Dealing with THAT family

[Mom2Two]

so this week every time a group gathers and dcg4 attempts to join in, I say "remember you never get to play in the housekeeping center so you need to go play in that center".....she gives me a "disgusted" look but I think I am getting my point across

Ha, ha, good idea!

Maybe along the same lines, the dcb from OP could be assigned to play with his 2 yo sister since you, OP, obviously aren't cutting it. When he feels like your care is good enough to not tattle on you he gets some free time.

It sounds like the mom is really encouraging this by taking him so seriously.

And wow, there sure are some really horrible kids out there.

[cassiesue]

This is why I prefer not to take sibling pairs on, although I have several. My latest are 2 girls one is 11-months-old and the other is 4-years-old. The 4-year-old is constantly trying to take care of and direct what I should do and not do for her sister. Generally when my assistant is here I keep them, and all sibling pairs separated.

I agree with the other suggestions and if this continues you may have to terminate. I had to terminate a pair - 8-month-old boy and his 9-year-old sister over last summer. She started off embellishing an incident that actually happened, but then transitioned to just making stuff up once I separated them.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Yes, I am positive what he is saying because he hasn't gotten down. Sing quiet when whispering. I can hear exactly what he is telling mom-and she is showing that's is in control by turning right to me and addressing what he says while he stands there. It feels as if a four year old is being my boss

I would refuse to be his audience. If it's during pick up time that he's doing this then I'd wave, say bye, and QUICKLY walk away to clean up.

If it's during drop off time I'd wave hi and continue playing with/helping the other kids already in the daycare.