Call from Potential DCD?

[Unregistered]

So Im opening next month and I got a call from a father. I know there are plenty of dads that are heavily involved with their kids, but I guess I didn't expect to get a call from a dad to set up an interview. Do you think its legit? anyone have any experience?

I obviously googled the heck out of him and found a FB and linked in page that goes with what he says, assuming that was his page . Ive been advertising so it makes me nervous to give out my address. Can anyone give me any advise. He found my business on google. Im listed on a few places.

[LysesKids]

So Im opening next month and I got a call from a father. I know there are plenty of dads that are heavily involved with their kids, but I guess I didn't expect to get a call from a dad to set up an interview. Do you think its legit? anyone have any experience?

I obviously googled the heck out of him and found a FB and linked in page that goes with what he says, assuming that was his page . Ive been advertising so it makes me nervous to give out my address. Can anyone give me any advise. He found my business on google. Im listed on a few places.

I have had a few dad's contact me - I always set up interviews with both parents, but I don't give out the address until they confirm by phone 3 hrs before set time... I also talk to both parents on the phone first before setting up my meet & greet. If they have questions about my website or policies this is when they usually ask them - no use meeting if we butt heads on how I run because I will not budge on certain things (especially if it's a state reg); having a website with policies helps weed out some families right off the bat.

[jenboo]

I have a few familes where i primarily interact with the dad's. I don't see why it would make a difference???

[Pestle]

Why are you so concerned?

[Lil_Diddle]

I've had two families where the dad was the primary contact, one was a single father with full custody. I see no cause for concern just because it's the father.

[childcaremom]

Yes, I think it's legit. I deal with both dcps.

I also have my dh do a lot of the phone calls that need to be made.

[Josiegirl]

Why are you so concerned?

In this day and age we do need to be cautious. It's a fine line we walk, meeting with people we don't know and trying to trust them as much as they need to trust us.

OP, are you by yourself or can you have a SO be present at the time of meeting? I do believe in protecting ourselves. But as far as it being a mom or dad calling, I don't think it makes a difference, they're both the parent.

[DaveA]

Just do whatever your normal pre-interview procedure is.

[Hunni Bee]

I deal with more dad's than mom's. I wouldn't be concerned unless he gave you a weird vibe. This isn't the 50s.

[Blackcat31]

Why are you so concerned?

This was my initial thought too.

I am honestly a bit surprised that in this day and age that it's even a questionable situation. :confused:

[Blackcat31]

In this day and age we do need to be cautious. It's a fine line we walk, meeting with people we don't know and trying to trust them as much as they need to trust us.

OP, are you by yourself or can you have a SO be present at the time of meeting? I do believe in protecting ourselves. But as far as it being a mom or dad calling, I don't think it makes a difference, they're both the parent.

OPs concern doesn't seem to be directed at meeting anyone alone but more about the fact that it's a male parent verses a female parent.

I totally agree about it being a fine line for safety reasons but safety isn't what the OP's post sees to be conveying.

[Second Home]

I have had single parent dads as clients where the mom was not in the picture at all .

I usually try to hold all my interviews when my dh is home , he may not be in the same room but available if I need him .
If I ever had a bad feeling during a phone interview then I would never have a face to face interview no matter who called .

[Cat Herder]

I'm wondering if OP is simply young. Females have been taught "stranger danger" with a male image of a predator their entire childhoods. It takes a minute or two to get out of their system.

I was really nervous the first time an unknown man came to my home when I was alone. All I could think of was how John Walsh was going to narrate my story.... were people going to be shouting "dumba$$, run!!" at the screen... ::

OP, my advice, never interview with children in your care, have someone available to assist you quickly if possible, learn self defense at the level you are most comfortable (I like .45) and use common sense. Women are just as dangerous, please never trust someone simply because they are female. Pretty please. :hug:

[Lovisa]

I understand being a little more cautious with it being a dad rather than a mom contacting you (fair or not, I do the same thing). It has happened a few times for me and only one of them ended up having an interview with me. I made sure to have my husband home during because even he is uncomfortable with a strange man coming into our home with me alone here.

I also go with my gut (male or female potential client). If I get a bad vibe, I never set up an interview.

[Meeko]

I don't think twice about setting up an interview with a man. But that is because my family are always here during an interview (in another room).

If I was a single woman, I WOULD think twice about letting an unknown man into my home while there alone.