The Dad I Termed

[laundrymom]

The dad I termed sent me an ugly text.


I am beyond myself with what you have done to my son. I didn't enroll him for you to terminate him at your will for bull**** reasons just to make room fornew kids. I will never recommend your business to anybody and I will let everyone know what you have done to my son who is only comfortable in one place and you're taking that from him. He will not be back.* Do not reply to this.*

So I have copied and printed it and put it in their file.

But by his own admission in this text his problem with me is that his son loved me so much and felt so comfortable with me I've hurt him. Right???? Oh and,.... Guess who is keeping the two week deposit!? Yeah,.. This girl!!!!
I am prepared for a state visit none the less.

Now do I reply to his text with

You been misinformed. I am REDUCING the number of families enrolled. If I wanted to "make room for more kids" I would have terminated during the TWO year period your account balance was several weeks to a month behind. I would of then filled the spot with someone who paid on time. But because I DO care about your son I worked with Jenn. Accepting payments late, not charging fees & working weeks unpaid. Yes I will miss Ayden. But I have decided to put my personal needs ahead of my professional ones and reduce my workload.*I'm following termination procedures as outlined in our contract.

[cillybean83]

i wouldn't give him the satisfaction of a response, he's a broke loser...i mean lets call it as it is, he couldn't afford daycare, he got the ax, and he is having a pity party...well i say too effin bad my friend and good luck finding someone else who will put up with HIS BS

[e.j.]

I am beyond myself with what you have done to my son. I didn't enroll him for you to terminate him at your will for bull**** reasons just to make room fornew kids. I will never recommend your business to anybody and I will let everyone know what you have done to my son who is only comfortable in one place and you're taking that from him. He will not be back.* Do not reply to this.*

I think you were smart to print off a copy of his message and put it in his file but if it were me, I would do as he has requested and not reply. I know it might feel better to defend the termination but he seems to be highly emotional and is not in "listening mode" right now. A reply from you will probably just inflame the situation, prompting him to try to get the last word in. I'd just let it be for now and hope he goes away quietly.

[laundrymom]

Thanks guys, so a group vote says ignore. ??? Does anyone think I should respond? I got it sat around noon but just have been thinking of responding. I didn't do it tho. He has no idea that she was behind. She lied to him. Always has.

[kendallina]

I would respond. If he's going to be sending nasty texts, he doesn't get to decide when the conversation ends. I would keep it short and professional, but I would mention that payments were often late.

[SilverSabre25]

I probably wouldn't respond; but I tend to be very non-confrontational and terrified of nasty repercussions. That's a stupid and miserable thing to have to deal with though.

[DCMomOf3]

I would not reply, but if you have your heart set on filling him in, I'd send him a letter stating that you are in-fact downsizing. Tell him that the reason his family was chosen to term was mostly about the late payments. He should be mad at DCM not you.

[WImom]

I like your response and I'd respond. I wouldn't respond after this one though.

[ninosqueridos]

NO REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just went through something similar...did not reply.....and dcm only got herself more crazy sending more and more threatening emails :: Needless to say, termed immediately.

[Lucy]

Don't do it. You know that even though he told you not to respond, he's checking his cell phone a couple times a day because he thinks he has baited you enough that you WILL respond. Down deep he WANTS you to engage in debate with him. I repeat -- don't do it!! You'll get yourself in deeper and deeper with this lunatic. His rages are HIS, not yours. Let him sit there and wonder why you never responded. It'll do him good.

[lvt77]

ditto no reply!! if he contacts you again, then tell him..
sorry you have to deal with such a horrible person.l What he said was down right mean.... Boo on him.

[marniewon]

You know, I was going to say to respond to him too - at least I would be sorely tempted to set him right about why you chose their family. But....a lot of people who said 'no' had very valid points. If dcm has lied to dcd in the past, who's to say he won't confront her, and she'll lie again, and make you look worse in his eyes? Like dcd: dcp said we always paid late, that's why she termed us. dcm: that's ridiculous, she's just making things up so she can get rid of us. Then dcd just gets more mad.

I'd say leave it. Let dcd stew waiting for a response that never comes.

[Little People]

I say do not respond. And I agree, he is just waiting for you to respond. Here are big hugs! And here are even bigger hugs!

[countrymom]

I agree with others, don't respond.

[Lilbutterflie]

Another vote for don't respond. I know it's tempting to try to defend yourself; but it's not worth it. HE'S not worth it.