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Almost 4 year old dcb. Finally potty training, according to dcf. Stays dry all night. No accidents at home. Here...he screams and flails when I mention the potty, let alone put him on it. And I have to put him on it. Parents don't understand it. I don't either. Am I being lied to?
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Mine was potty trained but at his grandparents he refused to go. It made no sense. He would hold it mostly, a few accidents but I mean he would be there ALL day (he goes with them once a week). Neither myself or mil/fil had any idea what the big deal was. One day he just up and decided to do it
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Point being, kids are weird. Give it some time and tell dcp's pull ups until he stops flipping out
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Because he can. He can have control that way-it's one of the few things he has control over, and for some reason, he needs to resist at your house. You can't change it. I've had kids potty trained at home, and not here, and I've had them the other way around (where they only go here and refuse at home). What I would do is stop changing his diapers. Tell him that you don't change diapers for kids his age and have him do it himself. It's the only thing that's worked for me (and it gives him TOTAL control over whether to use the toilet or not, which is what he seeks).Comment
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How do you make sure their butts are wiped properly with wipes? I like this idea but I'm curious how it would play it. He would gladly sit in it all day instead of changing it. He has zero self help skills. He will stand there and cry until I help him with a sock, shoe, pants, hat. My toughest child ever...Comment
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Just check when they're done. Have them remove their pants, remove their own diaper, give a pack of wipes and a trash can (I just remove the bag when they're done). Have them put their own diaper back on, too (check it when they're done). They don't like the work, realize that the toilet is easier, and soon choose the toilet over the diaper.Comment
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This is EXACTLY how I handle it. I do help with poo though, because not a single one of my current kids (potty trained or not) would be able to clean up poo without making the mess 10,000x worse.
Also- I would be INSISTING that parents get those self help skills up to par. I am beyond sick of potty training/ trained kids unable to even pull their pants DOWN.
My oldest enrolled child is 4, she has been potty trained since before her 2nd birthday. Can she pull her clothes down/back up? Nope. Wipe a bm? Nope. I feel like it would be much easier if she were still in diapers.Comment
I'm just not understanding why parents say he goes for them at home and he acts like I'm trying to murder him when I suggest the potty. 
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