Would You Tell the Parent?

[thrivingchildcarecom]

Yep! I definitely would! If not it will probably continue. Encourage the parents to talk to their child about being respectful of teachers and adults in general. That's whats wrong nowadays, nobody has any values or courtesy. I try to put it in a way that sounds more positive than negative. For instance, "We are trying to encourage Johnny to listen and follow direction." as opposed to, "We are trying to discourage Johnny from not listening." That usually works.

[Unregistered]

I would think dcf's would question your subs ability if you told them that. I would, as a dcp.

I would handle it in-house and prep your sister to handle it better next time.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would be more concerned with why the sub could not handle it themselves. Children smell fear and inexperience. Did the sub ask for your help?

Me, too.

Also, I KNOW it was annoying but I slightly smiled as well. This child loves you and is looking out for you. This child doesn't want anyone taking advantage of you or your home. THAT is sweet. After the first explanation that she is the teacher for the day while you are gone and you told her it is okay to do ___, the little one should've been told, "Play time! " repeatedly.

[ColorfulSunburst]

as a provider, I would let the kid know that it is not his business to manage my assistant.
I also would start asking an assistant's opinion about some situation and her permission of doing something. It is how I show my DD kids that my assistances could be in charge here too.
If a kid acts like it is written above it means that a provider must do something. The kid's parents can not do anything in such situation and I think it is not a good idea to involve them.

[Unregistered]

I would say the kid was protecting your stuff and trying to be helpful in letting the sub know what you allow and don't allow. As far as the kid knows this is just a stranger coming into your place and taking over. Younger kids especially don't know what a sub is or have alot of experience with one. I would praise the kid for trying to be helpful.

[Pestle]

I would handle it myself. "Thank you for caring so much about everyone doing things the right way. Miss Mildrid is an adult and she is in charge. You need to let her do things her own way."

And then I'd just reiterate, "Miss Mildrid is in charge. She will do what she needs to do." I can't physically force a child to stop speaking, so I won't demand something unenforceable like "You will stop telling her what to do," but I will say something like "I know you are trying to help, but you are not in charge." Repeat ad infinitum. She's three; it might not sink in for quite a while, but I imagine she'll get frustrated and embarrassed about it soon enough. Sorry you find it so annoying.

[DaveA]

I wouldn't tell DCPs. That sounds like something I could handle "in house" with DCK and the sub.

[sahm1225]

Me, too.

Also, I KNOW it was annoying but I slightly smiled as well. This child loves you and is looking out for you. This child doesn't want anyone taking advantage of you or your home. THAT is sweet. After the first explanation that she is the teacher for the day while you are gone and you told her it is okay to do ___, the little one should've been told, "Play time! " repeatedly.

This.

It's something I would handle in house.talk to the assistant and the child. The sub should have control of the group, if not it might be time to get another sub.