My Own Child Is the Problem

[woods]

My son is almost 7. One of my dck is also 7 and they get along great. When they are together they tease the little kids and sometimes get rough with them. I'm constantly telling them to leave the 2 year olds alone. The kid they pick on the most is the other 7 years olds 2 year old brother. I've tried separating them from the little kids, time outs, sitting on the couch till pick up. Nothing works. I'm thinking about making my own son stay in his room or play alone during daycare hours but he would be so bored. What do I do? Need advice. If I could kick my own kid out of daycare I would.

[Mike]

I've heard of a few cases where a provider actually sent their own kid to a different provider. I'd think 7 is old enough to understand to some degree, so I'd try having a serious talk with him in the evening about the seriousness of how he's behaving and let him know you need his help keeping things under control. Often, just being able to help can make a child change his ways.

[woods]

I've though about sending him to another provider but the only reason I decided to open my own daycare is to be home with my kids. I will try talking to him tonight.

[e.j.]

'm thinking about making my own son stay in his room or play alone during daycare hours but he would be so bored.

Would boredom be a motivator for him to behave? If so, I'd go with that idea and see what happens. 7 is definitely old enough to understand and behave. I agree with Mike; I would have a serious conversation with him, I would lay out the consequences of misbehavior and then follow through with those consequences if he doesn't listen.

I once asked my own kids when they were younger, "Why do you wait until I'm angry before you do what I ask you to do?" My son responded, "Because then we know you mean it." From that moment on, I made sure they knew I meant it when I asked them to either do something or stop doing something. The change in their behavior was amazing.

[Thriftylady]

I agree, if the boredom would cure it, do it! Find what you think will work, have the talk, but be sure to follow though. If you say it and don't do it, well you have made yourself a joke. Maybe also you can give a special privilege or treat if he makes it all week behaving. Maybe an extra hour of TV this weekend, or going out for ice cream. But YOU choose the consequences and rewards.

[AmyKidsCo]

BTDT!!

One thing that helped with my boys was to give them special privileges the dck didn't get. They could play alone in their rooms with their own toys or in the basement playroom whenever they wanted. They could go to friends' houses during the day or play in the backyard by themselves. I used to have a Diet Coke every afternoon during nap time and would share it with them.

I tried to be considerate about it and not flaunt the privileges in front of the dck but if they did ask I just said "This is Zach/Isaiah's house so he has special things just like you have special things at your house."

And if the special privileges didn't work I'd threaten them (my boys, not the dck) with loss of TV, video games, Grandma Day, whatever would do the trick.

[woods]

I had a long talk with him last night. We will see how it goes today. When it's just my son with the dcks he is fine gets along with them all but when I have the other 7 year old dck it's a nightmare. It like they are showing off for eachother or something. I also talked with the 7 year old dcb today and told him if they are not nice to the other kid the. My son will be spending the rest of the day in his room and dcb will be alone with all the toddlers. Keeping my figures crossed.

[laundrymom]

I would reevaluate keeping the other boy. If your son is fine when he's gone, why make him stay in his room and the other boy be allowed to participate?
Maybe chat w parents about it and let them know their snowflake is on probation for being aggressive to littles.
if they're feeding off each other then maybe one needs to be removed. It's your sons home, so I'd reevaluate the other boys behavior and participation.
Good luck. It's no
Fun decision either way. And what works for one won't work for all.