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My boyfriend has his daughter every other week. When he has her, shes comes to my daycare and i dont charge him because he lives with me and pays other bills so its not like hes getting it for free. But her mom wants to use my daycare as well but is under the impression that it will be free to her too. Is it wrong of me to charge her? I honestly dont want to do her any favors and feel she needs to pay me.
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You can do whatever you want. But I find it odd that she knows that it's free for him to send the child to you. I would say that you have made an arrangement with him for payment and that if she wants to send DCG to you that the rate each week she comes will be X. Make up a contract and policy Handbook and have her agree to all policies and to be paid before the week behind (either Monday or Friday for the upcoming week). Also have late payment fees and don't provide care if the bill isn't paid. -
I wouldn't touch that with a 10 ft pole...
BUT I understand she's really already taking up a full-time spot, because unless you find a client with a schedule the opposite of hers, you're not going to fill the weeks she's not there. If that's how you're feeling about it, I'd offer it to her at your regular rate, and let her know that she needs to follow the same rules as everyone else, especially pick up and drop off times.Comment
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And explain that when she's with her dad, she's not in daycare, she lives there for those weeks. And he's paying bills to cover her and himself.Comment
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It is none of her business the arrangement you have with your BF. I would simply let her know the amount owed and leave it at that. If she asks, let her know that the financial arrangements with others in your daycare is not a matter for discussion. They are seperate people who just happen to "own" the same kid.
The only situation you might want to check out is whether or not your BF will have to help pay for the daycare if she ends up paying full fee. I assume he contributes child support? Perhaps you could negotiate daycare as part of that.Comment
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Well shes only assuming its free for him because we are dating
and its true.
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There is no child support right now since its 50/50. Im thinking now that maybe she should find her own daycare during her time. I could see this being a problem if shes mad at him. She could ruin my business...Comment
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Could she apply and qualify for child care assistance?
If so, I'd encourage her to do so.
It's nice that the child could potentially have consistent care from week to week with the same caregiver but I certainly wouldn't do it for free. Or even at a discounted rate.
MOM's time is MOM's issue and just because its your boyfriends child does not mean that free applies to mom too.Comment
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I am of two schools of thought on this. :confused:
Since this is BF and not husband, I'd charge both.
Were this a long term, committed, relationship I'd not charge either as to encourage a strong relationship and status quo with dad (things may get ugly later).
*Of great importance is the fact that I don't have to count children who live in the home into my numbers.
It would only be my time and effort involved, not losing 1/6th of my income. I am a parent and adorer of children in general, not a saint, after-all. I do plan to retire some day. ::::
- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
I would also like dck to have consistent care, but yeah, dcm could easily ruin your business. Adults tend to act less "adulty" when it comes to their children and divorces. She could be just wanting "free". She could be wanting to get more information on your life to file for full custody. She could be a saint.
But you're not married to this guy and you don't know her intentions. Protect yourself.Comment
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This. No way would I touch this!Comment
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I would charge your standard rate. And if she asks if dad pays you ii would simply say that your rate is $$
And ask if she'd like to see a contract and review your policies.
I wouldnt respond to any questions.Comment
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