for 3 weeks and came back wearing diapers. When we asked mom what happened, she blamed the child and then switched to pull-ups. As far as we are concerned pull-ups are the same as diapers and in most cases do more harm than good. Most kids are not fooled into thinking they are wearing underwear and will treat them as diapers.

When I sent my own children to pre-school, I did not have a choice. If children weren't potty-trained, they could not go. And I totally agree with that.

[nannyde]

My biggest issue here, is it was mentioned that the girl was potty trained at home, had accidents many times at this school, and when switched to a new school no accidents?!?!

This could also be a case of parental lying. The parents could be saying the child is accident free at home and saying the few days/weeks she has been in the new day care she is accident free but until we hear from the new day care and they have had her for a length of time similiar to the time she was in the first preschool we won't really know.

Potty training "success" is a very common area to have parental lying.
What is important for the provider is to base their evaluation of the child's readiness or abilities based on the childs performance in CARE. It's not important what this child did at home or did at the day care after she left their care. What IS important is the childs inability while she was in their care. That's all the know FOR SURE.

Potty training ability can often be associated with giftedness and can also be directly related to money. Whenever either of these is in question and a part of the decision making it's important to consider parental lying.

[momofsix]

"Rosso went through a potty-training class in the summer. "
Obvioussly that went well:: I've always wondered of those classes come with a money back guarantee?!?::
I think the school was well within their rights. She knew before she enrolled her chid that she had to be trained-that's probably the only reason she took "the class"!

[Mrs.Ky]

I agree with school too, if this girl would of been in my care and peeing her pants alot she would of been out the door I do NOT accept children who are 3 or older and not potty trained UNLESS they have a special need. Parents are lazy these days and this is why we have 3 and 4 year olds running around in diapers its just gross. Kids can start training anywhere between 18 months to 2 and half years old. Sorry I just feel very strongly about kids peeing and pooping in diapers at the age of 3 or older.

[Mrs.Ky]

my kid was completely potty trained and in underwear before he was 2, child readiness is a cop out and an excuse for parents to be lazy. I never understood the big deal of "don't potty train too early, you'll mess your kid up for life!" Seriously? It's pee and poop, not espionage. I would think that letting a 3 or 4 year old child poop on themselves and think that's totally acceptable would warped them far more than toilet training...

AMEN!!!!!::

[QualiTcare]

This could also be a case of parental lying. The parents could be saying the child is accident free at home and saying the few days/weeks she has been in the new day care she is accident free but until we hear from the new day care and they have had her for a length of time similiar to the time she was in the first preschool we won't really know.

Potty training "success" is a very common area to have parental lying.
What is important for the provider is to base their evaluation of the child's readiness or abilities based on the childs performance in CARE. It's not important what this child did at home or did at the day care after she left their care. What IS important is the childs inability while she was in their care. That's all the know FOR SURE.

Potty training ability can often be associated with giftedness and can also be directly related to money. Whenever either of these is in question and a part of the decision making it's important to consider parental lying.

true - she probably only got accepted into the preschool in the first place because she LIED and said she was potty trained. i saw this at head start a couple years ago - a boy wearing pull ups. i asked the teacher, "i thought they had to be potty trained" and she said they were, and that mom said he was - but of course the aide is the one who got the privelege of changing his pull ups so they let it go. i'm sure if the aide would've refused (because that is NOT part of the job) he would've had to leave the program that he was accepted into based on a lie.