The Constant Shadow

[Hunni Bee]

Do any of you have a kiddo who doesn't have serious behavior issues, but just seem to be being raised in a barn?

I have no problem getting DCB back under control, but I'm truly sick of reigning him in 30-40 times a day. He does just every naughty thing you can think of, but never anything extreme. He just talks way too loud, roughhouses, burps and passes gas and calls attention to it, climbs on stuff, makes lewd comments, runs all over and knocks people over, yells out weird noises to get the other kids to laugh...all day long. It's exhausting.

I'm really thinking of making him my shadow until....I don't know. His parents make excuses, his behavior isn't serious enough for the directors to care and no chance of him being termed. But he gets everyone off track and some of them are starting to copy his choices.

Have any of your done this? How did you go about it?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If you've already established what the rules are and what manners he needs to be using then no more discussion.

"Please go work on a tray until you're ready to use your manners." *Points to table with work trays on them*

It sure is boring going to do trays by yourself instead of participating in activities and playing. Much easier to just use the manners and follow directions.

[DaveA]

If you've already established what the rules are and what manners he needs to be using then no more discussion.

"Please go work on a tray until you're ready to use your manners." *Points to table with work trays on them*

It sure is boring going to do trays by yourself instead of participating in activities and playing. Much easier to just use the manners and follow directions.

Yep. Repeat. Over. And. Over. It is frustrating but eventually they'll get it.

[Gemma]

I agree with Entropy... distract him away from other kids for a short time, then give him another chance to show you he can control that behavior....it'll take time but he should get it, if he cares to be with the rest of the group

[Hunni Bee]

I agree with Entropy... distract him away from other kids for a short time, then give him another chance to show you he can control that behavior....it'll take time but he should get it, if he cares to be with the rest of the group

That's just it, he doesn't care. He knows he'll eventually get back to the group so he just bides his time or he yells out to the others, and I have a couple who literally cannot resist him.

I am going to make up some trays or baskets for him and turn everything into "one and done". Hopefully he'll catch on but I'm sick of the chaos.

[daycarediva]

I would redirect him to a table activity. How much control do you have over your room layout? Can you put something blocked in a corner area so he gets less attention?

Also, I would start random rewarding the other kids for good behavior. "I love your inside voice, that sounds nice to my ears. Here's a sticker!'

Good luck. that would exhaust me!

[Hunni Bee]

He is David from the books come to life ::. He even looks like him, only African. ::

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

That's just it, he doesn't care. He knows he'll eventually get back to the group so he just bides his time or he yells out to the others, and I have a couple who literally cannot resist him.

I am going to make up some trays or baskets for him and turn everything into "one and done". Hopefully he'll catch on but I'm sick of the chaos.

I promise you, he'll care when he catches on that EVERY SINGLE TIME he has to go do an activity alone. His skills will greatly improve but it sure isn't fun having to improve your skills by yourself!

I had this child. I still have him, but he has adjusted to being a kind friend (even with some developmental delays). He knew where to go once I established it after a couple of days so I didn't even say anything. I would just point to the table with the trays with activities on them and I continued doing what I needed to do.

[Hunni Bee]

So on a related note, how do I curb the laughter at him by the other kids? They literally laugh at everything he does, even if he's not actually trying to be funny, which encourages him to escalate.

The two that can't resist him sometimes will just watch, not playing, waiting for him to do something they can laugh at. I always redirect them but I know that's part of the problem for him.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

So on a related note, how do I curb the laughter at him by the other kids? They literally laugh at everything he does, even if he's not actually trying to be funny, which encourages him to escalate.

The two that can't resist him sometimes will just watch, not playing, waiting for him to do something they can laugh at. I always redirect them but I know that's part of the problem for him.

I tell them, "That's not funny. Go play."