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I wrote last week about this in a thread titled "dcm wanting me to fail".
To make a long, crazy story short-er, dcg came 4 days. Dcm has been practically hysterical at drop-offs, contacting me all throughout the day - and at night - telling me how hard this was on dcg and "what an adjustment" this was. Sure, the first 2 days were rough - dcg is 19 months, never been to daycare, and has been kept highly dependent. But day 3 and 4 were awesome. Even day 1 and 2 were good for a new child. I sent happy pics, lots of updates, so dcm is really just...crazy.
Every night after care, I received texts from dcm. "Did dcg eat? How much? She's not eating for me. Her diaper is dry. Why? She won't drink for me. How many glasses of water/milk?"
Each night it has been something different, but yesterday it was basically, "She is not eating for me, her diaper has been mostly dry all night, and when I tried to wash her private parts in the bath, she complained. I'm worried she has a uti."
I finally texted back and said, "I am not comfortable with you coming back here. I require my parents to trust that I am, at least, properly feeding and watering their children, as well as changing their diapers. I may not be right, but I feel that if not today, sometime in the future, I will be blamed for something in regards to dcg. I take very good care of the children in my care, and work hard to retain a good reputation. I also feel you are the one who is not comfortable with daycare at this point, and not dcg. It is an adjustment, but not as much for dcg at this point. I will refund all prepaid money for next week."
I should mention that Monday dcm told me that when she dropped dcg off and dcg cried, dcm said she was so upset, she went home, curled into a ball on the couch, and slept all day until 3:30 pm. Drop off was at 7:30 am and her 5 year old was with her.
I could be wrong, but I don't believe this is a truly sad mother. I believe this is a mom who has kept her child (I've never met the 5 year old) oddly dependent on her - and the reason is simply because she has no desire to work. I think behind the scenes, the husband forced the issue, told her to get off her butt and find a job now that their oldest is in kindergarten and the youngest is weaned (this just happened).
I have zero sympathy here, because I believe this woman would find a way to discredit me so she could stay home longer. She mentioned having to become a stay at home mom because of a bad daycare experience with her son. I have had a bad daycare experience myself, so I don't automatically discredit when people say this. But ...wow.
So tonight I am meeting with her and her husband, because she begged for a meeting. Her husband seems kind of out of it in regards to this kind of stuff. I am only explaining why and handing back money and diapers. Hopefully dcd can help dcm become more comfortable with daycare in the future.
Thanks for reading my crazy 2 weeks
To make a long, crazy story short-er, dcg came 4 days. Dcm has been practically hysterical at drop-offs, contacting me all throughout the day - and at night - telling me how hard this was on dcg and "what an adjustment" this was. Sure, the first 2 days were rough - dcg is 19 months, never been to daycare, and has been kept highly dependent. But day 3 and 4 were awesome. Even day 1 and 2 were good for a new child. I sent happy pics, lots of updates, so dcm is really just...crazy.
Every night after care, I received texts from dcm. "Did dcg eat? How much? She's not eating for me. Her diaper is dry. Why? She won't drink for me. How many glasses of water/milk?"
Each night it has been something different, but yesterday it was basically, "She is not eating for me, her diaper has been mostly dry all night, and when I tried to wash her private parts in the bath, she complained. I'm worried she has a uti."
I finally texted back and said, "I am not comfortable with you coming back here. I require my parents to trust that I am, at least, properly feeding and watering their children, as well as changing their diapers. I may not be right, but I feel that if not today, sometime in the future, I will be blamed for something in regards to dcg. I take very good care of the children in my care, and work hard to retain a good reputation. I also feel you are the one who is not comfortable with daycare at this point, and not dcg. It is an adjustment, but not as much for dcg at this point. I will refund all prepaid money for next week."
I should mention that Monday dcm told me that when she dropped dcg off and dcg cried, dcm said she was so upset, she went home, curled into a ball on the couch, and slept all day until 3:30 pm. Drop off was at 7:30 am and her 5 year old was with her.
I could be wrong, but I don't believe this is a truly sad mother. I believe this is a mom who has kept her child (I've never met the 5 year old) oddly dependent on her - and the reason is simply because she has no desire to work. I think behind the scenes, the husband forced the issue, told her to get off her butt and find a job now that their oldest is in kindergarten and the youngest is weaned (this just happened).
I have zero sympathy here, because I believe this woman would find a way to discredit me so she could stay home longer. She mentioned having to become a stay at home mom because of a bad daycare experience with her son. I have had a bad daycare experience myself, so I don't automatically discredit when people say this. But ...wow.
So tonight I am meeting with her and her husband, because she begged for a meeting. Her husband seems kind of out of it in regards to this kind of stuff. I am only explaining why and handing back money and diapers. Hopefully dcd can help dcm become more comfortable with daycare in the future.
Thanks for reading my crazy 2 weeks
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