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Okay, here goes.....I have a little boy who has been in my care for the last 2 years--he is 3. He has always been very sensitive and I need to keep things fairly routine and predictable in order to keep him from freaking out. He had an extremely hard time adjusting to care when I started with him 2 years ago (literally screamed ALL day for 2 months 3 days a week until I gave up) and I actually had to terminate care the first time, only to finally agree to take him back after the mom asked me numerous times. The second time I won him over and he has been doing fairly well ever since. He is slightly difficult,but I have always been able to deal with him by being consistent in my rules, routine and discipline. Last summer his father began having some issues with depression/anxiety and I noticed a change in my dcb behaviour (bossiness, pushing, jealousy, etc) when this started. Then after Christmas I had a new little boy start daycare and the current little boy seems to have went off the deep end. He has been having fits for THREE OR FOUR hours EVERY day for the last 2 weeks. He is fine when he gets here in the morning, wants to play, then around lunch time starts freaking out and yelling that he wants to go home, he continues this behaviour until usually around 4pm or so and then magically gets over it (initially I thought it was a nap thing). These are not ordinary temper tanturms--he screams until he is bright red and blotchy, drooling and completely beside himself--last week I was kneeling in front of him while he was on the couch and he kicked me with both feet in the stomach with such force that it knocked me backwards. After the first week, his mom took him to the doctors and the doctor said he had anxiety and that we needed to constantly reassure him and give him "Time Ins". I agree with this and had been doing that when he was behaving and when I could see that he was about to go into a fit. It has not worked AT ALL and he always goes into a full blown temper tantrum. Today for example I tried to reassure him for 45 minutes while he screamed his bloody head off, while attempting to still look after 3 other toddlers. I finally gave up and put him in his room and told him that he could join the rest of us and play when he stops (this is my usual way of dealing with temper tantrums, I DO NOT tolerate them, but in this case it is a bit different because of the anxiety). He continued to scream for about 1.5 hours, then had another fit later in the day. I don't know what to do anymore. I have not had a break from this behaviour (he is Monday-Friday 8:30-5:30) in 2 weeks, I am 6.5. months pregnant, still dealing with 2 other new kids trying to adjust, another daycare child and my own, and am about to completely burn out. His mom is aware of the situation and really trying to help, but nothing is working. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!! I am ready to just close my doors and NEVER do daycare again! 
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