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I'm sorry ladies, I didn't mean to toss the "unknown" into this thread. I normally support and usually defend unregistered posters but when one intentionally logs out to post rude or bullying type post, it gets under my skin.
I think that is the major reason most honest unregistered users get so much flack around here...
In your defense though, your first post wasn't rude, unsupportive or unusually harsh..... you also didn't log out to say what/how you feel. BIG difference.At the risk of being slammed, I actually kind of agree with unregistered
That said, if I had an older child begging for a bottle before nap, because it was obvious they were still getting it at home, I would be telling mom that SHE needed to do something about it or be calling for pick up if child wouldn't rest without it.
And I have had a parent ask me not to give a paci to her child, but it was clear they were either still doing it at home, or sleeping with their child to get them to go without and I told her flat out NO. I was not about to deal with screaming and crying at nap time over it. She could have pulled if she wanted, but she knew how I stood (I now have all three of her kids in care, soooo)
But I also understand just starting out and not knowing any better. I don't know if I would have had the stones to be that firm my first few years.
Whether we agree or disagree with a situation, kicking someone when they're down isn't beneficial to anyone.
Unregistered could have easily shared her opinion and offered some advice on how to "fix" it or move forward.
The "sandwich" technique... something most people learned early on....Comment
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Yes!! In the beginning I struggled so much because I could tell some parent were trying to get me to do their dirty work by breaking habits at daycare. All I could see was that parents were leaving me and their little one in a lurch for 8 hours!! I almost closed my doors because one dck was not to be given a paci at daycare, but then later found out he had unlimited access to it at home. It was such a stressful couple of months!At the risk of being slammed, I actually kind of agree with unregistered
That said, if I had an older child begging for a bottle before nap, because it was obvious they were still getting it at home, I would be telling mom that SHE needed to do something about it or be calling for pick up if child wouldn't rest without it.
And I have had a parent ask me not to give a paci to her child, but it was clear they were either still doing it at home, or sleeping with their child to get them to go without and I told her flat out NO. I was not about to deal with screaming and crying at nap time over it. She could have pulled if she wanted, but she knew how I stood (I now have all three of her kids in care, soooo)
But I also understand just starting out and not knowing any better. I don't know if I would have had the stones to be that firm my first few years.
Now I make sure that all habits are broken/started at home before implementing the change at daycare. And when I do give into a child, I always let parents know right at pick up. Like someone said, no one is perfect, we all have a breaking point!Comment
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So does the child get a bottle at home or not? Usually it will only help them sleep if that's how they normally go to sleep.
I had one dcg who was still on a bottle when she started at 20 mths. I told mom I would allow her to have it at naptime but only with water. And at meals and snacks, I wanted her to learn a straw cup. She aged off the bottle after a few months.
I'm wondering how long you've been doing home daycare. The lack of backbone and sneakiness would be a big turn off to me as a parent.Comment
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