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So I have a 2 1/2 yo DCB who is very demanding and disrespectful towards his parents. I have been told stories from both mom and dad how he throws extreme fits if he doesn't get to choose his clothing for the day, have snacks on demand, yells at them while in the car to "GO!" while stopped at a red light etc. He tries these things with me, but they are quickly shut down because he knows I don't put up with it. He also speaks very rudely to them. Telling them they are annoying, stupid and other things like that. I know that they have given in to him plenty of times, because there was a day recently that he had a pair of shorts (what he wanted to wear) under a pair of pants. At his first diaper change of the day is when I noticed this and I took off his shorts and told him he only needed the pants on. He was totally fine with that. At pickup he immediately started whining to mom he wanted his shorts on. Every morning he comes in he tells me he wants muffins and/or donuts for breakfast. Each time I tell him that I am in charge of planning/choosing the meals for the day and he is fine with that answer. I know that a lot of this behavior is learned and he is doing what he knows will work on his parents, however, I have never, in all of my years of childcare had a child who gets this upset over the outfit chosen for them for the day! How does a child of this age even learn how to care about or be so opinionated about such a thing! Where does a child of this age get the idea to yell in a car at a stoplight to "GO!"??? He does have three older siblings at home, but I had them in my care from babies until they started school, and none of them ever acted this way. I'm sure some of this behavior is caused because he is the "baby" of the family, but some of the behaviors, especially at his age, just floor me! Oh, and he has been doing these things probably for about a year now.
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A lot of it is probably coming from the siblings, and not because they are being "naughty" or anything. Older child could have been joking around saying "GO!" to parents in the car, and younger sib has taken it too far. Older kids are into older things, and while not necessarily inappropriate for their ages, it probably is for the 2 yo. Unfortunately once kids go to school, they get exposed to a LOT (and most of it can be GOOD!)
And it sounds like he's the youngest and the baby so he's been indulged.
I would say that as long as he doesn't give you a tough time, I would let them worry about what's happening on their watch. -
I have 4 just like him.
Why? Because the parents allow it.
They probably thought it was funny when he said GO at stop lights and laughed, now they have no idea how to stop it.
The name calling is obviously learned behavior, I am assuming siblings towards each other, and again, the parents never stopped it.
As long as he was behaving for ME, I wouldn't care.Comment
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I have 4 just like him.
Why? Because the parents allow it.
They probably thought it was funny when he said GO at stop lights and laughed, now they have no idea how to stop it.
The name calling is obviously learned behavior, I am assuming siblings towards each other, and again, the parents never stopped it.
As long as he was behaving for ME, I wouldn't care.
Not cute. Not allowed here (even during drop off/pick up time). Not my problem once they're out the door. Many of my kids are completely different children here. POLAR OPPOSITES of how they are at home. It shocks the socks off their parents!
Healthy boundaries that are consistently enforced + love = a well adjusted, NICE child. happyfaceComment
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