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So, I figured out that she just wants to play in that corner. The toys don't matter as long as she has a blanket and her corner. She isolates herself and will talk to herself. I'm letting her be since she is not disrupting the others' play, but I wish she wouldn't go hide so often.
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Aww...does she not play with the other kids at all? Does she 'play' with toys at all? -
thats funny, does she have siblings at home, I'm wondering if she's lonely at home and this is a coping mechanism.Comment
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You know best for your business and your ways.
I wouldn't allow the kids to claim space or toys. In my experience fixation doesn't lead to good play. I want a balanced flexible kid who can go fluidly from one thing to the next without a bump.
If it works for you both then do what works.Comment
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I've been allowing it because it's not all the time, it's when she doesn't want to interact with the others. She IS an only child, but mom is pg, I don't know if that matters.
Nan - So do I just take her out of the corner each time she goes it? She is the one child who i struggle most with. Nothing ever seems term worthy, but frustrating things always.Comment
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I would just put something in the corner to block it or tell her to get up and go play. I have a house full of only children and they don't pull that. It's MY house and MY toys. No "owning" here. If she needs her own space she can go lie down onto her own cot, bed, pack n play, or whatever she sleeps in. No toys or anything in her sleep area.
It's a sign to me that she is controlling. I want the kids to equally share and be willing to allow the adults to control. We know best.
Is there any chance she is just really tired? Maybe she needs a good morning nap right when she arrives.Comment
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No Nan, not tired, I even have to actively monitor her (3yo) at nap so she will calm down enough to rest. I think it is that she is controlling. She tries to control a lot around her, and if she doesn't get the attention she wants it's either to her corner, ignoring me all together, or "What about me?????" I ignore the whining for attention and she will be attended to after I do whatever it is we are doing for all the other kids first. When she ignores me nothing I say or do phases her until she gets a time out, then she fake cries, which I also ignore. The corner is the newest coping mechanism for her. I will block it off as best as I can and not let her pick a new spot. She is tough to get through to and I see a lot of her parents in her, which in this case, isn't the greatest thing.Comment
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I have a cozy corner specifically for the children who DO need time and space away from the group. Everyone needs a break away from activity and action from time to time. My cozy corner has a rug, a sheer curtain that can be pulled down, a basket of books and a couple of teddy bears.
I cannot imagine someone not alowing ME some time and space away from what I may find chaotic at times, I see no reason why it should be different for the children I care for.
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Very well said.I have a cozy corner specifically for the children who DO need time and space away from the group. Everyone needs a break away from activity and action from time to time. My cozy corner has a rug, a sheer curtain that can be pulled down, a basket of books and a couple of teddy bears.
I cannot imagine someone not alowing ME some time and space away from what I may find chaotic at times, I see no reason why it should be different for the children I care for.Comment
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