Potty Training...Here We Go Again!

[Dilley Beans]

I have a mom who thinks her son should come in underwear because of course he has no accidents at home. Even goes poop on the porty. That's not the issue he comes in pull ups.

The problem is he will poop in his pull up within 10 minutes of being here, unless I make him sit on the potty immediately or in close intervals to try and get him on there at the right time, then he won't poop all day or will in his sleep/post nap while waking. I have tried bribing with candy like mom did. Normal and even hyper praise and positivity just isn't working. He won't stop playing to go potty only goes when I tell him t go and grumbles or cries when has to sit on the potty.

How can a child be SO completely potty trained at home and almost no progress at care? And more importantly, what do I do?

[Blackcat31]

I have a mom who thinks her son should come in underwear because of course he has no accidents at home. Even goes poop on the porty. That's not the issue he comes in pull ups.

The problem is he will poop in his pull up within 10 minutes of being here, unless I make him sit on the potty immediately or in close intervals to try and get him on there at the right time, then he won't poop all day or will in his sleep/post nap while waking. I have tried bribing with candy like mom did. Normal and even hyper praise and positivity just isn't working. He won't stop playing to go potty only goes when I tell him t go and grumbles or cries when has to sit on the potty.

How can a child be SO completely potty trained at home and almost no progress at care? And more importantly, what do I do?

It's actually pretty common for kids to be completely trained at home and not be trained in care. They are two totally different environments so...

I'd jut point blank tell mom he needs to be in diapers (if you do not like the pull ups) or Pull ups until HE can demonstrate his ability to control his toileting needs AT daycare.

NOT with timed instruction to go....that is not trained.

I do reassure mom's that we do have timed breaks during the day to use the bathroom but I wont set a timer and remind someone all day long.

If she is not agreeable to that then her only other option is to pay you to hire an assistant that can remind her child all day long (you do not have time to do individual schedules as a GROUP care provider) and she will need to give you $300 deposit for carpet cleaning. Which she should have NO qualms about doing because if her child is completely trained like she says, he won't be soiling your carpet...

[JackandJill]

I am in the same spot right now! Having a conference with dcm today to revisit what the expectations are for potty training in care.

I plan to be upfront with mom about what I am able to do for training here at care, and what I am unable to accommodate, as well as my expectations for this little kiddo. My advice is to let mom know what you can and can't do in a group setting. It will save you a lot of stress

I agree with BC, these are two entirely different setting. Daycare has so many more distractions than at home. It isn't a good or bad thing that he isn't trained in care, it's just different, and you can only offer to do so much! Good luck

[Snowmom]

Everything above plus... have a pre-printed letter/handout available to give to families who challenge you on your policies.
It should reiterate what your policies are (including the signs of PT readiness) and what you expect from families.