DCM Furious After DCP Breastfed Child Without Permission

[Leigh]

Am I the only one that doesn't find this gross? We take milk from a cows utter and drink it all the live long day but don't find that disgusting!

Anyway what she did was wrong but I certainly do not find it gross

I don't find using a wet nurse gross at all, if that's what you choose. I find it abhorrent, however, to nurse a child against a parent's order. That parent has no idea if that person has a communicable disease. It's not OK.

[Play Care]

Am I the only one that doesn't find this gross? We take milk from a cows utter and drink it all the live long day but don't find that disgusting!

Anyway what she did was wrong but I certainly do not find it gross

The difference is I'm not putting my lips on the cows udders.

The ick factor for me is that she was told NO and did it anyway. Frankly the fact she asked if she could makes me question her judgement. It crosses an obvious line. My breasts were for my baby, though if I had extra milk I would have donated it.

[Blackcat31]

I don't find it gross. I think wet nurses, village raising children is awesome. I donated my own breast milk. BUT, I think it needs to be with parent permission. Obviously, that was not the case here.

[laundrymom]

I find it gross in the fact that
1. Stranger.
2. What's in that milk??
3. How clean is that breast?
4. What if the woman used meds that transfer?

So yes. Ewww
I see the importance of a wet nurse. I respect the practice of donating milk.
I do not agree w the caregivers actions.
I would have no problem allowing a friend/sister/cousin etc to nurse my baby. But this lady way overstepped.

[TheMisplacedMidwestMom]

My first thought was "Well there's one thing I won't be accused of!" Sorry- bad joke. The caffeine hasn't kicked in yet. ::

Why the **** would she think THAT was a good idea? I'm just shaking my head going "Wow". I'm like "I kind of want to hear her explanation but no- not really."

I think you and Mike just gained some new advertising material: "Choose a male provider. We can't breastfeed your baby."

[Mike]

I think you and Mike just gained some new advertising material: "Choose a male provider. We can't breastfeed your baby."

I'll think about that one.

[Pestle]

"Choose a male provider. We can't breastfeed your baby."

That's the slogan of the year. Youins need to print up T-shirts, tote bags, and bumper stickers.

[Febby]

I don't find the idea of people breastfeeding other people's babies as gross necessarily, but I find it incredibly bizarre that a daycare worker would breastfeed someone's child after being told not to. Wet nursing, with parent permission/knowledge, is totally cool.

I certainly don't blame the DCM for being upset about that.

[laundrymom]

I think you and Mike just gained some new advertising material: "Choose a male provider. We can't breastfeed your baby."

Omg. I almost wee'ed in my pants again. I know BC. Back into pull-ups. Lol

[Play Care]

Am I the only one who thinks it's weird/line crossing that the woman even asked to begin with?!:confused:

As a child care provider, I would NEVER ask a client if I could nurse their baby. IMO nursing creates a special bond between mother and child. I would have no issue feeding my child carefully screened donor milk from a bottle if that's what they needed. But the actual act of nursing to me is between mom and baby.
I also think this is like any other medical issue with a dck - and it's the parents issue to deal with. A baby that is fussy or unhappy because of constipation would be sent home. If it continued a doctor's visit to deal with the situation would be required.

[DaveA]

I think you and Mike just gained some new advertising material: "Choose a male provider. We can't breastfeed your baby."

So THAT'S what I forgot to put on the fliers I posted last week!

[Baby Beluga]

Am I the only one who thinks it's weird/line crossing that the woman even asked to begin with?!:confused:

As a child care provider, I would NEVER ask a client if I could nurse their baby. IMO nursing creates a special bond between mother and child. I would have no issue feeding my child carefully screened donor milk from a bottle if that's what they needed. But the actual act of nursing to me is between mom and baby.
I also think this is like any other medical issue with a dck - and it's the parents issue to deal with. A baby that is fussy or unhappy because of constipation would be sent home. If it continued a doctor's visit to deal with the situation would be required.

No, you're not. I agree with this.

I am all for breast milk as a first choice (I tried long and hard to nurse DD, would pump for hours etc. Nothing worked. When I resorted to formula I felt defeated.) This time around I'm more like "eh, as long as babe is fed, it's all good." But I digress.

Feeding a child from another mother's breast is simply not something I would want to do myself OR have someone do for my child in our current situation.

If this were a dire situation, it was a last resort and my child had to eat from another woman's breast or die - of course he would eat. (I think that is where wet nurses originated from - no bottles, no formula and for some reason mom couldn't nurse, babies had to eat from somewhere?) This was not one of those situations.

I also would have never asked. That is just crossing a line imo. I'm also wondering why the caregiver asked, was told no and did it anyway knowing there were cameras in the room.

[Mike]

I also would have never asked. That is just crossing a line imo. I'm also wondering why the caregiver asked, was told no and did it anyway knowing there were cameras in the room.

I'm still wondering about that. There has to be some kind of mental issue, long term or just that one time, for her to have done it. Nobody in their right mind would ask, then go against what was said, other than kids. ::

[Play Care]

I'm still wondering about that. There has to be some kind of mental issue, long term or just that one time, for her to have done it. Nobody in their right mind would ask, then go against what was said, other than kids. ::

I do wonder if, as a pp suggested, this is one of those "lactavists" who think formula is poison and getting breast milk in any way, shape, or form () is the way to go. I've seen that a lot on crunchier sites (like motheringdotcom) where a woman who "resorts" to formula is vilified and suggestions like using facebook to have "milk meet ups" is encouraged

[MotherNature]

I don't find it gross. I think wet nurses, village raising children is awesome. I donated my own breast milk. BUT, I think it needs to be with parent permission. Obviously, that was not the case here.

This! I have offered my milk to clients before. None of them took me up on it, but none were put off by my offer. I have nursed both my nieces. Just easier when they stay overnight, especially with the new baby niece. She is breastfed exclusively, and doesn't take a bottle well at times. So the couple times we've kept the kids overnight, I've nursed her, w/ my SIL's permission, of course. I'd totally be a wet nurse. I just cut my 6 yr old off a couple weeks ago. Once he lost milkteeth, he's done. He still asks for it, but I am done. He was only getting it for like 30 secs anyway. Still nurse my 2 and a half yr old. She's currently nursing as I type.