Daycare Dad Getting Too Close...Help!

[Ariana]

Thank you all for your answers! It seems I'm not alone in having a creeper dad issue, which is unsettling. Our aftercare program does have a director, however the program runs in 5 different schools in 3 towns. The director has her own office and is only on-site if need be, and it's usually only for an hour. I told her about this man sometime around December, when he started acting strange. She told me she would think about what to do, as it was a weird situation. But then a few days later my site coordinator (she isn't the director, but is a fellow coworker who oversees our site-same age as me) told him off, as I stated in my original post. I informed the director of that and it was then forgotten. But now it's starting up again, 10x worse than it was. We finish school next week, so I hope the summer break cools his jets. But what if it doesn't and it continues into Sept? What I will do is inform my director of all this and let her know that if it continues again come Sept, SHE will have to step in personally to fix it. The site coordinator can only do so much, but the director hold the ultimate power. Thanks everyone! I will let you know what director says

I have a feeling summer is not going to stop him. I don't want to scare you more but chances are he might know where you live or will know eventually. Keep yourself safe please!!!

[Stormie_IV]

I have a feeling summer is not going to stop him. I don't want to scare you more but chances are he might know where you live or will know eventually. Keep yourself safe please!!!

I actually live in town AND he lives 2 blocks away. I'm sure he knows where I live, people like that look you up. Thank god I live with people and not alone.

[Stormie_IV]

Director got back to me and agreed that his behavior is very creepy. She told me since we only have a week of school left, to just hide when he comes. I am allowed to leave the room and do what I have to do. If it continues in Sept, she will then step in and have a talk with him. I'm glad its now out there and she is fully aware of the situation and ready to step in.

[Meeko]

What about your fiance? Could it be arranged for him to be there and give him "the evil eye"? Stand with his arm around you etc. Would he be willing to tell the guy that you have requested he not speak to you?

[Stormie_IV]

What about your fiance? Could it be arranged for him to be there and give him "the evil eye"? Stand with his arm around you etc. Would he be willing to tell the guy that you have requested he not speak to you?

Nope. My fiance works for a bank, so he is at work the same time as me. He's in an office though so I am able to call him if need be.

[Rockgirl]

Director got back to me and agreed that his behavior is very creepy. She told me since we only have a week of school left, to just hide when he comes. I am allowed to leave the room and do what I have to do. If it continues in Sept, she will then step in and have a talk with him. I'm glad its now out there and she is fully aware of the situation and ready to step in.

I think it's crappy that your director is handling it in this manner. Dcd has already been warned, and he has continued the behavior, plus some. He should have been termed. Instead, it's on you to hide for a week, then give him another chance to come back and repeat this in the fall. That's not right!

[Unregistered]

I agree That response by the Director is a cop out. But so many people are so deathly afraid of confronting things these days, so they make excuses and then make the problem worse.

I have had creeper dads and creeper co workers men and woman over the years. I am a woman btw. I actually have a bit of a creeper dad at the moment, or should I say man that likes to boast a lot.

Next time you run into him and he corners you can do a few things. 1. Don't focus on him or pay attention to him, act like and make a point of watching out for the kids which is what you should be doing.
2. If he is in any way blocking your view from watching a child then kindly do a hand motion waving him aside so you can see past him forcing him to move over. Keep doing that since you will be scanning the room. 3. I have done this before and it is direct but works. Tell him that you have a great therapist friend and would he like her number? Then act like you are reaching for your phone to get it. Just be straight up like "this is out of my wheelhouse of expertise, I am sorry you are going through this but I can't give you any good advice" If he says "oh no I don't need a therapist", give him a (are you for sure look) Then say. Well "Don't know what to tell you but I really do have to go, I need to be paying attention to the kids" then make your exit.

That should do the trick. Any man who is under the illusion that you are interested in him will know you are not if you mention him going to a therapist It is a real mood/ego killer I am not knocking on therapists, they are great. Men just typically hate them.

[grandmom]

Read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin deBcker! If you can't afford the $5.15 used book price on Amazon, pm me and I'll buy it and ship it to you.

This man can turn dangerous in a breath and you need to be knowledgeable and armed with knowing what to do.

In fact, I think every woman should read this book. It was eye-opening for me.

Please, please take care of yourself. Do not play his games.