Pick Up Trouble

[Unregistered]

Yesterday afternoon, DCD was picking up right as my kindergartener was getting off the bus, basically walking in the door at the same time. It is the first full week of school and yesterday made me realize that he needs a few minutes to unwind after school and comes home very wound up (and aggressive yesterday which is NOT like him) and, I think, overstimulated.

So...yesterday, my son starts picking on his sister who is sitting on a stool having a snack, and was almost pushing her off the stool- something I had to handle immediately. So, he then starts acting out as I am trying to put him in time out.

DCD is standing in the hallway, by the front door and says to DCG who is not quite two, and loud enough "I think Johnny had too much sugar"....I think his presence was giving my son an audience and was making him act out more. This comment is still under my skin and I am not sure why he was still standing there just watching- we already said bye and he was holding his daughter.

Am I being too sensitive? I wish the bus came at a more consistent time so I could change pick up times, even if it's just by 15 minutes either way so DCM or DCD aren't here picking up when he gets home. Their last day is 10/3 as it is, arranged prior to this.

Also, how long does this transition take to adjust to kindergarten? He has had some new, unacceptable, behaviors since school started, like talking back and arguing, and acting out physically with his siblings. Any suggestions on this subject is appreciated as well.

[childcaremom]

Yesterday afternoon, DCD was picking up right as my kindergartener was getting off the bus, basically walking in the door at the same time. It is the first full week of school and yesterday made me realize that he needs a few minutes to unwind after school and comes home very wound up (and aggressive yesterday which is NOT like him) and, I think, overstimulated.

So...yesterday, my son starts picking on his sister who is sitting on a stool having a snack, and was almost pushing her off the stool- something I had to handle immediately. So, he then starts acting out as I am trying to put him in time out.

DCD is standing in the hallway, by the front door and says to DCG who is not quite two, and loud enough "I think Johnny had too much sugar"....I think his presence was giving my son an audience and was making him act out more. This comment is still under my skin and I am not sure why he was still standing there just watching- we already said bye and he was holding his daughter.

Am I being too sensitive? I wish the bus came at a more consistent time so I could change pick up times, even if it's just by 15 minutes either way so DCM or DCD aren't here picking up when he gets home. Their last day is 10/3 as it is, arranged prior to this.

Also, how long does this transition take to adjust to kindergarten? He has had some new, unacceptable, behaviors since school started, like talking back and arguing, and acting out physically with his siblings. Any suggestions on this subject is appreciated as well.

My own had a hard few months of adjusting to school.

A couple of ideas to help:
*can you hand off dcg to dcd at the door so that he doesn't come in?
*can you have a snack ready for your son so when he comes in he can sit right down to eat it? Or a place set up where he can go and decompress? So you can welcome him in and direct him to his 'spot'?
*is your dd able to be occupied somewhere at this time? Maybe watching tv? Or set up with toys in her room?

I have one who still needs some decompress time. She releases as soon as she walks in the door. I'm changing up our schedule so that when she comes in, the dcks are occupied and I can spend a few mins focussing on her needs.

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[Play Care]

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It irritates me when day care clients make any comment about kids other than their own. It's not appropriate, and therefore, annoying.

[KiwiKids]

Oh my daughter was just like that when she started kindergarten. By the third week she was much better. I would have a drink and snack ready for her and it really helped because lunch for her was at 10:45 and she didn't get home from school until 3:00 and was hungry when she got home!

The comment from DCD was out of line and I would have a hard time not saying something to him today or making him pick up at the door without coming inside.

[Unregistered]

I am right there with you on school starting and everything turning upside down in my house! My son just started 1st grade and 3 dck's that started pre-k last week. Last week was absolute hell, this week has been smoother, thankfully. With my own son I have made sure he is getting enough play time, outdoor exercise, and sleep. So far I think it has been improving his mood. School is such a huge transition on so many levels, yet our society praises burning the candle on both ends.

As far as your DCD goes I would say it's very possible he made a cheap shot and said something loudly. Who knows? This time of year is stressful. Hang in there and with a little time things will smooth themselves out!!

[Unregistered]

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It irritates me when day care clients make any comment about kids other than their own. It's not appropriate, and therefore, annoying.

Me too! My grandchildren(19 mo old twins) live in my home They get up every morning at 5:45. Always have. I have a passive aggressive type mom who comments on how early it is for them to be awake every day! I finally said "yes, they are awake, but they get to stay home and not be drug out at 6 am-the way your children are".

[Heart12]

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It irritates me when day care clients make any comment about kids other than their own. It's not appropriate, and therefore, annoying.

THIS. Nothing irritates me more

[Unregistered]

Thank you all! And thank you to whoever moved my duplicate post =)

I will be implementing porch pick up from now on for DCG. For my son I will also have a snack ready and waiting for him and some of his favorite toys set up for him in his room to play with. I am sorry some of you also had a transition period, but I am comforted in knowing it isn't just here.

They are starting at a daycare center in October (which they keep mentioning to me every chance they get- taking the day off and telling me it is for a tour there, or whispering to DCG to tell me that they are going there to the new family Open House- while my son is going post-kindergarten crazy and saying he had too much sugar. Good times. I really don't understand why it keeps getting discussed. Does this sound like they would rather go sooner rather than later? They did ask me- which I thought was very considerate- if I wanted her to stay until September or October. At the time, I didn't have her replacement, so I said October. Now I do, starting in September. I can't figure out if it keeps getting brought up for me to say "OK go" or are they just really excited or what? I know it's supposed to be professional and not personal, but I take it personally. Probably too personally and I feel like it's rubbing salt into a wound or like talking to an ex about the new person I'm seeing or something.

On a positive- after she goes, I am implementing my new hours- closed Mondays and Wednesdays!! =)


Anyway, thank you all for your suggestions. I don't know what i would do without this forum. I have learned so much here!

[Play Care]

Thank you all! And thank you to whoever moved my duplicate post =)

I will be implementing porch pick up from now on for DCG. For my son I will also have a snack ready and waiting for him and some of his favorite toys set up for him in his room to play with. I am sorry some of you also had a transition period, but I am comforted in knowing it isn't just here.

They are starting at a daycare center in October (which they keep mentioning to me every chance they get- taking the day off and telling me it is for a tour there, or whispering to DCG to tell me that they are going there to the new family Open House- while my son is going post-kindergarten crazy and saying he had too much sugar. Good times. I really don't understand why it keeps getting discussed. Does this sound like they would rather go sooner rather than later? They did ask me- which I thought was very considerate- if I wanted her to stay until September or October. At the time, I didn't have her replacement, so I said October. Now I do, starting in September. I can't figure out if it keeps getting brought up for me to say "OK go" or are they just really excited or what? I know it's supposed to be professional and not personal, but I take it personally. Probably too personally and I feel like it's rubbing salt into a wound or like talking to an ex about the new person I'm seeing or something.

On a positive- after she goes, I am implementing my new hours- closed Mondays and Wednesdays!! =)


Anyway, thank you all for your suggestions. I don't know what i would do without this forum. I have learned so much here!

Whoa Nelly! They are being THAT rude???? I would change my hours now and say "since you are leaving anyway, I've decided to change my hours to work best for MY family"

Forget that.

[laundrymom]

I've not read the responses yet but one thing that always helped me (still to this day it's a rule and I've got two who moved out and two at home 15&18)
Before they get home from K I put a clean shirt in the bathroom. When they walk in the door our routine has always been to go wash our hands and change shirts.
Then they put their things in their rooms and come have a snack.
I made it the plan from day one.
It keeps school germs away from the daycare kids and gave my kids a little time to catch their breath after the hustle of school.
Still today, they come in the house, wash their hands and if they want to play w the daycare they change shirts.
Maybe this is a routine that would help you?

[daycarediva]

That dcd is downright rude. If I could I would give them notice for sooner.

As far as the transition goes, it is rough on most kids. I would have a separate area for him to go decompress. Get him in on it. "After school, you seem tired and stressed. What do you think you could do to make yourself feel better?"

My one son comes home, I have a snack set up at his desk and he goes in there, closes the door, listens to his ipod or reads while he eats a snack- ALONE. He is less social and needs the solitude.

My other son comes home, drops everything and runs to the backyard. He needs to release pent up energy. THEN, he comes in washes up and has a snack.

My dd has her headphones on before she even comes in the door, she changes into boots and goes walking in the woods. She needs to be away from everyone and everything.

My other ds (autism) goes straight to his room (snack waiting) and stims for over an hour. He holds it in all day, so that's his safe outlet.

See what your child thinks might help him!

Also, don't be afraid to speak up and talk to YOUR son in front of a dcp. "Oh son, you have had such a long day at school. Transitions are so hard, and school take a lot out of you. I can see you're feeling frustrated. BYE DCG!"

[Unregistered]

These are great after school suggestions- thank you!

Is it possible that this little one can sense the changes ahead or something? Normally she will fuss for just a few minutes (not even 5 normally) and fall right to sleep, and it's like a crocodile tear type thing. Today she is up there full on tantruming like I haven't experienced with her- screaming,kicking, crying, asking for mommy (?! she usually just excitedly says "Mommy will pick me up after my nap" and goes down without a problem) the whole works. Nothing is different here as far as routine or anything. Definitely something to bring up at pick up, I suppose. I will have to hold my tongue so I don't tell them I think she has had too much sugar ;-) (which, I can't say I won't think to myself....). But seriously! It is like a full moon over here today!

[Unregistered]

Whoa Nelly! They are being THAT rude???? I would change my hours now and say "since you are leaving anyway, I've decided to change my hours to work best for MY family"

Forget that.

The more I think about it, the more I think you are right!

[Unregistered]

That dcd is downright rude. If I could I would give them notice for sooner.

As far as the transition goes, it is rough on most kids. I would have a separate area for him to go decompress. Get him in on it. "After school, you seem tired and stressed. What do you think you could do to make yourself feel better?"

My one son comes home, I have a snack set up at his desk and he goes in there, closes the door, listens to his ipod or reads while he eats a snack- ALONE. He is less social and needs the solitude.

My other son comes home, drops everything and runs to the backyard. He needs to release pent up energy. THEN, he comes in washes up and has a snack.

My dd has her headphones on before she even comes in the door, she changes into boots and goes walking in the woods. She needs to be away from everyone and everything.

My other ds (autism) goes straight to his room (snack waiting) and stims for over an hour. He holds it in all day, so that's his safe outlet.

See what your child thinks might help him!

Also, don't be afraid to speak up and talk to YOUR son in front of a dcp. "Oh son, you have had such a long day at school. Transitions are so hard, and school take a lot out of you. I can see you're feeling frustrated. BYE DCG!"

It is so strange because just a week ago I was saying how great the parents have been this entire 2 years- pay on time, flexible time off when I needed it, dependable, etc. and here we are.

That's a great idea to ask my son too. Mom is picking up today, so hopefully she will be a few minutes after the bus so I should have a good opportunity.

Thanks again everyone! =)

[Blackcat31]

It is so strange because just a week ago I was saying how great the parents have been this entire 2 years- pay on time, flexible time off when I needed it, dependable, etc. and here we are.

That's a great idea to ask my son too. Mom is picking up today, so hopefully she will be a few minutes after the bus so I should have a good opportunity.

Thanks again everyone! =)

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