Being On Different Levels of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

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Unregistered,

Yes. You understand what I'm saying. What you said about the privileged coming to the middle class neighborhood is exactly how I feel. I wasn't 'privileged'. But I was in a higher class than I am now. I have adjusted a bit to being on this level, but not really. I am still that horse that fell into a hole and am scraping away at the wall of the hole to climb out, the whole time just burying myself more with the dirt. I haven't figured out how to pack that dirt down and make steps out of it to climb up out of that hole. Right now, I'm busting my butt trying to get out of that hole, but I just keep just burying myself more. Which, might, like Blackcat said (sort of) just might be making me all but insane!

I have tried a few things to better myself to get myself out of this area. I've tried getting part-time jobs. But something always happens to make me leave the job. The behavior of the manager and another employee was so horrible that they gave me an anxiety attack! So that one didn't work out. I worked at McDonald's and told the top manager that I would work every hour available other than my daycare hours. He let me work at multiple locations to give me as many hours as he could. Well, apparently I wasn't supposed to work at more than one location. So once the managers found out that I was working at other locations, they wouldn't even let me clock in! Instead of getting almost 40 hours per week, I was getting only 3 hours a week because the managers were mad that I was given 'special treatment'!:confused:

No matter what I do or don't do with my daycare, I make a parent mad. I've had a couple of parents lose jobs which made me lose income.

These aren't excuses. It's me trying every thing I can think of but no matter what I do, it backfires!

Maybe I am just too consumed with trying to figure this out. Maybe I need to just stop for a while. Many people say things like 'It will happen when you aren't trying'. Maybe I need to just sit back and stop trying so hard for a while. It's really gotten to the point that the main thing I think about is how can I get my finances in order to move to a better area. So maybe I just need to sit back, relax my mind and see what happens on its own.

After I got divorced I worked two jobs for 13 years! There were some years I had patched together three jobs. I was making a decent wage for my area at the family agency I worked at along with having a low morgage and an area with a fairly low cost of living. It was still a struggle! I did have one really great paying part-time job for about two years and that was wonderful.

I know how all-consuming it can be. It's exhausting!

So that shows how hard it is to dig out and that's what all your parents seem to be dealing with too. I don't know if any of this helps in any way.

I do think if there is a will there is a way. What I learned when I was single & had huge obstacles and problems to solve on my own and had thought of every possible solution and couldn't come up with a way out I'd let my thoughts settle a few days all of a sudden I'd see a totally different option that usually worked out!

Here's hoping to better days ahead!

[NillaWafers]

I've never really replied to one of your posts because it always seems like a giant cry for attention. You ask for advice but never follow it. You disparage poor people, which by the way, are paying your paychecks.

I think you need a giant come to Jesus talk.

This is your situation. If you are unhappy with it, change it. Do you think any business would be successful if you pandered to their complaints? If you sneered behind customers backs? No, that business would not be successful at all! Simply put, make rules and follow them. With everything. If you do not like that certain type of client don't accept them as your client. I know you will say, "But I cannot afford to lose them!". There is help out there, financial assitance ect - it has occurred to me that maybe you find the thought of accepting assistance belittling? If things are truly as dire as you say, there is help out there.

Everyone has hard lots in life. I would think you especially would be sympathetic to these people's plights. I just cannot wrap my head around how you can shake your head at them, and be in the same situation yourself!