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Criminal At Home Daycare - Heroin
So my son's father unilaterally (and in contempt) enrolled my son into a daycare and will NOT put me on the daycare list (again illegal per our Court Order). Since "the father is her client" theres not much I can do other than fight it in court. Well a few weeks ago, her son, whom uses the daycares address as his home address, was arrested for possession of heroin, use, and intent to distribute. Mind you this isn't his first offense with same address used, and also he is in court today for an accident caused by him being high on drugs. Did I mention there was a 6 year old boy in his car when he was arrested with the drugs? Was it a daycare boy??? His father claims that the provider stated he only uses her address and he does not live there. Still! He goes there, if thats the address what if he's bad into drugs and doesn't pay then all these criminals go to that address?! I'm sickened by this! What would you parents do?!
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I don't know of any states where a biological parent can be denied access to their child. I've had lots of separated/divorced/never married parents and I've told them all that I cannot legally deny the other parent access without a court order.
If he's violating a court order by enrolling your child in daycare, go back to court as soon as possible.
In regards to the daycare, call licensing immediately. If you feel there is danger to your child or the others, I might even call the non emergency police line. -
Thank you. We do have 50/50 legal and physical custody. He stated that since its a private home daycare that I could be asked to leave. I want to call the daycare licensing board but I'm afraid of retribution by the ex. Same token, I do NOT want my son around that kind of behavior. I am in the process of mediating the daycare situation prior to court as it is required here in Maryland.Comment
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As was stated, legally a childcare provider cannot keep you from your child without a court order stating such; my original provider in MD (where I grew up) had to have a copy of my custody paperwork etc etc and unless there is an order stating a parent cannot be in contact with child, then the provider would legally be in the wrong... same goes for schools. Call licensing and take the ex to court immediately for violating your custody agreementComment
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Call your governing child care licensing office and explain your safety concerns for the children.
File paperwork within the court, again explaining the safety concerns you have for your child.
Theres obviously a lot I do not know about your situation and custody arrangement but the logical steps would be to report and have your child removed from a situation you feel is not safe.Comment
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I don't know what your custody is and what your state laws are.
But what I do know that if a 50/50 custody is in effect, I cannot allow a biological parent access to their children, even if I am a private home daycare. Nor would I ever do this unless there was a court order stating not to. Honestly I would not even involve myself in this type of arrangement and would find another family.
I don't know that whole situation but I would say your ex is definitely lying to you and you have every right to know what care your child receives even if the contract is between him and the provider.
I would report the licensed home. It is UNACCEPTABLE for these type of things being in or around the daycare home. In my state, they are very strict with licensed homes regarding drug offenses and felonious incidents even if they didn't happen at the home as it is an obvious risk for children. I wouldn't want my child anywhere near that home. And I would do everything in my power to not have my child there.
Yet another reason why I became a provider. I don't trust others.Comment
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Yes, it's a private home. Unfortunately, when we open a business, we make it a semi-public home. Maryland has "parents rights" for child care. This is the copy I found on the licensing website.
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Ugh, cannot deny access to children of a biological parent. Was typing too fast!Comment
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Take a copy of the child's birth certificate with you and your photo identification (typically your driver's license) to the daycare to prove that you are the child's mother and demand that they give you your child. If they don't, call the police and report that they are kidnapping your child from you.
The above suggestion is with expecting that you do have the legal right to go to your child's daycare and are legally allowed to take possession of your child. If it is court ordered that you not go to the child's daycare or that you are not allowed to take possession of your child on specific days/times, or not at all, then you have to follow the court order.Comment
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Yes I think my ex is lying and leaving him with his gf (whom has been arrested for 2nd degree murder - nolle pros and had protective order against her that just expired to stay away from my child). Sounds like I'm some "hick" or bad person. I'm an engineer and do EVERYTHING for my son because he is my world. I'm a FTM so maybe I'm over protective but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I appreciate your information and response. I called the licensing agency and explained the son of the homecare provider, how she screamed at me so loud on the phone my employees heard it, and how she allowed him back prior to HFM being cleared per doctors orders (what else is she allowing there?!). I have nothing against a good child care facility. I am now using friends in my church I trust and that he is familiar with until an opening is available in a few months for both parties to use. Such a tough age at 21 months to find quick openingsComment
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The issue they're saying is the court order states another daycare. I was unemployed (due to my son's father not attending multiple appointments and his gf filing false reports in which they all lost and were pretty much yelled at for). Therefore, I withdrew him bc the order stated "shall attend if both parties are WORKING". He wanted to pay both our portions and not allow him with me. Its just spite. I taught my son so much. He's already semi potty trained at 21 months his dad didn't even have a potty. I understand I'm not licensed nor do I have curriculum but I'm his mommy and want the absolute best for him too so I made sure to do learning activities daily and routines. I was told since its private property if I went she could ask me to leave and/or I'd be arrested. Its insane. I mean what is being hidden??? All of this would go away if I just had some documents of when he started, attending, the medical info she has (he has some very serious conditions where he goes to Hopkins, Nemours, an allergy and asthma specialist locally, etc).Comment
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Agreed. The provider said her son "doesn't live there just uses the address". Well he's used it for 4 years when he first got arrested for heroin. He also has been there during drop off when my son's father has admitted it. So its still concerning. Is he high, does he have things on him and touching my kid? (again maybe I overreact...i'm a germaphobe as it is haha)Comment
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50/50 physical custody? What is your parenting time split? One week with you, one with Dad?- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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