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  • Thriftylady
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 5884

    I Am So Mad!!!

    My nurse mom pretty much sets her own hours. She told me the other night she needed to be to work early, and she would bring the girls a little after 6. They got here around 8. Then last night she said the same thing. I told her "well I got up early for you this morning and you didn't come". She said she was sorry, that she didn't hear her phone. Now it is 7:30 her contracted time, and she still isn't here. I just need to figure out what I am going to say to her. I am thinking I am not going to get up early for her anymore, I just need a not snotty way to say it.
  • childcaremom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • May 2013
    • 2955

    #2
    Originally posted by Thriftylady
    My nurse mom pretty much sets her own hours. She told me the other night she needed to be to work early, and she would bring the girls a little after 6. They got here around 8. Then last night she said the same thing. I told her "well I got up early for you this morning and you didn't come". She said she was sorry, that she didn't hear her phone. Now it is 7:30 her contracted time, and she still isn't here. I just need to figure out what I am going to say to her. I am thinking I am not going to get up early for her anymore, I just need a not snotty way to say it.

    I've got nothing. Lots of snotty sayings, though, if you want some of those. ::

    In the future, I would charge for early drop offs, whether she uses them or not. That way you are still getting paid whether or not she shows but guaranteed she'll show up if she has to pay.

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    • Unregistered

      #3
      Originally posted by childcaremom
      I've got nothing. Lots of snotty sayings, though, if you want some of those. ::

      In the future, I would charge for early drop offs, whether she uses them or not. That way you are still getting paid whether or not she shows but guaranteed she'll show up if she has to pay.
      From experience: Make that PRE-PAY for early drop-offs. No refunds, no applying to "next time."

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      • Blackcat31
        • Oct 2010
        • 36124

        #4
        Originally posted by Unregistered
        From experience: Make that PRE-PAY for early drop-offs. No refunds, no applying to "next time."
        This. When you attach a fee it removes any emotions on your part. If you charge "extra" for early drop off and she doesn't show...I'd enjoy the quiet and my coffee on her PAID time.

        If you are being compensated for this special request you really have no reason to be mad other than the fact that people can be rude and disrespectful but I haven't figured out a fee for that yet....

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        • Mike
          starting daycare someday
          • Jan 2014
          • 2507

          #5
          Agreed
          Providers charge for late fees. Charge for early fees as well. If she doesn't show, oh well.
          Children are little angels, even when they are little devils.
          They are also our future.

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          • Thriftylady
            Daycare.com Member
            • Aug 2014
            • 5884

            #6
            Well now I am mad at DH! He says I shouldn't be that upset over it, that I am just mad about my sleep and I should just start a policy with her that she calls to wake me up when she is coming, since she always pays and all! He is missing the point! I feel she is being disrespectful and that upsets me as much as my sleep. It is not ten to 9, and she still isn't here. Technically I should have marked her kids absent by now, but she will come waddling in the door whenever she chooses. She does always pay, and never complains about my rates, or policies, but then she doesn't respect them very well either.

            I am going to consider the extra charge and consider just not doing "special" for her anymore. Both of which hubby thinks are wrong. I can't get over the fact that even if she paid extra, I would still be ticked. And there is no way I am adopting hubby's "call when you are on your way" policy idea. I can tell you I have learned a lesson here. I worked with her on stuff due to being a nurse and getting called in and such. But since she took this new position a few months ago, she makes her own schedule.

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            • Snowmom
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2015
              • 1689

              #7
              Annoying!
              I think a lot of spouses think the same way many parents do: that we work for them and not ourselves.
              My husband used to say insensitive things in the beginning... like "don't charge them for that, they'll leave".
              My response was always "good, they're replaceable and so are you".
              Of course it was meant to be funny... but not really.

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              • childcaremom
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • May 2013
                • 2955

                #8
                Originally posted by Snowmom
                Annoying!
                I think a lot of spouses think the same way many parents do: that we work for them and not ourselves.
                My husband used to say insensitive things in the beginning... like "don't charge them for that, they'll leave".
                My response was always "good, they're replaceable and so are you".
                Of course it was meant to be funny... but not really.
                :: I'm saving this for my dh for next time.

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                • Annalee
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Jul 2012
                  • 5864

                  #9
                  Originally posted by childcaremom
                  :: I'm saving this for my dh for next time.
                  My DH has ABSOLUTELY NO part in my daycare! and I like it that way! ::

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                  • Unregistered

                    #10
                    My DH has had to sub for me in the past. I had a very bad flu and woke up puking my guts out at 4:00 am. It was too late to call off daycare. So he took a day off and subbed for me. Since then, he has the upmost sympathy for me and my job

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                    • childcaremom
                      Advanced Daycare.com Member
                      • May 2013
                      • 2955

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Annalee
                      My DH has ABSOLUTELY NO part in my daycare! and I like it that way! ::
                      My dh's a fixer. So my vents, which I see as a release, he sees as an invitation to 'fix' something. He does have some good advice sometimes but other times... well, I really like that line. ::

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                      • Unregistered

                        #12
                        As for the dcm...if she can make her own hours, then she can make them at respectable times. YOUtell HER when to come. It shouldn't be a problem.

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                        • Thriftylady
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Aug 2014
                          • 5884

                          #13
                          So at 10 Am, I hadn't heard from her so I sent her a text that since I hadn't heard from her, that I was assuming they weren't coming and marking them absent. They were the only ones to come today. I went to mow the lawn. Came back to a text that she woke up sick and was going to the doctor, but didn't have her number in her new phone. So not my fault!!!! She said she tried to contact me via FB. My business facebook page has my number all over it AND a call now button! I haven't checked it yet, but the way I see it that gives her less of an excuse. I am still deciding how I want to handle this for next time, because there will be a next time, probably next week.

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                          • childcaremom
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • May 2013
                            • 2955

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Thriftylady
                            So at 10 Am, I hadn't heard from her so I sent her a text that since I hadn't heard from her, that I was assuming they weren't coming and marking them absent. They were the only ones to come today. I went to mow the lawn. Came back to a text that she woke up sick and was going to the doctor, but didn't have her number in her new phone. So not my fault!!!! She said she tried to contact me via FB. My business facebook page has my number all over it AND a call now button! I haven't checked it yet, but the way I see it that gives her less of an excuse. I am still deciding how I want to handle this for next time, because there will be a next time, probably next week.
                            I wouldn't offer her that option anymore. "I'm sorry. That doesn't work for me."

                            OR

                            As suggested above: Prepay in advance only in cash. No, I'm sorry, you can't bring it at drop off. No rescheduling. No refunds.

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                            • JackandJill
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Mar 2016
                              • 416

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Thriftylady
                              So at 10 Am, I hadn't heard from her so I sent her a text that since I hadn't heard from her, that I was assuming they weren't coming and marking them absent. They were the only ones to come today. I went to mow the lawn. Came back to a text that she woke up sick and was going to the doctor, but didn't have her number in her new phone. So not my fault!!!! She said she tried to contact me via FB. My business facebook page has my number all over it AND a call now button! I haven't checked it yet, but the way I see it that gives her less of an excuse. I am still deciding how I want to handle this for next time, because there will be a next time, probably next week.
                              The only two options I see are a prepay method as other have mentioned or just don't allow it. If it were me, I would do the prepay option, and if she doesn't show enjoy the paid free time (but I am an early bird!!).

                              But it seems like this is more about respect than it is about the money. Perhaps you could talk with mom that if it happens again you will no longer open early for her. Doesn't matter if she does it next week or next year. One more strike and she is out

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