I Don't Like You

[Msjudy]

I have two DCKs afterschool yesterday the 7year old i caught in a lie, so i told hime I would ask his mother about it. Well when mother came I did ask and it was not true she proceed to ask him question and he still tried to lie more. so she fianlly got the true out of him then she ask him if he loved me and he said no crying as he goes on. then she asked the 4year old she said the same thing it hurt my feeling because i treat them like my own i wonder do they really hate me? sorry but i had to get it out could not sleep last night and i think i am going to give them up.

[Live and Learn]

You caught them in a lie and ratted them out to their mom (good for you)...they were being honest about their feelings. In that moment they probably did not love you! Even my own kids have told me (especially around this age) that they don't love me when they are mad. Get over it. They don't have to love you. But they do need to speak truthfully.
Hugs and good luck.

[Cat Herder]

I vented to my mom about something similar years ago...she said if they don't "hate" you at least once a month, you are not doing it right....::::::


This has come in especially handy now that I have a 13 year old daughter...



Chin up!!

[AfterSchoolMom]

Why would Mom ask them if they love you right after they got in trouble for lying? That just seems odd to me.

Sorry though, I know it can be upsetting. My own child told me two weeks ago that I "ruin his life". It happens.

[nannyde]

Why would Mom ask them if they love you right after they got in trouble for lying? That just seems odd to me.

It was a way for the child who just "lost" to win. He's caught. He has to admit lying. He's lost the power position.

She uses words to put him BACK into power and on top.

It worked. She knew it would.

When the child told me he didn't like me my answer would be "excellent and you are done with lying to me. Don't do it again. I mean it."

[missnikki]

Well if you really are thinking about letting them go, you'll need to be honest with the mom about the reason...you don't like her anymore.

[Former Teacher]

I had to chuckle at this.

I remember when my niece was like 7 or 8 years old. She kept on telling me that she didn't like me. I kept on saying to her..well I love you Then she would say it again...I don't like you...well I love you . Finally I had enough. She said it AGAIN. I finally firmly told her...yeah you know what..I dont like you either. Her face was a picture! She started crying. ::

Of course my mother (her grandmother) made me say sorry....but it was still a Kodak moment. She never said it again::