How Do You Decide?

[childcaremom]

Yes he is 5 days a week. I decided to try out the crying area while I read a few books since we have not been able to read (he is loud) and he threw elmo and started hit his head on the wall. After putting pillows around him and trying it again he moved away from the pillows and started hitting his head on the floor while crying louder. I can tell my other kids are starting to get fustrated because they are covering their ears and getting mad when I cant hear them or themselves talk. I hate the idea of letting him go before 2 week until I think about him showing up on Monday after 2 weeks off and we have to start over. I think we will both be crying Monday.

Yikes! I had a head banger, too. What is his napping schedule like? Is he overtired?

[daycarediva]

I did four days of emergency back-up care for a neighbor whose MIL had a medical problem. On day 4, the mom picked up early because we all knew this was hell for everybody involved.

9mo screamed. bloody. murder for 4 days straight. Sobbing, raging, clawing, scratching, beating-me-in-the-head screaming. Apparently she does that with everyone except for the parents and grandma.

On day 3, I thought: I would genuinely rather be dead than be here right now. If you reach the point of suicidal ideation, it's time to term!

This gave me a good laugh! Too funny- but crazy true~ I had a screamer (9m when I termed, screamed from 6 weeks-9 months 60 hours a week!) I was in tears every morning, every evening and throughout the day. It was AWFUL.

op-would the parents be on board for a gradual DC introduction, say M-1 hour T-2 hours W-3 hours th- 4 hours F- pick up before nap?

I might be more open to working with the child IF the parent would be on board.

[TXhomedaycare]

Yikes! I had a head banger, too. What is his napping schedule like? Is he overtired?

His mom said he had no schedule at home and would take a nap sometimes. He goes to sleep at nap when we do but sleeps for 30-40 minutes wakes up and cries and I put him back to sleep. If I let him sleep early (I know he is tired from crying) he would cry the entire nap time and all my other kids are sleepers.

[childcaremom]

His mom said he had no schedule at home and would take a nap sometimes. He goes to sleep at nap when we do but sleeps for 30-40 minutes wakes up and cries and I put him back to sleep. If I let him sleep early (I know he is tired from crying) he would cry the entire nap time and all my other kids are sleepers.

Sigh. I have had this child. This child nearly broke me. I completely revamped how I interview and am SUPER picky about who I enroll now. First question: What is your child's schedule like at home? Describe nap time to me. How does your child go to sleep? How long do they sleep for? What is their wake up routine like? Etc etc etc

This situation might be able to be resolved. Might. But it will take a LOT of work from both you and the parents.

I've been there. I've tried. Honestly, it is hard work and it really is awful. For everyone.

This is not just separation anxiety. This is a child who is NOT prepped for group care. BC was right.

I fully support a decision to term immediately.

[TXhomedaycare]

This gave me a good laugh! Too funny- but crazy true~ I had a screamer (9m when I termed, screamed from 6 weeks-9 months 60 hours a week!) I was in tears every morning, every evening and throughout the day. It was AWFUL.

op-would the parents be on board for a gradual DC introduction, say M-1 hour T-2 hours W-3 hours th- 4 hours F- pick up before nap?

I might be more open to working with the child IF the parent would be on board.

Nope this family is interesting they have one car and mom works about 45 minutes away. Dad does not work and has literally walked here (they live about 3 miles away) to pick up and drop off this week. I have only seen mom 2 times since he started so dad is putting in some serious steps. They live with her family so he gets held a lot. I will see what we can come up with for next week if things improve today and tomorrow. If things do t improve today and tomorrow I will have to term.

[Pestle]

Sooooo. How did it go?

[TXhomedaycare]

I talked to mom yesterday and laid everything out for her about how things are going and that her son did not seem ready for care and she agreed and said she would discuss with her husband. She called me this morning because she was going to drop off at 7 am but dcb was crying and upset just from pulling up in front of my home so dcm decided to call it quits for now and try to slowly prepare him for childcare and try it again later on happyface - I truly did not know if I could handle any more of his crying today so I told mom to be ready for early pick up and she said dcd is off today but he would have to walk to come get him and it was also raining so I have no clue how that would work but I am so happy it worked itself out. All of my other kids seemed relieved and happy he was gone.

[Josiegirl]

I talked to mom yesterday and laid everything out for her about how things are going and that her son did not seem ready for care and she agreed and said she would discuss with her husband. She called me this morning because she was going to drop off at 7 am but dcb was crying and upset just from pulling up in front of my home so dcm decided to call it quits for now and try to slowly prepare him for childcare and try it again later on happyface - I truly did not know if I could handle any more of his crying today so I told mom to be ready for early pick up and she said dcd is off today but he would have to walk to come get him and it was also raining so I have no clue how that would work but I am so happy it worked itself out. All of my other kids seemed relieved and happy he was gone.

So glad it worked out for you!! Sounds like the lil guy would've been a tough nut to crack. I had a little girl start at 12 months; she had been staying with her grandma; translate into being held a lot, doted on, rocked to sleep, etc. They brought her here and it did not go well(I felt bad because her sibling was here and they wanted them together). Day 7 of a 2 week trial period, I admitted to the dcf how clingy and upset she was all day long. First day here she napped maybe 30 minutes but after that, she didn't nap at all. I was having chest pain/palpitations so they pulled her immediately and put her into a center. I don't know how the center did it but they worked magic putting her down at nap time. Six months later dcm approached me again; I said sure, I'd give it a try. And 2nd time worked like a charm.