Can A Daycare Cancell My Child's Enrollment?

[daycarediva]

My husband and I were going thru some nasty divorce when he filed a TRO, later it was dismissed by a judge. My husband made sure daycare was heavily involved in all this mess. Now they are saying it's too much trouble to deal with who can and who can't pick my child up and saying she can no longer continue going there? I am not ok with that, and currently in conversation with attorney to take matter to court, if necessary. Did anyone have a similar experience?

You cannot sue a provider or center into caring for your child.

You mention your husband made sure the daycare was heavily involved in the mess, that's most likely the root of it. As a daycare provider I don't even want to hear about it, I would term if they were trying to involve me. My job is to care for the children, I do not want to hear all the details of a nasty divorce, it's not my business.

Exactly, divorce is common. I have had many enrolled parents divorce while their children were in care and had ZERO issues. My place is to care for the child, not get in the middle of a messy divorce.

Teachers take care of children. You take care of you business. You remind me of an ostrich...All this sensitive naggers that don't want to "deal" with what is a common thing such as divorce..

It isn't our job to deal with your divorce, yes we take care of children. Not adults acting like children.

Actually most home providers do not get involved in divorce cases; I have a strict policy (online no less in my website) that strictly forbids parents from involving me in their personal crap. I use to serve those court documents in my prior career and some cases get messy. The last thing you want is for the one safe place for your child to get involved because then it takes a toll on care for all the other kids and possibly the providers home life also too... the fact your husband involved the daycare is quite possibly why they no longer want your child in care... I know I wouldn't

We deal with divorced parents, true, it doesn't mean we will allow ourselves to be dragged into court (causing issues with our income & problems with care for other families) or the messiness of parents fighting. That is not part of our job so yeah... I would terminate care also

Exactly. I let a family go because they tried to drag me in the middle and each of their lawyers was trying to get me to testify against the other parent. My home is a neutral safe place for a child, where nothing has changed and their routine and care remains consistent. I have a letter I hand out to parents divorcing that specifies this, and I don't want to hear ANYTHING about it unless I NEED to know. No, I can't refuse the other parent and NO, I won't without a court order. No, I don't want to hear what they did and NO neither does your child or the other children in care.

[Josiegirl]

Teachers take care of children. You take care of you business. You remind me of an ostrich...All this sensitive naggers that don't want to "deal" with what is a common thing such as divorce..

Family home providers(who care for children AND a business)deal with divorced and separated families all the time. It's the messiness of court and too much drama, hostility, possible violence in front of others' children, towards our families and ourselves, and revenge that all too often plays a part in people's lives these days....that's what we have a difficult time inviting into our lives and homes where we care for children AND run our business.

Did you expect to come here and have everybody take your side in all this? I don't think you liked the answers you've gotten.

[Blackcat31]

YOU, YOURSELF called it a MESS. Are you kidding me with this? I'm wondering if it is really the divorce mess causing the termination.

I agree! It's almost as if maybe the provider doesn't want to deal with OP any longer.

Getting upset and resorting to "name calling" when you don't get the advice/answer you were looking for is a pretty good indication of why the provider might be refusing to keep YOU on as a client.

[Ariana]

I agree! It's almost as if maybe the provider doesn't want to deal with OP any longer.

Getting upset and resorting to "name calling" when you don't get the advice/answer you were looking for is a pretty good indication of why the provider might be refusing to keep YOU on as a client.

Yep! Might be a good indicator of why the divorce got "messy" too.