Advice

[jokalima]

Yeah! When she first told me I did not think much about it, maybe because we were in the middle of the conversation. But as soon as she left I kept thinking about why, why they would refuse it? I mean, she told me her husband could not deal with it but still, why?

The more I think about it, the more I am convinced that I cannot care for him. I will give him this week and see if he has any progress (doubt it) and be honest with her about everything. I hate being in this situations.

[Thriftylady]

Yeah! When she first told me I did not think much about it, maybe because we were in the middle of the conversation. But as soon as she left I kept thinking about why, why they would refuse it? I mean, she told me her husband could not deal with it but still, why?

The more I think about it, the more I am convinced that I cannot care for him. I will give him this week and see if he has any progress (doubt it) and be honest with her about everything. I hate being in this situations.

Don't feel any guilt. YOU did not cause this situation SHE did. It could have all been avoided if she had been totally honest from the first phone call. She lied to you from the start about age, and then withheld important info from you. That alone would be enough for me to term. If she will lie about age, she will lie about lots of things.

[Ariana]

Yeah! When she first told me I did not think much about it, maybe because we were in the middle of the conversation. But as soon as she left I kept thinking about why, why they would refuse it? I mean, she told me her husband could not deal with it but still, why?

The more I think about it, the more I am convinced that I cannot care for him. I will give him this week and see if he has any progress (doubt it) and be honest with her about everything. I hate being in this situations.

It is easy for the dad to be in denial when others are caring for his son. Maybe if he was caring for his son every day he would realize quickly that he needed help. He won't be able to stay in the dark for too long regarding his child. Hopefully he comes around sooner rather than later. I have experienced a few parents in denial and in the end I had to end care. These children deserve better but I was not in a position of power to get them the help they needed. Standing idly by watching children who need resources go without is just too damn painful for me.

[AmyKidsCo]

I would term based on not a good fit. Period.
I would not elaborate or expand.
They (parents) already know why.

ITA.

Plus, if you say anything about his not getting services you could be accused of illegal discrimination.